Breaking “Straight” Guys’ Resolve of Condom Only

[Bimarried001]

34 minutes ago, KindaBasic said:

As you may have noticed, it was in quotes - as in I am quoting him. If it makes a guy feel like he still straight by playing the top, whatever. Whether he calls himself gay, bi, str8, fluid or Martian, I don’t care since he had a nice cock. 

I did notice you had it in quotes as I did I. I was more referring to in general hearing guys call them straight. 

[JamesL100]

I ignore the condom-only profiles whether they are str8, bi or gay.

[norefusal]

21 hours ago, VistaCaBB said:

I like how he asked if you were clean after pulling his tongue out of your ass.  Like little late now buddy. Lol 

when i got Syph i was livid! 

not mad at whoever gave it to me, or myself for being such a slut it literally could have been anyone 😜

i was angry at puritanical society for their archaic efforts to control us. i was at the clinic ranting about why do i have a Tudor dynasty disease in this day and age. they can clone a sheep from cells but they can't eradicate a 15th century disease? i went full conspiracy theory 🤣i was still an underage virgin when they test tubed a baby. 

[hntnhole]

To that silly question a lot of guys hear (are you "clean"?), let's simply establish a "canned" answer given to any guy that allows that question past his lips.  

I nominate the following reply: 

"Sure - I showered just before heading out: how about you"?  

More, that removes from the other guy's intended and insulting connotation of danger (that he's already hunting, btw) any reprieve of the obtuse question, and automatically places him on the "questionable" list - not who he asked the question of.  

For guys that use the fuckapps, and thus have profiles, it can be included in the profile itself, thus obviating the question in the first place in all but the most dull prospective hookups.

 

[Bottom Jim]

I hate the phrase “ are you clean”

of course I washed showered And cleaned out.

but that is not what is meant Unless they are on prep hiv is a possibility. They need to look closer at what they are doing and ask better questions 

[norefusal]

i actually hear "you DDF?" much more often. i usually just nod are give some barely answered response. perhaps this is a dick attitude, but i only asked such things before i got a prep. i mean, im fucking raw because i accept the risks i take and they should too. if i give someone an STI because im in that window of infected but no symptoms yet, thats the risk they took when they decided to fuck around. not my problem. 

the condom thing w cheaters im more wish washy on. i purposefully don't travel w them. sometime when i host and they ask i deny i have any. i mean, if u require it, then fucking bring your own. but my willingness to cave is  proportionate to how thirsty i am to get fucked. a dick in your home is worth two on grindr. 😜

[KindaBasic]

9 hours ago, norefusal said:

i actually hear "you DDF?"

I see DDF more online. 

[KindaBasic]

On 6/16/2024 at 10:00 PM, Bimarried001 said:

I did notice you had it in quotes as I did I. I was more referring to in general hearing guys call them straight. 

 To be honest, I just find it odd that any one feels the need to even tell me that they are str8, gay or whatever in anonymous settings. Like that is what I am concerned about. 

[Fprefect570]

I had a lot of bad experiences with “straight” dudes in the past including almost getting caught by their wives. 
 

personally it’s not worth the trouble for me. 

[norefusal]

13 hours ago, Fprefect570 said:

I had a lot of bad experiences with “straight” dudes in the past including almost getting caught by their wives. 
 

personally it’s not worth the trouble for me. 

i find the opposite. 

i mean i get it, weather it's coworkers, friends, or fuckbuddies, str8 guys are always high maintenance 😜

but i like the way they fuck. they're always so happy to have permission to live out all of their perverted porn fantasies, that they readily adapt to kink. no one wants to snarl "take it bitch!" then spit in the face of the mother of their children, even if it's just fun roll play. it's weird. and nobody enjoys tight ass like a guy used to fucking the busted cunt of a mom after multiple births. 

 

[Bimarried001]

18 hours ago, KindaBasic said:

 To be honest, I just find it odd that any one feels the need to even tell me that they are str8, gay or whatever in anonymous settings. Like that is what I am concerned about. 

Makes them feel better I guess. 

[hntnhole]

16 hours ago, Bimarried001 said:

Makes them feel better I guess

That's not something I never felt "called upon" to do.  When guys meet in a bar, tubs, whatever, the assumption is they're there for sex with other guys.  All it takes is copping a feel to lay down the parameters of who's gonna fuck who, and how.  We don't need to make other guy's feel "less-than" because they haven't arrived at the same decisions we have.  Some guys just take longer to get to where they need to be (and some never do manage).   

To the OP though, I suppose it depends on where the two guys meet.  If it's online, it's easy for one to disappear if every little detail isn't exactly what they think they want.  No guy can be blamed for arriving at, and sticking to their limits.  When each guy's limits aren't in sync, better to just say something like 'thanks anyway' and move on. 

We need to respect each other enough to accept the other guy's limits, and when that's in conflict with what we're prowling for, just say something vague-yet-acceptable, and keep prowling for "the real deal'.

Edited June 19 by hntnhole
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[KindaBasic]

On 6/18/2024 at 2:30 PM, norefusal said:

i find the opposite. 

i mean i get it, weather it's coworkers, friends, or fuckbuddies, str8 guys are always high maintenance 😜

but i like the way they fuck. they're always so happy to have permission to live out all of their perverted porn fantasies, that they readily adapt to kink. no one wants to snarl "take it bitch!" then spit in the face of the mother of their children, even if it's just fun roll play. it's weird. and nobody enjoys tight ass like a guy used to fucking the busted cunt of a mom after multiple births. 

 

I like meeting up with straight married guys at baths or arcades, but they can be difficult trying to hookup online. I don’t know what all these guys do for a living, but they all seem to want to meet late morning or afternoon. Then they get confused when I try to explain I can’t just leave work to accommodate them. 

[norefusal]

8 hours ago, KindaBasic said:

I like meeting up with straight married guys at baths or arcades, but they can be difficult trying to hookup online. I don’t know what all these guys do for a living, but they all seem to want to meet late morning or afternoon. Then they get confused when I try to explain I can’t just leave work to accommodate them. 

yes. post lockdown i was able to work from home for over a year and str8 guys love the mid-day quickie between meetings or on the way to or from home. early am "going to the gym honey" etc 

now i have "summer hrs" so get fri afternoons off and that's when i host most of my anon hookups. 

the worst was when i was still married and trying to start playing around. i gained a new respect for cheaters then. trying to schedule a DL hookup is like trying to solve a rubic's cube 😜

[KindaBasic]

9 hours ago, norefusal said:

worst was when i was still married and trying to start playing around. i gained a new respect for cheaters then. trying to schedule a DL hookup is like trying to solve a rubic's cube 😜

It’s not that I can’t empathize, but a lot of them get uppity if I’m not about to change my world for their convenience. But then, if I had trouble finding dick as a bottom, I might be more desperate to do so. lol