Need advice: How to meet men in a public toilet

[FunCheerSlut]

Assuming a North American style public toilet with dividers between urinals and separate stalls for toilets, how do I get some action?

I need your advice! I have read all the threads but I feel like I am missing something... How do I advertise? How do I non-verbally encourage sex?

• Do I stand at the urinal with my pants down below my butt?
• Do I do that and play with myself? How overtly?
• Do I wait bent over in a stall with the door open?
• I realize eye contact is significant, I hope I can read the queues. Any advice?

How long do you "loiter" at any one public toilet before you give up?

Do you rotate between a few different public toilets as a way to improve any chances?

What other advice would you offer on how to actually advertise or signal that you're down to suck dick or get fucked?

I realize there are a million threads that talk about people's various experiences. I guess what I am missing from many of those stories or shared experience is that I am looking for specific advice on how to present or advertise I am available and willing. What are the queues or responses I should not fail to read?

Thanks!

 

 

[BootmanLA]

35 minutes ago, FunCheerSlut said:

Assuming a North American style public toilet with dividers between urinals and separate stalls for toilets, how do I get some action?

I need your advice! I have read all the threads but I feel like I am missing something... How do I advertise? How do I non-verbally encourage sex?

• Do I stand at the urinal with my pants down below my butt?
• Do I do that and play with myself? How overtly?
• Do I wait bent over in a stall with the door open?
• I realize eye contact is significant, I hope I can read the queues. Any advice?

How long do you "loiter" at any one public toilet before you give up?

Do you rotate between a few different public toilets as a way to improve any chances?

What other advice would you offer on how to actually advertise or signal that you're down to suck dick or get fucked?

I realize there are a million threads that talk about people's various experiences. I guess what I am missing from many of those stories or shared experience is that I am looking for specific advice on how to present or advertise I am available and willing. What are the queues or responses I should not fail to read?

Thanks!

Unless it's in a very out-of-the-way place known for tolerating some degree of public sex, all of the suggestions you have are screaming for a public indecency rap, which in some places is a felony.

And the more mainstream the location, the bigger the offense - not legally, but in the sense that people who just want to go to the bathroom in peace don't want to see someone bent over a commode with their pants down, or masturbating at a urinal, or whatever.

I get that some people's disordered sense of sexuality requires taking ever-greater risks and committing ever-greater offenses against public morality but I'm not sure this is the place to encourage ways to achieve that. 

That said, I'm sure there will be plenty of people who will respond how hot this is and with suggestions on how to make it happen, just like there are people who will applaud cheating spouses. 

[topblkmale]

 

Tap foot for BJ

Download a copy and read Tearoom Trade

 

[viking8x6]

1 hour ago, FunCheerSlut said:

Assuming a North American style public toilet with dividers between urinals and separate stalls for toilets, how do I get some action?

I need your advice! I have read all the threads but I feel like I am missing something... How do I advertise? How do I non-verbally encourage sex?

• Do I stand at the urinal with my pants down below my butt?
• Do I do that and play with myself? How overtly?
• Do I wait bent over in a stall with the door open?
• I realize eye contact is significant, I hope I can read the queues. Any advice?

How long do you "loiter" at any one public toilet before you give up?

Do you rotate between a few different public toilets as a way to improve any chances?

What other advice would you offer on how to actually advertise or signal that you're down to suck dick or get fucked?

I realize there are a million threads that talk about people's various experiences. I guess what I am missing from many of those stories or shared experience is that I am looking for specific advice on how to present or advertise I am available and willing. What are the queues or responses I should not fail to read?

Thanks!

 

 

Your first three bullet points are way too much, as @BootmanLA says.

Avoid places that are obviously patrolled, or be exceedingly careful and subtle if you choose them. I personally have been thrown out of a department store.

Often one has to "loiter" for rather long periods of time to cross paths with someone likely. It depends a lot on how much traffic there is, and how much of it is cruising. Explicit graffiti can be a clue to a more likely location.

Eye contact is key if you're in a position to get it (obviously if you're both in stalls, not so much). If a guy gives you more than very brief eye contact, he's either interested or disgusted and horrified. Usually it's easy to tell which.

Toe tap while sitting in a stall is the standard. If the other guy taps back (and he's not just flexing while taking a dump), you're good (repetition is helpful). Then you just have to figure out who's sticking it under.

At the urinals, taking half a step back and stroking a bit is advertising, as is peeking over to see if he's doing that.

In any kind of high-traffic situation, it's HIGHLY advisable to meet there and then take it elsewhere for the action proper. If it's quiet, on the other hand, you can get away with rather a lot... If you're going to play right in the T-room, a lockable door is brilliant, but a squeaky door (better yet, a squeaky door with a vestibule) can be pretty helpful.

From my experience, however, internet chat apps have decimated old style cruising pretty severely.

[NWUSHorny]

13 minutes ago, topblkmale said:

 

Tap foot for BJ

Download a copy and read Tearoom Trade

 

That's pretty much how I learned. Hopefully there are still libraries with a copy, I read it back in 1988 or 9, and still consider it invaluable.

If you are trying to hookup at the urinals be on the lookout for eye contact and motion in the arms before looking down at the dick.

Edited January 9 by NWUSHorny

[Poz50something]

6 hours ago, BootmanLA said:

Unless it's in a very out-of-the-way place known for tolerating some degree of public sex, all of the suggestions you have are screaming for a public indecency rap, which in some places is a felony......people who just want to go to the bathroom in peace don't want to see someone bent over a commode with their pants down, or masturbating at a urinal, or whatever.

Thanks Bootman. Kinda obvious, but someone needs to say it. 

[FunCheerSlut]

Greatly appreciate the wisdom, lived experiences, and sage advice of this community. Thank you!

[slaveboi]

Back in the Craigslist days I would see posts about guys looking to meet at local stores. I have also seen a few ads on the regular apps for a truck stop near my house. The guy that designed the men's room was awesome.  All the stalls are floor to ceiling walls with low doors. Its easy to get away fucking in the stalls if you are quite. I have only ever seen the foot tap thing at a casino in Vegas.  I was too unsure to act on it. I just dropped a card with my number on the floor and walked out. He text me in under a min and went to my room.

[NWUSHorny]

To @slaveboi point, Sniffles has pins on the map for a give tearooms and guys posting that they are there. I'm not sure it is a great idea, since law enforcement could very well use the info to make busts, but it is a resource to tell whether or not a location is active.

[FunCheerSlut]

I was thinking about the idea of leaving a "calling card" in some restrooms.

Generic, perhaps using an instagram handle and not a telephone number. Guys could still DM to get hook-up details.

[meetme]

It’s not 1988 anymore. The world has changed. Everyone now carries a camera with them on their phone. Surveillance cameras are everywhere too.  I don’t think cheap sex is worth that risk.  Anyone could walk in on you, who is not sympathetic and decide to record you and inform security.

[NWUSHorny]

On 1/10/2024 at 11:24 AM, FunCheerSlut said:

I was thinking about the idea of leaving a "calling card" in some restrooms.

Generic, perhaps using an instagram handle and not a telephone number. Guys could still DM to get hook-up details.

I've never seen it in a tearoom. I've definitely found such things left on my car at outdoor cruising spots.

[FunCheerSlut]

Thanks for the reminders that often it is not worth the risk and the potential for serious consequences. I just wish it were easy to line-up supply with demand.

 I know...I know...that is the reason for the cum dump network as well, right?

Perhaps I am just way too in-heat at the moment and need to cool off. Thanks all! 

[PowerTopper]

3 hours ago, FunCheerSlut said:

Thanks for the reminders that often it is not worth the risk and the potential for serious consequences. I just wish it were easy to line-up supply with demand.

 I know...I know...that is the reason for the cum dump network as well, right?

Perhaps I am just way too in-heat at the moment and need to cool off. Thanks all! 

It is the nfl playoffs you could host tomorrow and Sunday for the boys, post on reddit in the sissypersonals section for what you're looking for and where you are. Also grindr would help 

[NWUSHorny]

3 hours ago, FunCheerSlut said:

Thanks for the reminders that often it is not worth the risk and the potential for serious consequences. I just wish it were easy to line-up supply with demand.

I wouldn't abandon the idea entirely, just don't be completely blatant about it, try to play it cool. I've doing it 35 years and have been successful at not getting arrested so far. My biggest obstacle is there are cities where it doesn't work, including the one I currently live in. It doesn't stop me from keeping a look out when I travel, so I have hooked up that way within the last several months.