chatroom of horny guys, but not pnp

[tallslenderguy]

On 7/1/2024 at 10:55 AM, gaypigbb said:

Hey!

I cannot believe it is so difficult to find guys into verbal/videochat about kinky stuff, share stories, ideas, experiences etc. Countless times ive ended up in the dark (and sad) zoom rooms with lots of high guys smoking or slamming Tina all alone in their bedroom. No talk, no chat, just the endless staring. I really wish it was a room for us who are interested in actual sex! No pnp-shaming, i do it myself occationally with the right group of pigs. But i would love a place to talk, chat, discuss sex live, like these chatrooms, just verbal/video! A

 

i, generally, despise "chat rooms."  To me, more often than not, it's an endless stream of drivel.    Frankly, BZ is the only gay site i know of where Men actually engage in lengthy communication and exchange. 

"...generally."

There is the rare occasion where i get into a pm exchange in a chat room, and it can be great, but that's rare. my experience is that messaging has changed communication. Many guys seem either incapable or unaware of how to engage using writing. i have found that many guys even treat email like it's text messaging, writing and responding in short, three word sentences. 

To be fair, a lot of guys go online to find a hook up and "are interested in actual sex" vs "verbal/videochat about kinky stuff, share stories, ideas, experiences etc."   Those guys will often put something like: "no endless emails" in their profile lol.  Which i sorta get, testosterone is not known for its patience.  

On the other hand, there are guys online purportedly looking for connection online, "something more, etc., " and i find myself frustrated by their lack of communication to facilitate that goal. i have come up with all sorts of reasons:

1) Ignorance. Some guys have simply never learned how to communicate in writing. They do not realize they are only as visible as what and how they write. 

2) laziness.  Some guys want the other guy to do all the work. In a sense, we are just porn they are watching vs a connection or exchange they are having with another person.

3) Fear. A lot of conflicted guys are online... it's a "safe" place and they are there because they are afraid/conflicted  of/about who and how they are. Gay sites are full of this kind of guy, empty profiles, no response when someone reaches out. 

4) immaturity/self absorption. This one sort of overlaps with all of the other reasons. Some people do not mature or develop beyond a state where it's all about them, they only want to get, not give. 

5) They are altered. It may be alcohol or some mind altering drug, something that renders them incapable of actual mutual exchange, more of the one sided stuff.  As a critical care nurse who frequently has patients who've blown out their brain or heart using meth, i don't think it's a great choice of substance. To me, the only substance altered guys i've ever experienced who are engaging are guys using marijuana. i'd much rather be with someone stoned on marijuana than alcohol or other drugs. 

[Luvbbslut]

Private message is often a good way to do it. But I've never done it with a group, always with one guy at the time. 

I enjoy verbal a lot, and would love to try with several other guys too. And why not voice messages or calls soon

[gaypigbb]

Hot, I agree it's always easier with 1to1. 

Edited July 7 by gaypigbb