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Plugs are great for width, get a nice set of plugs that size up and it helps keep the hole open. 

For depth double ended dildos help open you up but make sure the toys are soft and flexible the hard ones will hurt trying to go through all the intestinal bends.

When it comes to depth fisting make sure you have a top that will really take his time. Depth one needs to go nice and slow because you can seriously get hurt

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1 hour ago, find91 said:

 

When it comes to depth fisting make sure you have a top that will really take his time. Depth one needs to go nice and slow because you can seriously get hurt

 i've tried to take a hand on many occasions, and will continue to try, but finding a Top who is patient has been a challenge.  About half the guys who have tried have been great, the other half just thought they were.  When it comes to fucking, ego doesn't really get in the way (for me), but when i sense the Top is impatient, it ends up making me tighten up vs being more receptive. 

i've had a long term fantasy where i fall asleep with a guy and wake up in the morning only to discover His hand and arm inside of me. [laughing], i know that is pure fantasy on my part, that the liklihood of anyone getting their hand and arm in me while i sleep is unrealistic.  For me though, the fantasy speaks to the psychology of being penetrated by a Man and connected to Him. The image of a puppet is pretty glaring, it's so fucking intimate. The notion of a Top doing that so stealthily speaks to His need/desire to have a guy in that way and is also an expression of what i think of as affectionate dominance. The permission is already known, so the 'possession' is assumed and taken during vulnerability, which requires a huge amount of finesse. 

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5 minutes ago, tallslenderguy said:

 i've tried to take a hand on many occasions, and will continue to try, but finding a Top who is patient has been a challenge.  About half the guys who have tried have been great, the other half just thought they were.  When it comes to fucking, ego doesn't really get in the way (for me), but when i sense the Top is impatient, it ends up making me tighten up vs being more receptive. 

i've had a long term fantasy where i fall asleep with a guy and wake up in the morning only to discover His hand and arm inside of me. [laughing], i know that is pure fantasy on my part, that the liklihood of anyone getting their hand and arm in me while i sleep is unrealistic.  For me though, the fantasy speaks to the psychology of being penetrated by a Man and connected to Him. The image of a puppet is pretty glaring, it's so fucking intimate. The notion of a Top doing that so stealthily speaks to His need/desire to have a guy in that way and is also an expression of what i think of as affectionate dominance. The permission is already known, so the 'possession' is assumed and taken during vulnerability, which requires a huge amount of finesse. 

A lot of guys see fisting in porn and try to emulate it without understanding that those bottoms did a lot of stretch work with dildos and toys before the scene. Fisting is not your normal top bottom dynamic. The top cannot force the bottom to take the fist like you can with a dick. it just won't work. It's more like asking for passage into a bottoms hole. the more the bottom is relax the more he can take. A great trick for taking fist is look into tantric breathing techniques that help to relax. Breathing is key. Fisting on chems can be fun but it runs the risk of getting hurt because you need to be aware of any pain so you can tell the top to slow down or that it's over. That's another thing the Top has to respond to the bottom. not the other way around. When you and your partner have been fisting for a while and you get a good connection then you can add some dom sub dynamics and still if the sub( bottom ) says he is in pain you stop.

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