I've been at group events where a guy will be on his stomach, getting fucked, while he's scrolling through his phone with no interest in the top fucking him. That's horrible. Unfortunately that is the world we live in. Dick on demand. If you live in a metro area, people have limited time or may have privacy issues, so if you are available and can host, you can grab them. But if you don't answer a message within 5 minutes or so, they are on to the next guy.
I know I have met guys who had shown interest in me, say six months ago, I remember their screen names and pics. But for whatever reason we didn't connect because I wasn't quick enough to respond the first time around. I usually don't call them out on their impatience when I do meet them, generally it's been a good experience and I was happy to grab them for that hour.
I don't take offense. Also many of these sites, you think you are logged off, but to other users you still show as being online and active. In fact you are not. This aggravates people. I know adam4adam has a LOOKING FOR NOW area, and those guys generally respond at a much faster rate. It' technology that doesn't always work, and when you go back and on certain sites you can see when you sent the message, and when they actually read it.
I am of the opinion, and I think this is fair, that if you are actively looking to hook up, then keep your phone or laptop close by, and respond accordingly. But I know of many guys who sign on in the morning, and they don't check their devices for 6 or 8 hours, or even more. To me, that is wrong. I don't sign on to any hook up app unless I am actively looking and able to interact with guys. To me that is the right thing to do............