What Is The Attraction and Obsession?

[Guest]

What I can't figure out is what's the attraction with wanting to get fucked bareback.  On the surface it just doesn't seem to make sense.  First of all, it's a bit of work to prepare for bottoming.  It can also be uncomfortable or painful, at least at first; it can be a risk to my health; it can be degrading to let guys that you aren't in the least bit attracted to fuck you in some raunchy, risky ways and places; and for most guys (and women) it's just not pleasurable.  

But yet I'm obsessed with getting fucked raw and I  think about it all the time, I love bareback porn, BB stories and blogs, and nothing gets me more excited than the thought of a bare cock pumping my eager hole.  Actually, what gets me more excited is a guy cumming in my ass.  And it doesn't seem to matter who the guy is.  All that matters is his cock, the bigger the better, and that he's willing to fuck me with it.  I just love connecting with  guys online and I waste no time in finding out if they will fuck me and if so will they will fuck me BB.  I do ask if they are clean and disease free but all they have to is say yes and I'm telling them that they can breed me.

And this obsession just gets wilder when a cock goes into my ass.  I become a babbling, verbal slut and I can't help moaning and groaning, begging non-stop for the top to fuck me, deeper, harder, and most of all to please cum in my ass.

Can other guys put into words why us bottoms love getting fucked bareback so much?  What is the attraction and obsession?    

[ErosWired]

There’s no single answer to your question. I could tell you why I do it, but those reasons are unique to me and might or might not apply to you. The same would be true for anyone else.

On the whole, guys like bare because it simply feels so much better, no comparison. The cleanout work isn’t that big a deterrent - it’s the only hole available down there and feels good getting fucked, so small price to pay.

The pain you get used to pretty quickly, and the STD risk you can mitigate, so those aren’t really deal-breakers compared to the physical pleasure you get.

The psychological factors are totally individual. Getting fucked in skanky ways by skanky men might feel degrading to you, but not to somebody else, or he might like feeling degraded. There’s no universal explanation for that.

One thing that is universal is the exchange of semen, which infuses the bottom with endorphins. This may go some ways toward explaining why we all seem to crave it.

[atlfukbud]

Ages ago I read something that Tony Robbins put out called the 6 human needs -- Connection, Variety, Significance, Certainty, Growth, and Contribution -- I think playing bare hits several of these for me -- connection ✅ variety ✅ definitely! Perhaps short-term significance, too -- putting your bare dick inside another body and sharing dna in both directions is HOT and feels significant/important (sometimes more so than others of course!) "Certainty," I am not sure about that one... Growth  ✅  -- sometimes I set sex related goals or sexual experiences spark maturity, and I totally believe that a great sex life makes me happier to be alive and contributing  ✅  to the greater good. I'd say the men I've had sex with have absolutely contributed to my quality of life overall... positive sense of wellbeing sometimes, at others great conversation or just a moment of gratitude or satisfaction. Another member stated a while back that wearing a rubber was like swimming in the ocean while wearing heavy wool socks -- just doesn't feel natural. I'd have to agree. The connection, chemistry and psychology all drive me to bareback as a bottom or versatile dude.

[steve-tmq]

1 hour ago, takemeuseme said:

What I can't figure out is what's the attraction with wanting to get fucked bareback.  On the surface it just doesn't seem to make sense.  First of all, it's a bit of work to prepare for bottoming.  It can also be uncomfortable or painful, at least at first; it can be a risk to my health; it can be degrading to let guys that you aren't in the least bit attracted to fuck you in some raunchy, risky ways and places; and for most guys (and women) it's just not pleasurable.  

But yet I'm obsessed with getting fucked raw and I  think about it all the time, I love bareback porn, BB stories and blogs, and nothing gets me more excited than the thought of a bare cock pumping my eager hole.  Actually, what gets me more excited is a guy cumming in my ass.  And it doesn't seem to matter who the guy is.  All that matters is his cock, the bigger the better, and that he's willing to fuck me with it.  I just love connecting with  guys online and I waste no time in finding out if they will fuck me and if so will they will fuck me BB.  I do ask if they are clean and disease free but all they have to is say yes and I'm telling them that they can breed me.

And this obsession just gets wilder when a cock goes into my ass.  I become a babbling, verbal slut and I can't help moaning and groaning, begging non-stop for the top to fuck me, deeper, harder, and most of all to please cum in my ass.

Can other guys put into words why us bottoms love getting fucked bareback so much?  What is the attraction and obsession?    

Not sure you don't all ready know the answer.  There are a few things.  Humans are wired to want skin to skin contact and intimate contact.  you can't get any more intimate and skin to skin than penetration.   Then most men get a rush of hormones when doing risky things and it is this rush/high that drives the obsession(not sure it's an obsession).   

[OzzieCumdumpster]

As Eurowired said, it is different for all of us. I started when I was very young, first I was fucked was messy and painful, but for some reason that first time was when I knew I loved being used as a fuckhole. The next guy that did me was a teacher who showed me how to clean my hole, he was by far one of my longest relationships as well.

For me personally, I just love have something inside me, I wear a buttplug everyday, and if a guy wants to fuck me I am always willing to bend over no matter who they are what they are. I am hyper-sexual all the time. Commonly known as Hypersexuality disorder. Lucky for me now being retired I can let that disorder rule me now.

[tallslenderguy]

i think there's a lot of good answers here, i particularly ditto steve-tmq that you: "...already know the answer."  At least in part?  You wrote a whole list of reasons why you are attracted to and obsessed with getting fucked BB.  

Couple more thoughts.

i think a lot of the reasons behind asking in the first place is because our form of sex violates the heteronormative standards that most follow and have been conditioned by, so people who are different from those standards can end up with the question:  asking why i am attracted and obsessed in this way vs why the  attraction and obsession exists.  i think ErosWired and atlfukbud have some good answers for that.  Straights may investigate the latter question, but they never feel challenged to explain their attraction or obsession to the opposite gender like gays are. 

Pain.  The truth is, it can be painful for a woman to get fucked. Especially the first time, they often bleed. But a women's vagina has to be opened too. Regular sex fixes that for most. Personally, i cannot remember the last time i felt pain from being penetrated by a Man. Even my first time was not painful, but by the time i received my first cock, i had already been penetrating and opening myself with pretty much everything i could find lol.  One could argue that an asshole is better equipped in some ways to receive cock. What comes out is not far from cock sized and similarly shaped, the hole dilates naturally to create a passage.  A woman's vagina gets 'wrecked' when she has a baby, but unlike the asshole, that's not a daily, livelong occurrence like a BM is for most. 

Mess. All sex organs have a dual function of 'waste' removal. Every 21 days or so, a woman's body has what could be compared to a BM, a 7 day, 24 hour 'movement' of her uterus as it sheds and bleeds and is removed from her body by her body. Some straight guys will fuck 'dirty' and some gay guys will fuck 'dirty.'  Women douche, gay guys who receive cock douche. 

Another conditioned response is the notion that sex is about procreation.  Religious cultures have used that one to control people since the beginning of civilization it seems. i think it's safe to say that people who have sex just to make a baby are in a tiny minority, straight, gay or otherwise. Even the scientific notions of survival of the species is speculative. Sure, pleasure contributes to our survival, but there is no actual proof that sexual pleasure is just as important as the baby it may produce. We certainly have a lot of natural examples of other animals having 'gay' sex. 

[ayushiest]

Attached - bonded with.  Attracted- drawn to. Obsessed - desire overcoming reason.

[Guest]

I understand the pros and cons but my desire to bottom seems to exceed logical explanations.  All I know is that I can't resist a top that wants to fuck me bare and the bigger his cock the more that I want it. 

[Luxbrit]

I’m really not sure it’s that deep.

Like I just see it as a natural thing to do.

Im pretty sure st*aight people don’t go through the mental gymnastics on this topic, gays shouldn’t either.

[Liverpool]

For me the overriding reason for wanting to be barebacked is 'breeding'. I like feminising myself, thinking "if I was a woman, this man would be spreading his seed and getting me pregnant". It's so degrading getting bred by a stranger.