'Shallow' Ass?

[dude8688]

Long time vers guy, I'm 37 now. I mainly top nowadays but used to love bottoming. However, when I feel the need to take dick nowadays, I still get frustrated because it seems my ass is just not 'deep' enough for dicking. The top gets about three or four inches inside then hits my second hole. 

 

So my question is, do some guys have longer back passages than others? It just seems like there's very little room for manoeuvre back there, ha. I can stick my middle finger in and if it's fully inserted I'm pretty much nearly inside the second hole. That's only a matter if inches at best. I watch porn guys and gals who take such deep dicking, and even amateur gay guys, (before you say 'don't expect porn to mirror reality') and I've stood and watched dudes in bath houses take slammings with ease. I have played with my ass for years so I don't think it's a question of 'training' or anything.

 

Strangely enough if I relax I can actually take my 7.5 inch dildo relatively easily past the second hole. So is it just a mindset thing? Or is it because I don't use poppers? I honestly don't know.

[BootmanLA]

Do men's rectums vary? Of course they do.

It's possible you have a much shorter-than-average rectum. Fully stretched, the "average" adult male rectum is between 10 and 15 centimeters long, or roughly 4 to 6 inches, with most on the longer side of that range.

Remember, though, that the "second hole" is merely the junction between the end of your large intestine and the start of your rectum. It's not an additional "hole"; it's simply a connection point, and there's usually a bend at that juncture as well. Anything entering the rectum from the anus and heading toward the back end is going to feel like it's hitting a wall - unless, as you note, you are relaxed enough for your colon to shift position enough to accommodate the additional length of insertion. 

And there's a lot of other stuff going on in there - for instance, your colon goes up, over, and back down, surrounding your small intestine. If things are shifted around in there a bit (for example, due to a hernia), it may be that your rectum is of average length but it's compressed slightly because of the small intestine. Or there could be other factors at play.

The important thing is to treat taking dick the way you take your dildo - slowly, relaxing. Once it's gone deep enough at a slow pace, you may be able to take rougher, deeper poundings because your innards have shifted and adjusted enough to handle it. If a guy just tries to push balls deep from the start before you relax, your system may be fighting it (and tensing up in a way that prevents any progress from being made).

You might even find it helpful to be opened up by a toy first, slowly and relaxed, until you're really open, then let the top replace the toy with his cock. Worth a try, at least.

Here's an image explaining the "standard" layout of everything, which may help you visualize how things being shifted around a bit inside could make it harder to go deep.

[hairyone]

Do you have stress issues? Getting past my second hole takes a lot of concentration to relax since i have stress issues. But once i do, yee ha!

[Falls727]

I have always been fortunate to have a very long and large rectum. I’ve had some huge dicks in me, but it does require relaxation and deep breathing. But when you are relaxed and the fucking begins, your toes curl and your eyes roll back in your head, your are in heaven.

[Willing]

I'd love that😵