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Okay, what’s up with you tops who somehow magically morph into a bottom on your way over to play? There’s nothing more frustrating than some guy saying he’s a top, but then wants you to top him when he shows up. And more often than not, it is some married “straight” guy totally clueless to the fact that you just spent a half hour or so getting ready to be bred. 

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Oh yeah. Story of my life. I've had guys literally say "normally I'm a top, but I want to bottom with you". On the brighter side, the one who said that back in January actually did fuck me, he just didn't want to cum in me (because he wanted me to fuck him also).

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8 hours ago, KindaBasic said:

Okay, what’s up with you tops who somehow magically morph into a bottom on your way over to play? There’s nothing more frustrating than some guy saying he’s a top, but then wants you to top him when he shows up. And more often than not, it is some married “straight” guy totally clueless to the fact that you just spent a half hour or so getting ready to be bred. 

This situation is more common than you might have thought. Guys often advertise themselves as tops as a chance to get more attention online, at least that has been my experience. I don’t know why they feel the need to be dishonest, there are plenty of tops to go around, in my opinion.

The other reason that seems to produce this sort of “change in position” preference is partying.  That has been talked about a lot on this Forum, and I am convinced it has played a major part in why some tops suddenly decide they are bottoms…….

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I've only had it a couple of times from self-proclaimed Tops on the sites. It is annoying, especially as all my profiles state explicitly that I'm a bottom and thats not going to change. I've had plenty of hints from guys as well. The, "its a shame you don't Top!" approach. As if they are going to talk me out of a lifetime of behaviour after a few minutes of foreplay. Thankfully, as was mentioned earlier, there seem to be enough genuine guys to play with. At least so far.

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26 minutes ago, ellentonboy said:

This situation is more common than you might have thought. Guys often advertise themselves as tops as a chance to get more attention online, at least that has been my experience. I don’t know why they feel the need to be dishonest, there are plenty of tops to go around, in my opinion.

how are the housing prices in your area? because i am moving there immediately! 😜

i currently live in southern new england aka bottom capital of the world. the last guy who bred me did so after a long day of swallowing anon loads at a glory hole. even the tops are bottoms here 😜

meth is one part of it but it also much more. considering that the last two guys i topped were a bi flip-flopper and a str8 anal-curious novice, i think tucker carlson has a point about male masculinity crisis: even becky with the good hair's husband craves anon raw dick up the ass 😜

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I my case it was more gradual than magical. I used to love topping and now it doesn't do much for me.

I used to fuck this truly beautiful and hot hyper-muscular guy with a giant cock every time we met at the sex club but  after a while our interaction started changing. I started giving him long blow jobs sessions which he used to deny me in our first encounters and I started fantasizing what would it be like to be fucked by him. The time I gathered the courage to ask him to fuck me he flat out refused and told me that he only fucked his husband. Now I just smile when I see him.

I have been chasing cock ever since.

I do not advertise myself as a top though. I don't use hook up apps.

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40 minutes ago, norefusal said:

how are the housing prices in your area? because i am moving there immediately! 😜

i currently live in southern new england aka bottom capital of the world. the last guy who bred me did so after a long day of swallowing anon loads at a glory hole. even the tops are bottoms here 😜

meth is one part of it but it also much more. considering that the last two guys i topped were a bi flip-flopper and a str8 anal-curious novice, i think tucker carlson has a point about male masculinity crisis: even becky with the good hair's husband craves anon raw dick up the ass 😜

I wouldn’t put your house up on the market anytime soon. The advantage of living in my area is that it is right at the entrance to the beach area, so I get a lot of guys who are here for a week or so from the Midwest and the Northeast. It really is about location and the fact I can host. These guys are looking for someone close, usually is available during the day as well as early evenings, and can offer privacy. If i lived 15 miles north, or east, I might not be so fortunate. People like myself who live close to resort or beach areas generally have better luck because there are always horny “snow birds” or dare I admit “spring breakers” who are just unfamiliar with the area and don’t want to travel too far. I offer a place that is easy to find so I get a lot of guys off of Sniffies and other telephone apps. It’s that saying “location, location, location”.😀

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for us boomers and GenXers who lived thru the trauma of the aids crisis: prep was a game changer. even tho i've taken countless loads over the past few years, emotionally it's never enough to compensate for decades of not taking any. 

we are also not young studs and boners on demand is a thing of the past. 

milenials take too many antidepressants 😜prozac gave me ED and as a 30 something i flushed that shit. i'd rather be depressed than celebate. 

and frankly, given all the yearning for a strong daddy, i think younger guys are too scarred by modern life to be tops. if this was 1960s trump and biden would have had bullets in the back of their heads by now. we older guys may be dicks but we do seem to have thicker skin 

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7 hours ago, ellentonboy said:

This situation is more common than you might have thought. Guys often advertise themselves as tops as a chance to get more attention online, at least that has been my experience. I don’t know why they feel the need to be dishonest, there are plenty of tops to go around, in my opinion.

The other reason that seems to produce this sort of “change in position” preference is partying.  That has been talked about a lot on this Forum, and I am convinced it has played a major part in why some tops suddenly decide they are bottoms…….

I agree.  Too many good tops have converted after too much partying and they aren't even verse either.  Many of the admitted bottoms are determined to make a top out of you lately.  I think the alleged tops are thinking the same way. Either way, it's  a drag and a mood/boner killer. I wish guys would  be honest. If you're not a top, don't say you are or say you're verse. And if you didn't pop a boner the last three encounters, then don't think I'm a magician. (I've wasted lots of Cialis on guys who couldn't get hard even a dick pill.) Ugh

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12 hours ago, ellentonboy said:

This situation is more common than you might have thought. Guys often advertise themselves as tops as a chance to get more attention online, at least that has been my experience. I don’t know why they feel the need to be dishonest, there are plenty of tops to go around, in my opinion.

The other reason that seems to produce this sort of “change in position” preference is partying.  That has been talked about a lot on this Forum, and I am convinced it has played a major part in why some tops suddenly decide they are bottoms…….

I was a complete top for a long time. But then I had a fantastic fuck buddy who slowly, and somewhat methodically, showed me the pleasures of bottoming. Every once in awhile I like to top, but not when I have spent 30-40 minutes in the shower getting ready to get my ass worked. 

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12 hours ago, Loveitraw said:

I've only had it a couple of times from self-proclaimed Tops on the sites. It is annoying, especially as all my profiles state explicitly that I'm a bottom and thats not going to change. I've had plenty of hints from guys as well. The, "its a shame you don't Top!" approach. As if they are going to talk me out of a lifetime of behaviour after a few minutes of foreplay. Thankfully, as was mentioned earlier, there seem to be enough genuine guys to play with. At least so far.

The whole attempt to bait-n-switch is frick’n annoying. 

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11 hours ago, norefusal said:

for us boomers and GenXers who lived thru the trauma of the aids crisis: prep was a game changer. even tho i've taken countless loads over the past few years, emotionally it's never enough to compensate for decades of not taking any. 

we are also not young studs and boners on demand is a thing of the past. 

milenials take too many antidepressants 😜prozac gave me ED and as a 30 something i flushed that shit. i'd rather be depressed than celebate. 

and frankly, given all the yearning for a strong daddy, i think younger guys are too scarred by modern life to be tops. if this was 1960s trump and biden would have had bullets in the back of their heads by now. we older guys may be dicks but we do seem to have thicker skin 

lol I remember back in the early 90s when they dished out Prozac for everything from depression to a hangnail. Doctors must have gotten bonus checks for popping out those prescriptions. Mine put me on them.  Had no trouble getting it up, but just couldn’t cum. 

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14 hours ago, Sharp-edge said:

I've heard that too. They say that they're top but for some weird reason they're into bottoming with you.

As we say driving in NYC, pick a lane and stay in it. I hate flip-fuckers. I’m a bottom leaning versatile, but I’m either going to bottom or I’m going to top if I’m in the mood. But I can’t mentally or physically switch gears back and forth. 

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