First time cumdumping

[Guest]

It's not for everyone. I remember my first time. At a hotel near Phoenix airport. Put an ad on craigslist and BBRT that I'd be taking any and all loads for two hours. In two hours I took 6 loads. There was a little bit of guilt, shame and disgust with myself afterwards. But there was something really hot about all these strangers just showing up one after another. That was 15 years and thousands of loads ago.

A week later I did it again in New Orleans.

Give it another try. Or not.

[Guest]

My first time as a cum dump was accidental. 

I had gone to a local arcade to give a guy a blow job.  He asked me to wear panties, which I did.  When we were in the booth with the door shut and latched I striped down to panties and put on a flowy crop top I had with me.  I was very aroused.  I knelt and serviced him.  Believe I was totally obsessed with his cock and balls.  I did everything with my mouth, lips, tongue and mouth to give him pleasure and he gave me a big load.

I was super charged horny.  I need more cock.  I needed more cum.  I left the door open enough so guys could see me when they walked by the booth.  I was still in panties and crop top and figured I would attract some guys who were into fem males.  I took five loads.  So now when I go to the arcade I don't leave until I've taken multiple loads.  I am a cum dump and love it.

[polyglutton]

On 8/22/2021 at 9:38 PM, depravedslut said:

Maybe the key is "no self-esteem"?

I don't think there is causation between sluttiness and self-esteem. Cumdump/anonymous sex is just a variety of sex. 
 

In the 1400s Florence, Italy roughly half of the male population had sex with other men, and a great deal of it was happening in public places. 
[think before following links] https://overcast.fm/+RGIQgSZNs (Link to Bad Gays podcast episode discussion)

[bonerboyjock]

To me, being a Cumdump is more a state of mind than taking a certain number of loads in a particular situation. It’s about obtaining sexual satisfaction from men planting their seed inside one’s ass or mouth.

[Guest]

Being a cumdump is NOT like they show in porn. As many people have stated here, there is a significant mental side to this.  It is not for everyone. At times, for the bottom, it can feel a little transactional, because you are not going to connect with everyone.  I learned early on that my purpose is to be used for an Alpha Top's pleasure. I am confident in that.  I have no self-esteem issues. I know what I want and I pursue it.  I have heard from MANY cumdump bottoms that they just don't get out of it what they thought they would. That is ok. Personally, there are times I love it and times that I don't. What I DO enjoy is knowing that I am following my purpose and that feels right all the time. 

[Pozguyinchi]

10 minutes ago, DannyBoyCMH said:

Being a cumdump is NOT like they show in porn. As many people have stated here, there is a significant mental side to this.  It is not for everyone. At times, for the bottom, it can feel a little transactional, because you are not going to connect with everyone.  I learned early on that my purpose is to be used for an Alpha Top's pleasure. I am confident in that.  I have no self-esteem issues. I know what I want and I pursue it.  I have heard from MANY cumdump bottoms that they just don't get out of it what they thought they would. That is ok. Personally, there are times I love it and times that I don't. What I DO enjoy is knowing that I am following my purpose and that feels right all the time. 

100% agree.

[ErosWired]

@bttmpink7 - You tried it, and found that it wasn’t your thing. I don’t think you need to worry it over in your head any further than that. I tried a dish at a Thai restaurant once that I’m never going to try again. I could think of that as a wasted meal if I wanted to think that way, but I prefer to think of it as a valuable gain of experience.

You didn’t lose anything by trying cumdumping - the result of it is that you know yourself better now than you did, and you have a new perspective on sex. Good for you. Now your future decisions about it will be better tailored to suit your needs.

Others above have suggested that those who enjoy cumdumping have a mindset. I would agree, except I think there are two or three factors that influence that mindset, and cumdump motivations are not universal. I, for instance, have little in common with a cumdump whose joy comes from the loads taken and the feeling of them running down his legs - that person is drawn by the physical, sensual aspects. I, on the other hand, have been trained to provide my body in service to men, and I am strongly motivated by a sense of duty and gratification that I can supply pleasure to others; if a fuck doesn’t result in a load, or causes me discomfort, that doesn’t make it a negative experience for me if the Top left happy. That’s a kind of rush I can never get enough of. I could do it 24/7. Because the rewards of each encounter made this way are so great for cumdumps with these mindsets, the expense of time to obtain them doesn’t seem like time lost, but to someone for whom the value is less, it well might.

The thing that exhilarates you that way is unique to you, and may not be found by cumdumping. That’s absolutely fine. Think no more of it. In most contexts, saying “I’m not a cumdump” is actually a social positive.

Edited August 27, 2021 by ErosWired

[Guest]

I'm not great at relationships.  Do enjoy  going to the baths and offering my hole to anyone who wants to dump a raw load in my hole.  It's a feeling of non-judgemental, total freedom to be who I want.  Being naked and watched while I offer my body for men to enjoy.

[xxbjn2]

10 hours ago, DannyBoyCMH said:

Being a cumdump is NOT like they show in porn. As many people have stated here, there is a significant mental side to this.  It is not for everyone. At times, for the bottom, it can feel a little transactional, because you are not going to connect with everyone.  I learned early on that my purpose is to be used for an Alpha Top's pleasure. I am confident in that.  I have no self-esteem issues. I know what I want and I pursue it.  I have heard from MANY cumdump bottoms that they just don't get out of it what they thought they would. That is ok. Personally, there are times I love it and times that I don't. What I DO enjoy is knowing that I am following my purpose and that feels right all the time. 

I love being nothing more than some random hole for a guy to shove his raw cock in. Yes they are using me, but I'm using them too. I get turned on having no idea who has fucked me in a dark room.

[fisterm8]

On 8/22/2021 at 12:37 AM, bttmpink7 said:

Maybe I'm just not a natural cumdump? 

Added: Also I only want to hear responses from other bottoms, sorry tops but you're biased lol

Maybe u should do a gang bang instead and have them all fill you within a cpl hours rather than spaced out over days.... I love taking loads myself and want to organise tops gang banging me... Hopefully this year if they don't flake

[bottomboib]

There's a point where it begins to feel all consuming. Its not a feeling I can truly put into words. You can relate it to an ultra horniness, for me I get these actual physical waves of like... Pleasure... Running through me, I start to shake, and my head gets very fuzzy and I am truly unable to think. I mean that. And you feel the kind of social construct wrongness of it but you also feel like you are standing at a precipice, so very easy to step in either direction. Stepping in the direction of the cum dump just augments the feelings I described above ten fold and that's where it consumes me fully. 

Now I certainly get how it feels after you do it the first few times. I mean for me, I almost felt guilty or shamed. But nonetheless there was a bit of me that felt attracted to that guilt and shame. I had already been exposed to finding out an ex had cheated on me and because of that I already had learned there was a deep dark feeling for guilt and shame that, after I broke the initial negative barrier, brought me immense pleasure. So being that I had learned to be turned on by the wrongness of something and let it seep into me more. It took time and a lot of other things happened during that time that influenced it, but I just kept doing it more and more frequently until I became an addict. 

Its going to be different with every person. Its not going to have such a response for you as it does for me. Being a cumdump doesn't mean you're better or worse at sex. Its just the kind of sex you have. You may end up being better with a few fwbs and call it a day. Don't try to block yourself into a specific role because you feel that's the only way to experience something sexually in an intense way. 

In other words.... Just go with it and don't overthink it. Whatever you are doing. 

 

[slutty-tawnie]

On 8/27/2021 at 4:55 AM, polyglutton said:

I don't think there is causation between sluttiness and self-esteem. Cumdump/anonymous sex is just a variety of sex. 
 

In the 1400s Florence, Italy roughly half of the male population had sex with other men, and a great deal of it was happening in public places. 
[think before following links] [think before following links] https://overcast.fm/+RGIQgSZNs (Link to Bad Gays podcast episode discussion)

I actually have a very high self esteem, almost cocky (no pun intended). I feel like I'm the center of attention; the one who initiates by offering my hole, me. Not necessarily in control, but kind of. I feel empowered knowing these men, these cocks want to fuck me; my hole, to use me.

[bttmpink7]

yeah i don't think i enjoy it very much after some consideration 

Thanks all 

Edited August 28, 2021 by bttmpink7