Question for married bottoms and vers

[mblad99]

I have a question for married bottoms and vers, especially if they are still sexually active with their spouses:  How do you protect yourself from STDs when you are getting fucked?  Do you insist on condoms?  Prep?  Chose your partners wisely?   

I know there are some risks for tops, but bottoms seem to carry the greatest risks.

[BareBackBubbleButt]

If I had to guess, I’m guessing most married guys on this site have stopped having sex with their spouse. 

[Bimarried001]

I no longer have sex with my wife but I did for many years while getting fucked by men. I was never concern while getting fucked by men but I was more concerned when I fucked other females. Guess I thought (wrongly?) that if I got an std in my ass I could not pass it on to her. 
 

I never gave my wife an std but she did get hiv. 

[Guest]

We both are sexually very active, together, together with others, and on our own. We've been together for 28 years, and we still fuck like rabbits. Yes, we do have dry spells here and there, like everything else in life. We have been fucking raw almost all our lives, save for a few years in late 80's/ early 90's. 

What we do is that we test regularly as we accept the risks associated with our libertine lifestyle. We go through gono and chlam twice or three times a year. Syph once every 18-24 months. A quick test, a shot in the butt, 7-10  days of solo wanking, and we're good to go. 

We stopped worrying about STD's and just accept it as a token payment for our sexual freedom. 

If you're worried about hiv, get on prep if your health allows. If you're worried about passing on any STD to your partner, then time to have an honest convo with him (or her). IF your partner doesn't know you're getting fucked or that you fuck others outside your partnership, then it's called cheating. Cheating always ends badly for everyone involved. So be upfront and discuss your feelings and your situation with your partner. Being honest about your sexual desires is equally important as any other feelings.

Almost the entire population of the globe views sexual activity as a sin. Me and my partner view it as a pure pleasure, and we accept the health risks associated with it without a big fuss. Yes, it is uncomfortable to get a shot in the butt. But so is getting diabetes because we eat too much. Too much sugar, too many carbs, etc. Getting a gono or chlam is significantly preferable to getting diabetes and having to shot insulin twice a day for the rest of your life. Testing poz for hiv is a drag, i admit; it comes with complications. But so is having any other lifelong illnesses and conditions: heart, blood, bone, kidneys, etc. 

Both me and my hubby are vers. Me, more bottom. Him, more top. We are both at risk of STD's almost equally. Choosing partners wisely? Yes, we tried that. And we failed miserably as in almost all cases when we tried to 'choose' our partners based on their perceived health and risk, we ended up with a little surprise. 

If the OP is concerned about contracting any std (hiv included) I'd recommend having an honest conversation with the partner and decide the way forward that works best for them. Each partnership has its own dynamic, but being open, honest and communicating your desires with your partner is key to happiness. What if your partner wants the same thing deep down? You'd miss a life of pleasure and happiness. And if he doesn't like that... Well, only you can tell what's worth or not. However, make sure that opening the conversation is not going to hurt your relationship in the long run. Because if he doesn't like the idea, you can't un-say what you said. And if you decide to stay monogamous, he'll always suspect cheating. Which in the end, is not a healthy relationship. 

So the only advice from this long rant is to be open and honest with your partner and be prepared for answers you don't want to hear...

 

[Guest]

Wife and I have an agreement to vet our sexual partners with utmost care. Since we've indulged in the Hotwife lifestyle, She prefers it with one of her regular guys, I also have a guy, and I don’t do the whole stranger/cumdump/bathhouse scene (not judging anybody who does). Keeping our lovers balls empty seems to help in preventing them from fucking around too much, thus preventing stds from appearing. Not a failsafe, but works for us  😉

[Warmnsalty]

Mrs and I fuck each other and fuck others.  Prep and testing regularly is the key. I'm the cum slut in the family LOVE getting loads in my mouth, face and bred. Also love watching Mrs take loads in her pussy or ass, she hates cum in her mouth. We both, generally speaking, look for attached guys, married or partners. Not something everyone is comfortable with but to each their own. We don't fuck for relationships, we fuck for fun. Plenty of guys looking for discreet, non committal action on the side. 

[Njn0mc]

On 10/18/2024 at 2:21 PM, mblad99 said:

I have a question for married bottoms and vers, especially if they are still sexually active with their spouses:  How do you protect yourself from STDs when you are getting fucked?  Do you insist on condoms?  Prep?  Chose your partners wisely?   

I know there are some risks for tops, but bottoms seem to carry the greatest risks.

Yes still active if not more active with my spouse.  It's like a switch I can take a load but then I can get horny to fuck my spouse. 

I am mostly very picky with the guys I play with and mostly BB with them.

 

I do go to a free clinic for testing 

[RobertBottomSlut]

I denied myself the pleasure I truly desired. And eventually it blew up inside me and finally ended in divorce. I was taking raw cock that same week. 

[descartes70817]

At first I tried to be choosy and only went bareback with men who said they were married, negative and equally choosy while I was saying the same about myself. Then I realized that any or all of them could have been lying - just the same as I was - and became a lot less choosy. I knew the risk but my need for raw man sex over-rode my common sense, so there were nights I fucked her with cum in my ass and other nights where I fucked her even though I fucked some random guy just a couple of hours before.

[MuscledHorse]

My husband and i are both promiscuous--me far more so than him. Sex is our pleasure sport and we understand that every sport has its hazards. For sport sex it's STI's. They have happened, we get treated and go on. I am tested monthly because I am in group use settings at least 4 days a month and my friends and husband are used to seeing me with my pants down or in a jock strap taking hands and fists in the bars play areas while guys watch. We attach no meaning beyond STI's any more than we do a cold or the flu; they just happen and you have to deal with them.

[Hole4u]

1 hour ago, MuscledHorse said:

We attach no meaning beyond STI's any more than we do a cold or the flu; they just happen and you have to deal with them.

I wish everyone could have this attitude.  No hiding, judgment or shame. 

[Memphian]

Wife and I haven't fucked in over a year.  Back when we were still fucking, I did fuck her when I had an assload of cum and some dripped down on her thighs, which was hot.  

So I don't worry about giving her anything now that we don't fuck.  The cheating whore gave me crabs about two years ago for that that's worth.

[GuelphGuy72]

I am impotent due to a tumor in my spine years ago.  I have not had PIV sex with my wife in over 11 years now.  I still do oral on her from time to time.  I can only orgasm from prostate massage and she is not interested in pegging.  A few years ago we decided to have an open marriage due to the sexual frustrations we both had.  She wanted to get fucked by a real functioning cock and I wanted to explore my bi side which I had surprised most of my life other than some exploration when I was in university.  She has a few FWBs and I like to hit the baths.  We are both on PrEP. I used to insist on condoms until I got on PrEP.  Once I tried bare for the first time, I was done with condoms.  I test every three months STIs.  I am at a point now where I am a no load refused bottom.  I don’t ask about status anymore.  I am relying on PrEP to do its thing and accept that I may get other STIs from time to time.