Tell Me Your Thoughts On Hookup Sites/Apps & Finding Sex

[SomewhereonNeptune]

4 hours ago, ellentonboy said:

This is happening in the US as well, on Adam4adam.  I had a guy who sent photos to me, of his bunk and military quarters, and in his uniform.  They are always overseas and will be back in a year - to get you to tag along.  They say they are looking for love and relationships - I quickly shut them down and tell them I am only interested in the sex.  Funny thing, the guy who was sending me the pics of his "military quarters" while in uniform, had an active Manhunt account maybe 10 miles from my home.  I messaged him and told him I recognized him, and what was the purpose of him pretending to be overseas?  He immediately blocked me.  

Sadly, I have heard of men in their 40s, 50s and 60s telling me they are in some kind of a long distance, internet relationship with a young hot guy who is stationed overseas.  When I asked to see the pics and profile, on at least once occasion the pics matched the guy I had been talking to.  Though he didn't want to hear it, I told him of my experiences and that the guy was a fraud.

I just wish people would come to the realization that these apps and online sites are not meant to find Prince Charming,  more like Prince for the Night.   Though I do know of couples that have met each other online and are still in relationships, those couples are few and far between.  Let's get it clear here, people are not looking for love, they are looking for sex (and maybe money).  The sooner we all admit to that, the better off we will be.

Hello my dear, I am a Nigerian Prince who is lonely and wants to meet someone for a long-term romantic relationship and to be my husband. 🤣🤣🤣

I've actually felt pretty checked out on Adam4Adam because the contacts that I get are generally the sort that are very verbose, ignore any sexual questions about them and (allegedly) want "a long-term romantic relationship that leads to marriage." On a hookup site?!? Really?? That's pretty sus if you ask me, so they get blocked or ignored. The other thing about A4A that gets annoying is that as much as you say No Pic=No Chat, you'll get a dude with a fairly blank profile and no pic.

WTF? To send a smile, you need to read the profile, so I figure they're also bloody stupid or we aren't operating on the same side of the IQ bell-curve to put it nicely. At least on BBRT you get a more serious crowd who wants to fuck and isn't totally flakey for the most part. The owner might be a tool but I'm not there to fuck him. 

[SomewhereonNeptune]

On 3/19/2025 at 5:56 AM, phillygwm said:

I miss having a bookstore or movie theater nearby.  Not that I was always successful there but my batting average was much better.

It's been a little over 6 years since I was in Philly, and the usual 13th Street district had changed completely to Millennial coffee shops that charge $9 for a cappuccino. Has the rest of Philly lost all of the good parts that it was known and loved for?

[NWUSHorny]

2 hours ago, SomewhereonNeptune said:

 I've actually felt pretty checked out on Adam4Adam because the contacts that I get are generally the sort that are very verbose, ignore any sexual questions about them and (allegedly) want "a long-term romantic relationship that leads to marriage." On a hookup site?!? Really?? That's pretty sus if you ask me, so they get blocked or ignored. The other thing about A4A that gets annoying is that as much as you say No Pic=No Chat, you'll get a dude with a fairly blank profile and no pic.

I thought A4A was Christian Mingle for gays. Here in Portland no one even dares to put any sexual likes or details, or suggestive pics on their profiles. It is almost exclusively guys looking to find heteronormative husband for a partner. The other app that locals have completely eliminated everything sexual from is Doublelist, it seems to be exclusively used to find buddies to hang out and party with, but only if you are willing to agree to not have sex in advance. 

[phillygwm]

4 hours ago, SomewhereonNeptune said:

It's been a little over 6 years since I was in Philly, and the usual 13th Street district had changed completely to Millennial coffee shops that charge $9 for a cappuccino. Has the rest of Philly lost all of the good parts that it was known and loved for?

There's a bookstore in NE Philly (Fantasy Island, made famous for being next door to the Rudy Giuliani presser at Four Seasons Landscaping.)  I used to go there when I lived nearby.  And I think there are one or two in SW Philly.  But the 2 on 13th St. are long gone, as is the Adonis on Sansom.  The bathhouse is still in the Gayborhood but I've never been in there.

[SomewhereonNeptune]

2 hours ago, phillygwm said:

There's a bookstore in NE Philly (Fantasy Island, made famous for being next door to the Rudy Giuliani presser at Four Seasons Landscaping.)  I used to go there when I lived nearby.  And I think there are one or two in SW Philly.  But the 2 on 13th St. are long gone, as is the Adonis on Sansom.  The bathhouse is still in the Gayborhood but I've never been in there.

Noooooo!!! Say it isn't so! The Adonis is gone? Fuck, I've had so many good times there, loved the dark room and the cruisy nature of the place. Damn! Has anything else emerged to take its place, or are they trying to Disneyfy Center City and sanitizing it like they did Times Square.

I recall the two in SW Philly, plus the places along Route 13 in Bristol and Levittown outside the city. No dark room, but they'd leave you alone to do what you wanted. 

[SomewhereonNeptune]

5 hours ago, NWUSHorny said:

I thought A4A was Christian Mingle for gays. Here in Portland no one even dares to put any sexual likes or details, or suggestive pics on their profiles. It is almost exclusively guys looking to find heteronormative husband for a partner. The other app that locals have completely eliminated everything sexual from is Doublelist, it seems to be exclusively used to find buddies to hang out and party with, but only if you are willing to agree to not have sex in advance. 

A4A being Christian Mingle for gays? Really??? I figured that Portland would have a much more progressive stance on that sort of stuff. Here -- at least in Florida but also in other parts of the East Coast -- it's a hookup site, and not necessarily a great one for guys who actually want to get out from behind the keyboard. Your mileage may vary. 

Now that you put it that way though, I can see your point.

For parTy stuff back here, it seems to be more NastyKinkPigs. Doublelist reminds me a lot of Craigslist, not always in a good way. Lots of ad bait postings for 3rd party sites, but I guess they need to make money somehow.

[Olderkinkybiguy]

Because of my location, most of the apps don’t work, so have given up on them. I do have a profile on BBRT, but never anyone comparable in my area. When I check out the geographic location, typically the nearest profile is about 60 miles away. Typically any interesting possibility is over 10 miles away, so not really helpful. 
 

when I used to travel to the Tampa Bay Area, I had much better luck with Grinder, AGA, and BBRT. I could usually find a raw bottom within a 15 minute drive or so. I love BZ because I feel I can relate so well to so many and it’s not a hookup sight like the others, so no disappointment or frustration. But I still miss the days of hooking up and breeding a nice hole. 
 

There are no crushing areas in my area either. No bars, clubs, adult book/video, etc. and since I am older, it has become increasingly difficult to find someone willing to take my old undetectable load. Oklahoma City and the DFW are the nearest places with any possible establishments, but they are both a couple hours drive. 
 

In my case, like others have posted, most people who seem interested have been scammers, so I have basically given up on any app from my location. 

[ejaculaTe]

On 3/21/2025 at 9:27 AM, ellentonboy said:

these apps and online sites are not meant to find Prince Charming,  more like Prince for the Night

Many times "Frog for an Hour" turns out to be the better description of the man and the encounter.

[Norcalfukkr]

I keep going to sniffles as the fastest and most convenient hookup app. It’s full of flakes, but compared to other apps or websites it’s the most used around my area of Cali. Grindr sucks, full of scammers. I stopped a4a and bbrt a long time ago. Just not used around here and anyone that does use it are flakes and not serious at all. 

[phillygwm]

On 3/21/2025 at 9:45 PM, SomewhereonNeptune said:

Noooooo!!! Say it isn't so! The Adonis is gone? Fuck, I've had so many good times there, loved the dark room and the cruisy nature of the place. Damn! Has anything else emerged to take its place, or are they trying to Disneyfy Center City and sanitizing it like they did Times Square.

I recall the two in SW Philly, plus the places along Route 13 in Bristol and Levittown outside the city. No dark room, but they'd leave you alone to do what you wanted. 

Yeah, I used to enjoy Adonis but hadn't been there in years.  They're building apartments on every desirable lot so the owner probably got an offer he couldn't refuse.  I can't imagine they were making much $$ there. 

Fantasy Island was hit or (usually) miss.  There are also a couple places in South Jersey (Red Barn on 130 and Berlin News Agency on 73).  Haven't been to BNA in many years.  Stopped in RB about a year ago but it was an off-peak time so wasn't busy.  There's also one in Montgomeryville which I haven't been to in probably 20 years.  

I've gone from the young guy who complained about all the old men to one of the old men myself 🙂