Tell Me Your Thoughts On Hookup Sites/Apps & Finding Sex

[SomewhereonNeptune]

4 hours ago, ellentonboy said:

This is happening in the US as well, on Adam4adam.  I had a guy who sent photos to me, of his bunk and military quarters, and in his uniform.  They are always overseas and will be back in a year - to get you to tag along.  They say they are looking for love and relationships - I quickly shut them down and tell them I am only interested in the sex.  Funny thing, the guy who was sending me the pics of his "military quarters" while in uniform, had an active Manhunt account maybe 10 miles from my home.  I messaged him and told him I recognized him, and what was the purpose of him pretending to be overseas?  He immediately blocked me.  

Sadly, I have heard of men in their 40s, 50s and 60s telling me they are in some kind of a long distance, internet relationship with a young hot guy who is stationed overseas.  When I asked to see the pics and profile, on at least once occasion the pics matched the guy I had been talking to.  Though he didn't want to hear it, I told him of my experiences and that the guy was a fraud.

I just wish people would come to the realization that these apps and online sites are not meant to find Prince Charming,  more like Prince for the Night.   Though I do know of couples that have met each other online and are still in relationships, those couples are few and far between.  Let's get it clear here, people are not looking for love, they are looking for sex (and maybe money).  The sooner we all admit to that, the better off we will be.

Hello my dear, I am a Nigerian Prince who is lonely and wants to meet someone for a long-term romantic relationship and to be my husband. 🤣🤣🤣

I've actually felt pretty checked out on Adam4Adam because the contacts that I get are generally the sort that are very verbose, ignore any sexual questions about them and (allegedly) want "a long-term romantic relationship that leads to marriage." On a hookup site?!? Really?? That's pretty sus if you ask me, so they get blocked or ignored. The other thing about A4A that gets annoying is that as much as you say No Pic=No Chat, you'll get a dude with a fairly blank profile and no pic.

WTF? To send a smile, you need to read the profile, so I figure they're also bloody stupid or we aren't operating on the same side of the IQ bell-curve to put it nicely. At least on BBRT you get a more serious crowd who wants to fuck and isn't totally flakey for the most part. The owner might be a tool but I'm not there to fuck him. 

[SomewhereonNeptune]

On 3/19/2025 at 5:56 AM, phillygwm said:

I miss having a bookstore or movie theater nearby.  Not that I was always successful there but my batting average was much better.

It's been a little over 6 years since I was in Philly, and the usual 13th Street district had changed completely to Millennial coffee shops that charge $9 for a cappuccino. Has the rest of Philly lost all of the good parts that it was known and loved for?

[NWUSHorny]

2 hours ago, SomewhereonNeptune said:

 I've actually felt pretty checked out on Adam4Adam because the contacts that I get are generally the sort that are very verbose, ignore any sexual questions about them and (allegedly) want "a long-term romantic relationship that leads to marriage." On a hookup site?!? Really?? That's pretty sus if you ask me, so they get blocked or ignored. The other thing about A4A that gets annoying is that as much as you say No Pic=No Chat, you'll get a dude with a fairly blank profile and no pic.

I thought A4A was Christian Mingle for gays. Here in Portland no one even dares to put any sexual likes or details, or suggestive pics on their profiles. It is almost exclusively guys looking to find heteronormative husband for a partner. The other app that locals have completely eliminated everything sexual from is Doublelist, it seems to be exclusively used to find buddies to hang out and party with, but only if you are willing to agree to not have sex in advance. 

[phillygwm]

4 hours ago, SomewhereonNeptune said:

It's been a little over 6 years since I was in Philly, and the usual 13th Street district had changed completely to Millennial coffee shops that charge $9 for a cappuccino. Has the rest of Philly lost all of the good parts that it was known and loved for?

There's a bookstore in NE Philly (Fantasy Island, made famous for being next door to the Rudy Giuliani presser at Four Seasons Landscaping.)  I used to go there when I lived nearby.  And I think there are one or two in SW Philly.  But the 2 on 13th St. are long gone, as is the Adonis on Sansom.  The bathhouse is still in the Gayborhood but I've never been in there.

[SomewhereonNeptune]

2 hours ago, phillygwm said:

There's a bookstore in NE Philly (Fantasy Island, made famous for being next door to the Rudy Giuliani presser at Four Seasons Landscaping.)  I used to go there when I lived nearby.  And I think there are one or two in SW Philly.  But the 2 on 13th St. are long gone, as is the Adonis on Sansom.  The bathhouse is still in the Gayborhood but I've never been in there.

Noooooo!!! Say it isn't so! The Adonis is gone? Fuck, I've had so many good times there, loved the dark room and the cruisy nature of the place. Damn! Has anything else emerged to take its place, or are they trying to Disneyfy Center City and sanitizing it like they did Times Square.

I recall the two in SW Philly, plus the places along Route 13 in Bristol and Levittown outside the city. No dark room, but they'd leave you alone to do what you wanted. 

[SomewhereonNeptune]

5 hours ago, NWUSHorny said:

I thought A4A was Christian Mingle for gays. Here in Portland no one even dares to put any sexual likes or details, or suggestive pics on their profiles. It is almost exclusively guys looking to find heteronormative husband for a partner. The other app that locals have completely eliminated everything sexual from is Doublelist, it seems to be exclusively used to find buddies to hang out and party with, but only if you are willing to agree to not have sex in advance. 

A4A being Christian Mingle for gays? Really??? I figured that Portland would have a much more progressive stance on that sort of stuff. Here -- at least in Florida but also in other parts of the East Coast -- it's a hookup site, and not necessarily a great one for guys who actually want to get out from behind the keyboard. Your mileage may vary. 

Now that you put it that way though, I can see your point.

For parTy stuff back here, it seems to be more NastyKinkPigs. Doublelist reminds me a lot of Craigslist, not always in a good way. Lots of ad bait postings for 3rd party sites, but I guess they need to make money somehow.

[Olderkinkybiguy]

Because of my location, most of the apps don’t work, so have given up on them. I do have a profile on BBRT, but never anyone comparable in my area. When I check out the geographic location, typically the nearest profile is about 60 miles away. Typically any interesting possibility is over 10 miles away, so not really helpful. 
 

when I used to travel to the Tampa Bay Area, I had much better luck with Grinder, AGA, and BBRT. I could usually find a raw bottom within a 15 minute drive or so. I love BZ because I feel I can relate so well to so many and it’s not a hookup sight like the others, so no disappointment or frustration. But I still miss the days of hooking up and breeding a nice hole. 
 

There are no crushing areas in my area either. No bars, clubs, adult book/video, etc. and since I am older, it has become increasingly difficult to find someone willing to take my old undetectable load. Oklahoma City and the DFW are the nearest places with any possible establishments, but they are both a couple hours drive. 
 

In my case, like others have posted, most people who seem interested have been scammers, so I have basically given up on any app from my location. 

[ejaculaTe]

On 3/21/2025 at 9:27 AM, ellentonboy said:

these apps and online sites are not meant to find Prince Charming,  more like Prince for the Night

Many times "Frog for an Hour" turns out to be the better description of the man and the encounter.

[Norcalfukkr]

I keep going to sniffles as the fastest and most convenient hookup app. It’s full of flakes, but compared to other apps or websites it’s the most used around my area of Cali. Grindr sucks, full of scammers. I stopped a4a and bbrt a long time ago. Just not used around here and anyone that does use it are flakes and not serious at all. 

[phillygwm]

On 3/21/2025 at 9:45 PM, SomewhereonNeptune said:

Noooooo!!! Say it isn't so! The Adonis is gone? Fuck, I've had so many good times there, loved the dark room and the cruisy nature of the place. Damn! Has anything else emerged to take its place, or are they trying to Disneyfy Center City and sanitizing it like they did Times Square.

I recall the two in SW Philly, plus the places along Route 13 in Bristol and Levittown outside the city. No dark room, but they'd leave you alone to do what you wanted. 

Yeah, I used to enjoy Adonis but hadn't been there in years.  They're building apartments on every desirable lot so the owner probably got an offer he couldn't refuse.  I can't imagine they were making much $$ there. 

Fantasy Island was hit or (usually) miss.  There are also a couple places in South Jersey (Red Barn on 130 and Berlin News Agency on 73).  Haven't been to BNA in many years.  Stopped in RB about a year ago but it was an off-peak time so wasn't busy.  There's also one in Montgomeryville which I haven't been to in probably 20 years.  

I've gone from the young guy who complained about all the old men to one of the old men myself 🙂

 

[JesseAaron1385]

After reading through this post and the comments, I feel very validated when it comes to my thoughts concerning the various apps and websites. There are some very excellent points, concerns, and ideas about everything and I had a good time working on this list and seeing what I have missed in my searches. I wish I could copy and paste everything I liked from all the posts into one big combined guide covering everything associated with them. I think I’m going to make a running list of ideas, links, information, etc in one big document called “My Big Gay List of Links” and use it to create a history of my explorations and finds. Eventually, I'll reorganize this list (and future additions will be inserted and categorized appropriately) to make it more user friendly, searchable, and less chaotic. Obviously you can tell I have a lot of free time and am willing to invest it in needless research rabbit holes where I find all possible information imaginable, every link of interest that could possibly be useful or related, and the alternatives available to satisfy my curiosity.  

To those who suggest IRL meetings and places, I commiserate. I miss the days of going to the bar and going home with someone or meeting at the bathhouse for a quick link but in today's world you have to have an online presence or you're limiting yourself. I live in a particularly secluded/rural region and if I didn't cast a wide net and explore online options I would never meet anyone much less get to be specific about who I want to meet. I know many don't like to go out anymore and some get anxiety when it comes to meeting new people and apps provide an alternative to those social settings and situations that still allows you to feel connected to the world. In addition, you have endless options since your only limits are what you make them so don't have to settle for anything you don't want. When you live in a secluded or rural area beggars can't be choosers when it comes to meeting and finding new people.

Anyways....I've been searching for a connection, hookup, boyfriend, best friend, anyone really for a long time and have come across a variety of different online options such as: websites, social medias, dating apps, forums, kink, fetish, and sex websites would be happy to share my thoughts and findings on them all. 

But first there are some things to consider before searching and downloading an app or joining a site. What is your goal? Do you have any specific types of guys you'd like to meet? Are you looking to date only? What are you open to? What are you willing to do? Are you looking to hook up? Are you a nerd? Are you a jock? Will you invest the time in a profile? Interact with people and make friends? What level of commitment do you want? Do you want a relationship or hookup? FWB? Jerking buddy? Some head? A long-term Pen pal or online exchange to broaden your friend base?There are a million different directions to take and things to consider when deciding exactly what it is your looking/available for. The different answers to these questions, your variety of personal preferences, and specificity of your interests will all influence where you will want to start your search.

Next research your target audience and know what you are looking for and cater your profile/information/hunt to your specific desires. A good profile is always key in getting people attention so take the time to make sure it conveys what you’re looking for. There are plenty of articles and sites concerning making the best profile you can and I advise reading over them in order to up your game. I have been searching for how to find guys to meet that aren't those two specific apps you know the ones)  lately and have found a ton. I'm actually super excited to share right now. 

Warning: Always beware of ages!

APPS

Grindr - disappointed with this app. too expensive and there's no real way to make a connection with anyone.

Sniffies - guys are even more sketchy here than Grindr. I've yet to have any of the proposed scenarios from the site to happen.

If you would like more info on either app and the options available and what it has to offer, I can come back and add in information later. I want to be fair and just to the actual creation and content of the apps but I still want to have my personal opinion rant for the time being.

Personal opinion rant. This is my opinion, which I will admit is probably a little jaded at the moment but I believe there is almost no way you will find someone to truly date and connect with in either of these apps. They are not going to be of the mind set and not thinking about anything more than a  hookup or quick nut in most cases. Some guys play games, others collect pics, some want to be a tease or use it as jerk material and most of them end up ghosting or canceling. I rarely have success on these two apps any more and I find the culture of these two has become very elitist and toxic. Don't try to keep up with or put any faith in either of these apps for anything.  Gays have a severe case of fomo and these two apps are the perfect example.  You guys are better than this and if you're already searching for what other options there are, you're on the right path.. Go for Quality. You can also go for quantity if you want, that's cool too but never compromise on your standards or morals in order to follow the masses. You are worth everything you think you are and I personally feel that Grindr and Sniffies will erode your soul and mental health with extended use.

Recon - Kink app/site where you can explore your specific interests and try to find a match for your sexual proclivities. Post pics and cruise other kinksters looking for someone to play with. Members are generally pleasant, but quite serious about their kinks. So proceed slowly and be open and honest. Don’t make fun of anyone or kink shame.  If you aren’t interested save everyone's time by just keeping your mouth shut or a simple honest “No, Thanks.” Don’t judge anyone based on what you might see on this site. Some of these guys are truly invested in living the lifestyle and are able to. So Props to them for being happy and rocking their kinky side. Always get cruises and have interested parties but have never actually managed to connect with anyone from the app. Great for people that are deeper into the Kink and Fetish world.

Discord - I have only explored a little but I feel it has GREAT potential when mastered. It’s kind of confusing and can be daunting to try and learn but I think it has a lot of possibilities. From what I understand you join a server (which you have either found online somehow or received an invitation from someone.) Once joined you have access to all the content that the creator and members feel like sharing. There are audio and video channels as well as chat groups, information and media exchange, and private chats. This site leans toward coding and those with a higher level of computer knowledge than most so take your time if you decide to explore it. 

* Don’t judge me but I decided to post a copy and Past of the Google AI description about what discord is.

"Discord is a social platform that allows users to communicate through text, voice, and video calls. It can be used for a variety of purposes, including gaming, building communities, and running events. 

Chatting 
Text channels: Users can chat in written form, share jokes and memes, and ask and answer questions
Voice channels: Users can talk to each other in groups over voice and video
Video chat: Servers can host group video calls of up to 25 people
Gaming Run Discord while in-game and Stream your game to your friends. 
Building communities Welcome new members to the server, Build a community of supporters, and Connect with people with similar interests. 
Running events Host podcasts, Run events, Group studying, and Educational purposes. 
Chatting with friends
Sharing gifs, screenshots, and memes"

Growlr  - friendly guys haven't done more than make a profile. Got propositioned to pay for sex on this app so not currently very interested in using. Simplistic design, plain, bleached out unpolished look. Has lots of reactions which is interesting but app itself doesn’t seem to be very active. I have gotten a few other messages but they all trailed off after a short period.

Reddit (Both an app and a website with various features available in each)- has alt/multiple profiles option for easy swapping between accounts. People often have a SFW and NSFW account to explore the various communities anonymously or publicly. Through the various communities you can find a variety of porn in an unlimited amount of genres such as amateur, model, OF, redgifs, Chaturbate, as well as real guys searching for everything from dick pics and chat buddies to role play and more involved relationships both sexual and non. Questions about life, dating, hookups, personals, like-minded bros, XXX options, news, hobbies, culture, how to’s, product reviews and on. The options are really quite endless. The chat feature is a great thing and once you learn the app it has great potential for connecting those of our generation. (I was a late bloomer to Reddit so forgive me if most of you already know about the site/app and are probably more versed in it than I am. It was an exciting find!)

Tumblr - I have only explored the porn aspect of this app but plan to explore more in the future. You find tags that you want to follow and it locates various media posts people have made that have been tagged with your interests. It’s mostly pictures of models so far, but there is some various community representation to explore. I’d like to find more personal, self-made, amateur, non-professional, non-content maker media if possible but I’m not sure how much more I want to invest in an app that might be on a downhill slope? I scroll in my free time when I’ve checked everything else and need something new to focus on. 

Instagram - Generation after us seems to have this one mastered. I rarely use instagram and never got behind the mad rush to join so I don’t know what its possibilities and potential are. I know people can “slide into your DMs” but other than following people who popped up in my address book I haven't even used the app.  I always figured it was more of a popularity/bragging contest more than anything else but it is probably way more than that. I’ll invest time on this one in the future maybe.

Jack'd - only made a profile. Seems to be a favorite of “brothas” (i hope that isn’t racist or derogatory in anyway 😕and it is not my intention to sound that way, just a simple descriptive statement of fact.) Mixture of grid based location like Grindr and swiping app like Tinder. Not overly creative or groundbreaking in any way.

Hornet - only made a profile Seems kind of like a mix between social media and dating app. It places an emphasis on the feed like Facebook. No grid or real location based interface but does have a nearby option. Overall seems less like a hookup/dating app and more like someplace you want to collect followers.

Romeo - Grid based location app that uses cruises as their form of “tap.” Has a travel feature to explore other areas prior to travel. Chat feature included in app. Otherwise unremarkable without a large user count. 

Bumble - have a profile, don't scroll often. Very similar to Tinder from what I remember? I could explore it more I guess, I have heard good things about it when used for actual dating. I’m not really at that phase in my life at the moment so I haven’t really explored it. Will revisit at a later date.

Hinge - great format wish it was more popular but sadly I don't use it often. Its pretty flowy in its setup with a classy design and has nice lines and colors (or lack of 🙂). Has a great way of getting the user to talk about themselves or think about something unique to tell those that view their profile. I felt this app was more oriented towards dating, FWB, or relationships but there are those on there looking for short term fun. Would love to shift my focus to an app like this but same as with Bumble, just not really in that phase of my life right now.

Tinder - never did get into the Tinder craze but it is what it is. You know what that is and how to use it, so do it to it! Swipe left or right. I always thought Tinder was more for dating than hooking up so I never really invested the time in it.  I should expand my horizons and put it through a 2 week trial run to see if anything happens.  Maybe I just haven’t put forth the effort to get enough out of it yet. Low key had a feeling it was more for the class after mine and catered to fucktoys and fuckboys.

Snapchat - Lots of guys trolling to jerk off and or possibly meet up. I haven’t understood or explored the social media/influencer portion of the app yet so I know there is more available but I’m not sure what kind of content is presented or its overall function and end goals. I don’t like snapchat because I lowkey get annoyed with the people that do it constantly. There are better apps. Also what's wrong with having a chat history? Saving one text in a dozen doesn’t remind me what we talked about in two months when I’m re-scrolling our conversation to remember what we have and haven’t talked about. How am I supposed to remember that on my own? I understand the app has great potential when it comes to verifying a prospective partner you hope to meet. Everyone wants to see a face and that you match your profile. So expect to use this app or at least

Archer - got two messages and haven’t opened the app beyond that. I don’t think the local community has adopted it yet so no real point in exploring or using it at the moment.

Scruff - I actually kind of like Scruff but haven't had success with it or focused much on it very much. I like it from what I have seen but don’t spend much time on it. The overall feeling of Scruff is more accepting and open than Grindr or Sniffies. It's a more mature and accepting crowd overall and I’ve had some great conversations on Scruff. I don’t think I've ever hooked up with anyone from scruff though but only because I don’t use it as often. I should invest more in it as I like the sense of community it puts forth but sadly I don’t. I’m not sure why, but I bypass it every time I’m looking for something to do or open and scroll. On the flip side of that statement though, I get very little initial interaction from my profile on the app in the first place so it’s kind of a mutual disinterest. Maybe I'm just not the right type for a Scruff profile.

Altside.app - not yet completed but app for Kinks. I’m interested to know more about this app but the only access available is to make teaser profiles. Supports multi-profile function so you can have more than one to expand your target audience while still looking for specific things. Nice to not have to change your profile based on your minute to minute interests.

IronCircles - Closed Social Media App for private groups. Breeding.zone is supposed to have a community but I have yet to get it to work or find it. I don’t really know if I see this taking off due to it’s obscurity, complicated initial setup, and private invite only based communities. Definitely an app that I would describe as IYKYK because you have to be in the know to use it.

Meetup - Social media/Meeting app for publishing local community events, parties, functions, and get togethers. Great for small groups and meeting new people without it being sexually charged right off the bat. More of a platonic and social circle expanding app.

Tagged - tried signing up but the app wouldn’t let me get past the automated/AI verification system so I didn’t get to explore it. Kind of annoyed by that and it leaves me curious...I wasn’t expecting much.

WEBSITES

Manhunt.com - this is rather dated and lightly populated. have gotten a few messages but no connections yet. The app and website are both pretty similar so no loss in appeal or use but I prefer the website version just a touch more. I just have an easier time with it on a bigger screen.Also, limited chats, so get your contact info in quick if you want to make plans. I did like the message board idea.

Adam4Adam.com - rather dated and lightly populated superior to manhunt. Has an app and a website. The app is a similar setup to grindr and location based apps while the website offers more options and exploration outside the grid. I like the cruising information and that you could post parties and events. 

dudesnude.com - an original and classic site I think I may have had a profile on when I was 18? Anyways it’s a fun site that is oriented more towards jacking off and camming and rating of pictures and videos. Fun and simple way to share pics and vids as well as emails information and map location. Does have a private album with password access if you want to keep it on the more discreet side. Guys usually have pretty good bodies and all have seemed rather friendly. I could use it more but no one near me is available on it.

squirt.org - I’ve started hearing a bit more from this but still kind of a regional thing maybe? Not quite sure what the crowd or audience is yet but the app is stratified pretty quickly between whats available to the free member versus a contributor. You have a limited number of profile views and messages so be selective on what you click when you are exploring. Theres mail and messages as well as a tab to Cruise.

meetfighters.com - for wrestling, male bonding, sports, and activities. Kink oriented. Doesn’t necessarily have to be sexual. MeetFighters.com is a social network and personals site for people who share an interest in anything related to wrestling, fighting or the people who do it.

bbrts.com - dated, but decent concept, popular in certain areas/cities. encourages bareback sex. Quick and easy geo-location grid. Watch out and don’t run out of messages if you live in a popular area though. The oink is a rather cute way to throw someone a notice without actually committing to a message.

nastykinkpigs.com - aka Oink. more up to date, mature (ADULT) oriented hookup site/app. May contain semi-legal and offensive activities. The app is pretty simple to use, has a grid map as well as many other pretty cool features, few of which I’ve utilized other than the search option. I am a member of some kink groups, I send some oinks and the occasional email. Video and Picture functions are blocked and only available in the paid version as are the posts, message boards, polls etc. Also has an oink function to send as a flirt. This site does contain references to drugs and a variety of mature topics. 

Quora.com - I have yet to explore this one but it's on my list and I feel it has potential when used properly. Initial impression is that it seems like a reddit/news/peer/blog type feel where questions are asked and answered by members. I think there are communities and groups available but I’m not sure which function is its primary use yet. 

meetirl.com - doesn't currently work in my area will update if applicable.

bkdr.com - doesn't currently work in my area but did work when I lived in Detroit.  I never met anyone off of it but It didn’t have a huge population of users to pick from, originally I thought it might have a bit of potential but it doesn’t seem it’s taken off. Recently closed down support for my area not sure if it’s continuing in others or is just another app to add to the failed list.

OkCupid.com - Tinder look alike. Website and app, has chat function, swiping, etc. Don’t think this is really an app most gay guys or the m4m audience gravitates towards but you never know theres always an outlier or two.

Buddy.net - typical location based hookup site/app with grid setup. Nothing significant about it. Just got my first message on it a few minutes ago so I will stick with it long enough to see what happens.

Altside.com - Coming soon kink/fetish hookup site. Grid based with near me and global options. Has support for multiple profiles/accounts. 

Holehunter.com - GPS based cruising app/site for random, gloryhole, and public, and anon meetings. Very basic. You can post ads, browse ads, cruise the area, see who is nearby, check out FAQ and information links and tips/tricks for users. I can see it being useful for what it is. Very direct, no small talk.

justusboys.com - forum I just found out about. Will be exploring soon but initial thoughts are that it’s the same as every other forum based site. Probably has useful posts on various topics and links to information and other external content from there. TBH I lost my password before I even logged in for the first time and was kind of a mood killer and I don’t feel like resetting it at the moment. I have plenty on my plate and will explore it at a later date when I feel like investing in it and have nothing else to do.

address4sex.com - self-explanatory. GPS based cruising/hookup app. Simple, e-mail based with local ads and postings. Direct and no fluff added. I can appreciate it.

cumhunt.com - self-explanatory. Forum/Ad Posting and location searches using a profile based setup. Place/browse ads, view who’s online, see who’s looked at you, chat with people, see what’s in the community etc. I could actually see myself using this one if it had more than a handful of members in a reasonable radius.

cruisingforsex.com - Provides popular cruising sites within a specified search area. Has a similar look and setup to a few other sites (I feel they are probably all variations of one master) so it was easy to navigate. Not sure on popularity or what the likelihood of success using it is. Always good to find new cruising places you wouldn’t typically think of. Use a profile to browse and see who’s nearby. 

Gaydar.net - Haven't explored yet

Asspig.net - Just discovered this site! Will be back with more info

Cumunion.com - good in concept but limited to specific metropolitan/urban areas. Useful if I’m traveling.

SOCIAL MEDIA

Fetlife - great kink social media like app that brings a great deal to the community and is a fun share for all those in the world. It has messaging, status updates, picture and video sharing, kink lists, groups, events, local meetings, community information, and on. It's pretty simple and getting more popular I think. Starting to upgrade its facade some and is doing a decent job. Seems smooth so far and improving. Doesn’t provide a simple way to find members geographically other than a city list or by sexuality so it can be hard to decipher who might or might not be interested without some direct profile digging beyond scanning their basic bio. Most of the members are polite enough to tell you if there's been a mistake or some confusion about anything without being a jerk. So no worries dont stress if you follow a straight dude or a big busty woman decides to follow you. It’s a very open community, so you should be prepared to be open too. There are those that are obviously attention seekers but you can make the occasional genuine connection on the site.

X - I have only explored the porn aspect of this app but plan to explore more in the future. Great for following amateur content makers and professional porn stars as well as individuals that see and like, repost, share, or comment on a variety of media members can select from. If you don’t know what twitter is, you're more in the dark than I am so I really shouldn’t have to explain this one too much. I do enjoy the # clickability and @ sign tagging for exploring those that like similar things as you.  They recently stopped allowing you to see who has liked or shared the media. I’m still figuring out the possibilities on who/what to follow other than porn but think there's probably a great deal available in the communities. Also while you can find things and popular people by location and name or topic, it's more complex to find members that are local to you without knowing their username or their interests as there is no grid or map search function. Great place for amateur videos and clips to be posted though. Good for a scroll while your hand is in your pants for a bit. 

Facebook - I haven't really thought about it but it does have groups, communities, and local information since everyone had facebook at one point. Dating is probably healthier than Grindr but I haven’t ever used it. Messenger is convenient and I have been hit on many times using it so that is one in the company's favor. Has a large target audience due to it’s popularity, also gays like to broadcast and share their lives so nearly everyone has one. Now linked to your Insta account for easy crossposting and account swapping.

Lifeout.com - gay social media app, usually a bunch of guys sharing porn but exploring more to see if there's any potential for more on it. I'll invest time to see what it is about but I feel its going to end up as an app I only check sporadically. The first couple of posts I saw covered a wide variety of topics so there is discussion in addition to the posting of dicks.  Not sure about meeting or hookup possibilities but so far the local crowd has been pleasant. Seems to be the same group of guys that keep the site going. They are a friendly bunch just looking for friends and connections. They tend to be a little deeper than just dirty chat and hooking up.

MeWe - Forgive me, because the AI description was much more efficient than a personal download and recap on this one. It was interesting but had its use for a short minute in my life.I would possibly venture back to exploring it with some new topics but I feel the app is past its popularity stage and the member numbers are declining. “With MeWe, you can post text and images, join and create groups for specific interests, engage in private or group chats, share media and files from other users, follow members, access a newsfeed with posts from your connections and groups in chronological order, and most things you would do on all social media platforms, but with a strong emphasis on privacy and no targeted advertising; you can also create "Pages" for businesses or public figures to connect with fans, and utilize features like disappearing messages and stories.” 

Bluesky - similar to X new social media app/website, used for scrolling topics, porn pics and vids, and some chatting. Looking to replace X. Has fetish and niche members that post/share related media. No specific map or location searching but great for meeting people with similar interests from around the world. Just starting to get into it and like it so far but nothing stands out as exceptional. It really just seems like X branded under a new name with some expanded features. 

PERSONAL ADS

Doublelist - personal posting site that replaced craigslist. Anonymous. Can be sent to your email, text, or through an in app/page messenger service. The few times I’ve had responses to a post or gotten a reply to a message nothing ended up happening. Exchanged contact info and made a plan to meet but when it came time he never showed or reached back out.

Wickedlist -similar to Craigslist and Locanto. Personals/Ads, has built in chat function or will communicate through email.

Locanto.com - replacement for Doublelist. You can post ads, scroll ads, message users, and do a nearby search for posts. Mainly anon or quick links.

CHATTING

Telegram - has a great chat feature for when guys don’t want to give out their number or snapchat. Lots of guys prefer private chat because they feel it is more secure when they are sharing their darkest desires with people online or something.. It also has groups and channels for both gay community and porn links to explore. A lot of the groups and channels are invitation only or require a link that is found while digging through the nether regions of the internet. Also, the notifications are kind of annoying until you get control of them but it has great content though lots of advertising by bots. Has a desktop version and app for your phone so that you can message anytime from any linked device. Group notifications can get kind of excessive and annoying but there is a mute feature.

Whatsapp - has groups and communities but haven't explored it as more than a chat app that Europeans and other random people (corporate world) prefer it. It’s a good app that I know little about other than its a fairly popular and secure brand. I’ve only used it a little but kind of prefer the interface to that of telegram. There are communities but I haven’t looked into them to know more about what is offered. Media sharing is simple and provides high quality options to sending over text. 

Signal - VERY private chat, often used to discuss kinks, fetishes, desires, questionable acts, and other various topics that you wish to keep discreet and remain encrypted, private, and disappearing. Sometimes used to set up misc. business deals…think about it a bit and I’m sure you'll realize what i’m suggesting.

Session - another secure chat used for activities that are generally better shard discreetly and privately.  Uses a session code or invite in order to establish chat. Have only used it a couple of times. 

Skype - great for overseas chat. UK, Europe. I’ve had it for a long time but haven’t really used it in recent years. It has been prone to a lot of spamming lately and sending me excessive notifications.

Kik - chat app that has low-key groups for hookups and exchanges. Not sure if its still even an option to use.  The groups were hard to find and you had to have an idea of what you were looking for or suffer through hours of random word searches on whatever pops into your head. I used it for some local hookup/connection groups in the smaller towns. Lots of guys felt it afforded them a good amount of anonymity. 

FORUMS

Breeding.Zone - BB hookup site. Has great sexual health and safety information but at the same time I it encourages BB sex and deals with darker topics like drugs, sex, pozzing, etc. I feel it might have light connections to the porn industry as well (confirmed, found previous connections listed using the database). More of a Topic/Post Forum, can chat, and does have search feature including location and other options to pick from. Mature Topics are discussed on the website. (I feel I should be writing a lot more on this item since I’m posting this on Breeding.zone but you guys know what it is and what its about so I’m going to limit myself to what I had previously written.
t have it available for needed occasions.

nifty.org - gay stories and fiction. (Some questionable content). Staple growing up. Used it to fantasize about all the possibilities and as material for my spank bank. This is a site worth saving.

FOND MEMORIES

Aol chats - Growing up, m4m chats are where it was at. Going to city specific chats to meet other guys cruising the internet for some sort of interaction. I met the first guy I messed around with on an AOL chat. I was 15 and he was 21. Definitely had to build the courage to commit to meeting someone from the internet in those days.

Craigslist - this function has been retired (Some of you know). Funny story, I actually met my exhusband through an ad on CL but that's for another day. So for now I’m just going to leave this here. I might expand on this in the future just to inform those that missed out on the glory that was craiglist personals and private ads.

** ADULT OVER 21 PORN/MATURE/DARK (Contains illegal activity) List:

Porn /Amature sites that don't require credit card for a variety of tastes and ideas to explore. I recently started getting into exploring porn sites and adding friends/chatting with like minded users on them. Nothing has happened so far but it’s nice to be able to interact with other porn aficionados.

Chaturbate - used for amateur camshows. Can be used for chatting I guess. Has some file sharing. A guy I top used it to share some camshows he had saved.

xhamster.com - publishing personal media, chat, videos

pornhub.com/gay - self-explanatory

reddit.com - revisit from earlier. Reddit is a great tool to promo amateur content and finding other like-minded users to interact with, meet, hookup, trade with etc.

x.com - Becoming more censored and harder to find the more obscure topics/media.

tumblr.com - once a great social app used for digital media sharing, porn, and like-minded users to follow and chat with.

redgifs.com - amateur clips and vids that are shared. Has all kinds of topics and media. Also hosts media and creates gif links for sharing.

thisvid.com (Illegal activity) - glitchy. I think the website is closed to new members. Doesn’t work with g-mail. Hard to get responses and contact. Often resets your account resulting in lost access.

motherless.com (illegal activity) - quirky with the e-mail. Great site for chatting, finding interest groups, porn and other content.

onlyfans.com

darkfans.com (ilegal activity)

Justforfans.com

redtube.com

plex.com (has great potential) - media server/sharing app allowing for open libraries of media particularly porn others have downloaded, paid for, saved, or made.

barebackbastards.com (questionable gay - contains illegal activities) - very dated and simplistic design but functional. Contains niche and hardcore fetish media.

***Various Gay Links and Sites I’ve found that might be useful in the future.

[think before following links] https://www.gaydemon.com/directory/

[think before following links] https://bestgaysites.com/

[think before following links] https://bbbh.com/

[think before following links] https://gay-dating-sites.no1reviews.com/sitemap.html

****Final Thoughts before posting:

So this is my list so far but I'm sure I’ll remember others and come across more to add. 

Each app is unique in some manner. Though they all share a common base function each app is unique in some fashion. Some are better than others while others seem redundant or unnecessary. What features do I actually use in the apps to get the most out of what it has to offer? What do they do best? Worst? Also, I can get more specific on the different apps and their features, functions, pros, cons, popularity etc, or give hints, tips and suggestions if anyone would be interested in reading them. 

There are plenty of more websites and apps on the google play store or in the apple store I'm sure but these are the ones that I've had the most experience with. I will update the list as I continue to explore everything for whatever it is I'm looking for. Best of Luck to you guys! Let me know if you have any suggestions, thoughts, or advice! I’m open to all communications. 

END NOTES/FUTURE IDEAS

I’m thinking about adding the sites that I've used in the past and throughout my gay life and sexual history. Could be an interesting master list/map showing my sexual growth and what influenced me growing up. How did they shape into the promiscuous dirty guy that I am?

For future reference:

Start the post in a word document that will allow for you to change structure and format as you write it rather than trying to edit it in the forum box. It will prevent over-sharing and keep you on task while still allowing a bit of freedom to explore the topic being discussed.

END OF POST ANNOUNCEMENT

This has kind of morphed into a cacophony of information mixed with my thoughts and musings on the topics. I realize that not all of the things listed are traditionally considered hookup/dating apps but when your choices are limited you make do with what you can. Use your existing resources and apps in new ways to maximize your options when it comes to finding what you want. You can find anything you want with enough determination and creativity.

Lastly, I apologize for the extensive post length. I know I could have broken it down more or limited what I put in but everything I listed has some value or feature that makes them applicable and useful. So in the end I guess this is a General Forum Post due to the wide range of information covered but it's all in relation to hooking up.

 

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I am regular user of Sniffies and Barebackrt and have had minimal success with either site.  I get a lot of interested tops, but they all either flake out on me or can't commit to the details.  Message back and forth, establish interest, build excitement for a meetup and then nothing. 

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I've just remembered IRC (internet relay chat?) which was my springboard to world wide wanking with global sluts 😄