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With conodom i could bear till 15-20 minutes, but without it i cum within a minute.

Once there was a bottom who made me cum just by inserting it.

So, i just take it off when i try to cum inside.

One of my friends once recommended lidocine but it was hard to to apply it before i have sex 

If there is any dude like me any tips?

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Maybe give edging a try. It does wonders for self control and helps you get use to that sensitivity when you are near release. Have you tried rubbing one out before hand? That seems to work with a lot of guys.

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There are plenty of products made for this exact problem. If application of lidocaine lotion or cream is a problem, KY Duration is a spray - just spray on a small treatment and in you go.

Or you can google “lubes for premature ejaculation” for more options.

Or, just plan on cumming more than once. The bottom won’t mind. I promise he won’t. ?

But whatever happens, don’t waste it!

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On 12/23/2018 at 6:29 AM, Asianlookin4fun said:

With conodom i could bear till 15-20 minutes, but without it i cum within a minute.

Once there was a bottom who made me cum just by inserting it.

So, i just take it off when i try to cum inside.

One of my friends once recommended lidocine but it was hard to to apply it before i have sex 

If there is any dude like me any tips?

Honestly, for me there is no such thing as "premature ejaculation" from my Top.  i'm not meaning to be glib either. i have never been disappointed by a Top who was so turned on that He came fast or even as soon as He slid in. Part of my make up as a bottom is wanting to take, not just a Tops cum inside of me, but i am also 'bred' by His mental and emotional pleasure as well. i'm dead serious. The speed at which He releases Himself into me doesn't detract at all. 

Having said that, i understand if You want to prolong the experience because you want to. i wonder how much of the cumming quickly is mental/emotional and how much is physical?

 i'm a total bottom with guys, but have lots of experience as a top from when i was married to a woman (only woman i have ever been with).  Early in my marriage, i learned how to make my wife cum before i did. It took time, but i conditioned myself to not cum until i knew she had been satisfied, didn't matter how long, but it helped me learn how much the mind is employed. Of course, the dynamic between two guys, Top and bottom, is probably usually different than a man and woman?

i do wonder, why is it important to you to go longer?  Are you concerned what the bottom may think?  Is it a form of performance anxiety? Is it always the same or have there been times when you have gone longer without a condom?  

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10 hours ago, tallslenderguy said:

Honestly, for me there is no such thing as "premature ejaculation" from my Top.  i'm not meaning to be glib either. i have never been disappointed by a Top who was so turned on that He came fast or even as soon as He slid in. Part of my make up as a bottom is wanting to take, not just a Tops cum inside of me, but i am also 'bred' by His mental and emotional pleasure as well. i'm dead serious. The speed at which He releases Himself into me doesn't detract at all. 

Having said that, i understand if You want to prolong the experience because you want to. i wonder how much of the cumming quickly is mental/emotional and how much is physical?

 i'm a total bottom with guys, but have lots of experience as a top from when i was married to a woman (only woman i have ever been with).  Early in my marriage, i learned how to make my wife cum before i did. It took time, but i conditioned myself to not cum until i knew she had been satisfied, didn't matter how long, but it helped me learn how much the mind is employed. Of course, the dynamic between two guys, Top and bottom, is probably usually different than a man and woman?

i do wonder, why is it important to you to go longer?  Are you concerned what the bottom may think?  Is it a form of performance anxiety? Is it always the same or have there been times when you have gone longer without a condom?  

yes i had extremely prolonged sex before, but that was with a bottom who used to enjoy fist fuck. It was totally boring, although bottom did not feel the same. It was fucking loose and puffy. Definitely not my type and hard to keep focus or keeping the heat.

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Guest Gonegurl

There’s a lot you can do, and as a bottom, we often take that sort of reaction as a compliment. The topical creams and ointments are a good start to try. And As mentioned before, masturbating even up to a few hours prior to sex may help. There are also different exercises like the Kegel or Pause-Squeeze technique you can practice and work on strengthening your stamina. 

If it is really a problem you want to fix though, you should ask a doctor or even get recommended to a sex therapist. They are there to help, and can offer additional solutions or even medications if you need them. 

Though, speaking for myself and most bottoms I think, if you recover from an orgasm reasonably quickly and are good for a second or third round, hopefully you will last longer as you wear out. Just think of the first cum as a good lubing. 

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