Is it inappropriate to offer your hole to fuck in a well known cruising spot that doesn't see much of that kind of activity?

[Alexpdx]

On 9/6/2024 at 11:06 AM, NWUSHorny said:

My problem is, and I'm fully versatile, is that most guys here simply don't fuck or get fucked. Even for oral, which I consider foreplay not the main course, while there are more than enough cock suckers to go around for the limited number of men that allow strangers to suck their cock, there really isn't even an abundance of cock suckers. For the most part the legal issue is close to a moot point, it is legal in any private establishment that chooses to allow it, so you are safe from arrest and prosecution in the bathhouse, ABS, adult theater and even a few bars. We even have officially nude beach parks that have wooded areas that serve as cruising areas. One of my major problems is the guys that don't fuck or even suck, use the same hookup spots and create so much signal interference that it makes it difficult to even cruise for a random fuck. The hookup apps are no better, they are full of profiles of men looking for a relationship, a buddy to hang out with, or guys who only want to engage in cuddling and other forms of very preliminary foreplay, not find someone to fuck and breed with.

 

For the most part parks have an enforced closing time, we don't have much opportunity for that. Especially when factoring in the cock blocking signal interference, an hour or 2 isn't enough time to find someone.

As a fellow Portlander, I can confirm this town has an extraordinary I’ll low actual-fucking-to-queer man ratio. It’s quite depressing. I’ve been to a standing quarterly gay orgy where literally every guy was standing against a wall jacking off while me and two other bottoms were ass up on the beds waiting to get fucked. WTH? Similarly at a local porn theater.  I can’t believe how much work it is to get fucked here. 
 

Were you at Collins or Rooster Rock?  Seems like Collins has been pretty tame this year since the self-appointed morality police on Fetlife decided to start calling the police on folks.  

[NWUSHorny]

@brnbk not sure if the Portland incident can fully explain it, since it also extends to Seattle, WA and across the border int Vancouver, BC. All 3 cities seem to share an affinity for fetishes and kinks, that I've never seen else where as well as a dislike of penetrative gay sex, or in many cases any kind of sex that involves a penis.

[NWUSHorny]

5 minutes ago, Alexpdx said:

As a fellow Portlander, I can confirm this town has an extraordinary I’ll low actual-fucking-to-queer man ratio. It’s quite depressing. I’ve been to a standing quarterly gay orgy where literally every guy was standing against a wall jacking off while me and two other bottoms were ass up on the beds waiting to get fucked. WTH? Similarly at a local porn theater.  I can’t believe how much work it is to get fucked here. 
 

Were you at Collins or Rooster Rock?  Seems like Collins has been pretty tame this year since the self-appointed morality police on Fetlife decided to start calling the police on folks.  

I was at Rooster Rock, I haven't been to Collins in several years. Your information about the "morality police on FetLife" could be a clue, even in the ABS, bathhouses, orgies and anywhere men cruise, I've long noticed a strong dislike of fucking and sucking among the fetish and kink practitioners. They seem to greatly out number the regular garden variety gay fuck pigs here in the PNW, but barely have a presence in cities and venues where it is easy to find like minded fuckers. If they are calling the police on us they must feel threatened by guys who actually fuck and or letting us know about the local custom of not fucking. I learned many years ago to stay away from the fetish themed events at the bathhouses, after being told by multiple attendees, not bathhouse employees" that my interests were not welcome at their events. I've also learned to check the bathhouse website calendar if I show up and can't find a parking place, 9 times out of 10 they are having a fetish event (or in the case of Steam massage or spa night) that will be pure frustration for me, so I turn around and go home.

[Alexpdx]

7 minutes ago, NWUSHorny said:

I was at Rooster Rock, I haven't been to Collins in several years. Your information about the "morality police on FetLife" could be a clue, even in the ABS, bathhouses, orgies and anywhere men cruise, I've long noticed a strong dislike of fucking and sucking among the fetish and kink practitioners. They seem to greatly out number the regular garden variety gay fuck pigs here in the PNW, but barely have a presence in cities and venues where it is easy to find like minded fuckers. If they are calling the police on us they must feel threatened by guys who actually fuck and or letting us know about the local custom of not fucking. I learned many years ago to stay away from the fetish themed events at the bathhouses, after being told by multiple attendees, not bathhouse employees" that my interests were not welcome at their events. I've also learned to check the bathhouse website calendar if I show up and can't find a parking place, 9 times out of 10 they are having a fetish event (or in the case of Steam massage or spa night) that will be pure frustration for me, so I turn around and go home.

I’m finding myself avoiding those events, too. Hawks on Friday nights has become a social club with virtually no sexed any kind. Bizarre. 
 

I did go to an event at Sanctuary- the Cowboy Leather Daddy thing. It was much more of what I’d expect from a gay sex club. Ample amounts of fucking throughout the venue. I did not play much because I was there with a friend who was overwhelmed by the scene and wanted to bail, but you might keep an eye out for similar events there. They seem to be about once a quarter. I went to the Hey Coach event and trot fucked by a few guys and fucked a few myself. 

[NWUSHorny]

3 minutes ago, Alexpdx said:

I’m finding myself avoiding those events, too. Hawks on Friday nights has become a social club with virtually no sexed any kind. Bizarre. 
 

I did go to an event at Sanctuary- the Cowboy Leather Daddy thing. It was much more of what I’d expect from a gay sex club. Ample amounts of fucking throughout the venue. I did not play much because I was there with a friend who was overwhelmed by the scene and wanted to bail, but you might keep an eye out for similar events there. They seem to be about once a quarter. I went to the Hey Coach event and trot fucked by a few guys and fucked a few myself. 

No fuck Fridays were always the norm at both bathhouses prior to COVID, it has taken some time to return completely back to normal.

I've never actually been to Sanctuary in Portland, but am a big fan of the Sanctuary events in LA. I have traveled for work more than 75% a lot of the time I lived in Portland, and because of my ability to sniff out decent cruising spots even in small cities, there have been times that I didn't put myself through the frustration of trying to hookup here for more than a year at a time and just hooked when I was outside the PNW.

Eventually I will get my act together and move to a region I know I can find sex when I'm at home. 

[PozToxVersPig]

There was a place like this in Seattle where it was considered strictly jerking and sucking.  The rationale, as far as I understood it, was that you could put your shit away really fast if cops rolled up.  The reason it was popular was that it sat at the intersection of North Seattle / UDistrict, Downtown and Capitol Hill and there was a mom/pop grocery store which meant there were plenty of cars coming and going.  The cops did roll up though.   

Guys like me who liked to breed never went there (we had plenty of other places) because we knew the dudes that were going there were vanilla fucks who'd probably want to use a condom if they did fuck.

But seriously, far be it from a gay to bypass any opportunity to talk down to another gay and explain the rules of the game.  

I think you were fine in your approach.  If you want a list of fun Seattle places, hit me up.  It's probably already on here.

[NWUSHorny]

28 minutes ago, PozToxVersPig said:

If you want a list of fun Seattle places, hit me up.  It's probably already on here.

I rarely get up to Seattle, but if you know of any cruising spots or sex clubs that are the equivalent of what Denver has/had, I lived there for 9 years, I'm all ears. 

[PozToxVersPig]

Well, Denver has NOTHING now so you're already ahead.  The place you must go, given what I'm reading of your profile, is Club Z.  It's a super sleezy really fun three story place.  The best room is the third floor sling room (right at the top of the stairs) which is where I was pozzed.  It's seedy, no condoms, a really really really fun time.  I miss it.

[NWUSHorny]

12 minutes ago, PozToxVersPig said:

Well, Denver has NOTHING now so you're already ahead.  The place you must go, given what I'm reading of your profile, is Club Z.  It's a super sleezy really fun three story place.  The best room is the third floor sling room (right at the top of the stairs) which is where I was pozzed.  It's seedy, no condoms, a really really really fun time.  I miss it.

I can't believe Denver has lost all of its bathhouses. Club Z, the handful of times I've been seems pretty tame compared to what I was used to at Denver Swim Club and Midtowne Spa. I'm not sure exactly where I became poz, I'm pretty sure I caught it topping since I wasn't bottoming bareback. It happened in fall of 2017, after sticking my dick in 100's of cum filled holes in LA, San Diego, Palm Springs and Las Vegas. Slammer is certainly one of many possibilities given where I was traveling at the time.

[PozToxVersPig]

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