Leather69 Posted January 6, 2022 Report Share Posted January 6, 2022 @norfolkuk There are sh.t loads of guys who have a pici on here or on a web site... just one (and they are copied from other sites).. be carful what u are looking for. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justsexnowatl Posted January 6, 2022 Report Share Posted January 6, 2022 3 hours ago, BlackDude said: There is really no such thing as “hard to get.” What that really means is they are deciding if they want to fuck you while waiting for a better option. BINGO! I am NOT hard to get, but I'm sure plenty of locals think I'm playing that way. I'm vers and often get online thinking I want to top/bttm/flip. If I had my way, every single hookup would be a small group of vers guys, I am often browsing for the right guys to pull together to try for a group....sometimes it happens kind of fast, sometimes I find some hot sluts for "later". If a guy I'm into hits me up I don't wanna alienate him and legit wanna fuck with him another time (for real!) - maybe when I am in total top or total bottom mode. I also OFTEN plan my sex ahead with regulars and often hop online a couple hours before a planned hookup with a reg buddy seeing if I can find a 3rd to join. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 6, 2022 Report Share Posted January 6, 2022 I'm guilty of being "hard to get" on grindr etc It's just my insecurity because I don't know you. So I like to chat before hooking up. Plus I like a spark. So much easier to shut me up in real life, just shove a cock in my mouth. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ErosWired Posted January 6, 2022 Report Share Posted January 6, 2022 3 hours ago, justsexnowatl said: I also OFTEN plan my sex ahead with regulars and often hop online a couple hours before a planned hookup with a reg buddy seeing if I can find a 3rd to join. How does this work for you? I find planned sexual encounters to be the most fragile of commitments - they’re like baking a soufflé - the slightest jostle and they fall flat. I never put any faith in a hookup request for any later than the coming evening, even for a local regular, and even then I’ve been known to rinse out my guts only to be canceled last-minute. And anonymous? “I’ll stop by on my way home from work” practically never actually happens. What’s your secret? 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
john54476 Posted January 6, 2022 Report Share Posted January 6, 2022 @ErosWired I could have not said it better myself. To one of the earlier comments about "what are you going to do to me" I get that often where the guy is just wanting to fantasize and has no intention of anything real time, thats when I hang up Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hntnhole Posted January 6, 2022 Report Share Posted January 6, 2022 Both of the above responses from ErosWired and John54476 are perfect illustrations of why I ditched the online cruising apps some time ago. I realize that not every guy lives close to a fuckjoint/tubs/bar with backroom/ etc., and thus feels trapped into relying on the unreliable. Which is why, when I had no more reason to stay in the Midwest (passing of friends, family, life-partner), I spent some time sniffing out the kinds of places I could live my life and live my Lusts. I'd heard lots of good things about a number of places, and decided on Ft.L. Now, there's a pigpen close by, and anytime I want to wallow, it's a 10 minute drive away, and the guys I want to share my Lusts with are already there. No online bullshit - they're all there, ready and waiting. There's also a rather nice tubs with all the accoutrements for a man like me, and while I've never been a fan of the "terry-towel-twist", it's there and I can go if I want to. There are also gay guesthouses with no rules about fucking other guests; some offer "day-passes", so guys like me can go over to - oh - Inn Leather, for example, and make a day of it. I also realize that most men can't simply pull up stakes and move. Weighing the requirements that seem to pile up in our lives can be burdensome, but I would recommend to everyone doing what planning you can in advance, and when you're free of responsibilities elsewhere, find somewhere else to live in *real* Freedom. Planning in advance will allow you to jump when the opportunity presents itself. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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