Why do I like being watched and shared?

[NWUSHorny]

I'm a bit of an exhibitionist and love group sex, so I love being watched and having other guys join in.

[NWUSHorny]

On 7/6/2025 at 5:13 AM, kinkysuBB said:

The religious angle is interesting. I live what used to be a very conservative Catholic society (Ireland). Beginning with my parents generation that started to shift and in my lifetime things have swung very much the other way, so much so that we’re now one of the most liberal countries in Europe. We’re not Berlin level but we’re level of ahead of most places in terms of live and let live.

It’s a slightly different situation for you I think. As a Mormon in (I assume) the USA, you’d have been part of a conservative group in an overall liberal nation (I know the USA is a big place and there’s nuance and geography to this, but overall America was a lot more liberal than Ireland anyway until relatively recently). So it’s probably a personal liberation for you and finding your place in a bigger society that allows for that?

Unfortunately the Catholic guilt thing is still big here, particularly among older men (not ancient, anyone who grew up in the 80s or before). And it’s a small place with few degrees of separation between people and word travels fast so even younger guys have a level of discretion you don’t find in bigger cities and countries. Guys are more timid about joining in on this type of sex, particularly if cameras are involved or big groups where they might end up knowing somebody. That probably doesn’t apply to you outside your old Mormon circle, in which case enjoy that and run with it! 

I found the religious and cultural angle interesting, having moved from and still frequently traveled to more religious and culturally conservative areas to Portland which is one of the most politically liberal and least religious cities in the US. Group sex and exhibitionism really aren't a thing in Portland, they won't even watch let alone join in. They readily accept people going out in public dressed in sexual fetish gear that would not fly very many places. Guys will walk other guys through a park wearing a dog mask on a leash through a public park in broad daylight and no one will bat an eye. We also have heavy promotion of hetero normative gay monogamous relationships, but will ignore and slut shame anyone who even dares to admit they are looking to hookup for a casual fuck in a bathhouse or anywhere else gay men typically hookup. Sexual preferences or even an indication that you want to fuck are mostly verboten on the hookup apps. There is more to it than just the cultural and religious aspects. I can easily find willing partners to play when I'm working in predominantly Mormon Utah or in the deeply religious towns in the Midwest (like the area I grew up in), as well as liberal and less religious cities like LA or Palm Springs, that are impossible to find in the PNW or on up into Canada along the Pacific Coast.

I've been trying to understand it for almost 2 decades, and still don't have a clue what makes some regions more sex averse than others.

[bipaunk]

I don’t know but I enjoy, my bf s used me and shared me, only suck. They said I was a real fag. Ok, I was ypung.

[PozBearWI]

9 hours ago, NWUSHorny said:

I found the religious and cultural angle interesting, having moved from and still frequently traveled to more religious and culturally conservative areas to Portland which is one of the most politically liberal and least religious cities in the US. Group sex and exhibitionism really aren't a thing in Portland, they won't even watch let alone join in. They readily accept people going out in public dressed in sexual fetish gear that would not fly very many places. Guys will walk other guys through a park wearing a dog mask on a leash through a public park in broad daylight and no one will bat an eye. We also have heavy promotion of hetero normative gay monogamous relationships, but will ignore and slut shame anyone who even dares to admit they are looking to hookup for a casual fuck in a bathhouse or anywhere else gay men typically hookup. Sexual preferences or even an indication that you want to fuck are mostly verboten on the hookup apps. There is more to it than just the cultural and religious aspects. I can easily find willing partners to play when I'm working in predominantly Mormon Utah or in the deeply religious towns in the Midwest (like the area I grew up in), as well as liberal and less religious cities like LA or Palm Springs, that are impossible to find in the PNW or on up into Canada along the Pacific Coast.

I've been trying to understand it for almost 2 decades, and still don't have a clue what makes some regions more sex averse than others.

I think it is adequate to understand that sexual openness isn't common across the globe much less your community.  More than regions being sex averse, many individuals in your same town are.  Social norms around the world have always varied.  Shoot sometimes they vary quite a bit from one town to another.  

[hntnhole]

On 7/4/2025 at 7:50 PM, Watch-me-share-me said:

I was hooked and loved it right from the start

Congratulations, Watch-me-share-me. 

I'd say you're among the most fortunate of cumdumps, in that you found (or were found) by a man that sensed your craving, realized who and what you really are, and simply made it possible for you to become that man.  Many have to work much harder to figure out how to make their dreams come true. I would add that the implied connection to a religious belief-system is common for many men, but when push comes to shove, the opaqueness of those strictures becomes apparent easily, once we apply our serious thought to the issue.  

I hope you've thanked that Man who freed you from your inhibitions many times, both verbally and in more thrilling ways as well.   

 

Edited July 8 by hntnhole
phrasing

[hntnhole]

On 7/4/2025 at 9:35 PM, BBBxCumDumpster said:

Some guys I never even saw

^, which allowed you to fantasize the entire event in your mind.  When a bottom simply adores hard, raw Cocks pumping Sperm in his holes, the mind automatically fills in all the details.  There's no real "need" to even see who they are - since the actual, physical, emotional need is being thoroughly satisfied, sight-unseen.   

[hntnhole]

I know this kind of mating ritual isn't available everywhere, but that doesn't mean guys can't aspire to deepening their sexual acts to match their lusts.  Reading these responses only makes a guy all the hornier to get out there and jump into the pool of writhing, breeding men.  

To those who live in more restrictive areas, it might be up to you to advance the possibilities for other, more repressed rawmen.  If you can possibly manage it, why not start a group of men dedicated to pigsex in your area?  Start small - maybe a handful of guys - word will spread, and more will turn up.  Tell the attendee's to tell other guys they know.  Once we taste the sweetness of sating our lusts (however temporarily), the impetus is already there. For men like us, there's hardly a bigger thrill than sharing ourselves with those just like us.  

Nothing comes of nothing, right?  Why not try it?  

[norefusal]

it's the perfect marriage of praise and degradation

you're shared because you're just that good, but you're passed around like an object

they talk openly about how hot you are, but not to you, in front of you, to each other, like you're not even there 

but its not shameful because you're just living your truth, you're a shameless slut 

 

[Watch-me-share-me]

On 7/6/2025 at 7:45 AM, Eagerindayton said:

I think you like it because it is a fucking hot experience for anyone. I loved getting fucked in the baths in my younger days. I love group sex now and wish I could get more of it. Finding someone you trust and wants to share you with others is incredible - enjoy it and seek it out! Memories for later in life. I'm glad I slutted when I was younger and had the opportunities.

"There's something just filthy and hot about being watched and participating in group action. I was very lucky that I could trust my fuck buddy and that he wanted to explore this with me. Also, going to a sex club really puts you in the right mindset."

[Watch-me-share-me]

On 7/6/2025 at 12:59 PM, phillygwm said:

Why psychoanalyze it?  If it's something you enjoy, then enjoy it.  Be sure to put your videos out there 🙂

I do think religion, or a conservative upbringing in general, has a lot to do with it.  I had a friend who was an ordained minister.  He worked for a religious organization which wasn't gay friendly.  His specific role wasn't ministerial and he didn't try to hide things.  But he had a thing for guys who were religious (Ultra Orthodox Jews, otherwise observant Muslims, Mormon missionaries, etc.)  Obviously, it was tough for him to meet guys in those rather insular circles but I think that was part of the appeal for him.  Yeah, a shrink would have had a field day with him but what does it matter?

I think that I feel I need a reason why I like it. So, yes I am over analysing yet, I would like to know what it is that drives this in me as it is as of a core part of my sexual nature. I think knowing would help me enjoy it more.

[BBBxCumDumpster]

On 7/8/2025 at 3:59 PM, hntnhole said:

^, which allowed you to fantasize the entire event in your mind.  When a bottom simply adores hard, raw Cocks pumping Sperm in his holes, the mind automatically fills in all the details.  There's no real "need" to even see who they are - since the actual, physical, emotional need is being thoroughly satisfied, sight-unseen.   

I think not seeing who is inloading in me requires a certain trust and puts me out of my comfort zone. But there is something to be said for looking at a guy whose face says, "I love breeding sluts"; or "what a fine and filthy piece of ass"; or intense eye contact while I  feel the intensity of the  spasms my  hole ." Then I fantasize about the volume of squirts. Is it milky or creamy? Wonder how it tastes 

[hntnhole]

5 hours ago, BBBxCumDumpster said:

think not seeing who is inloading in me requires a certain trust and puts me out of my comfort zone

I don't think that's unwarranted at all.  

Lots of guys have experienced some kind of negative event when they're in a fuckjoint taking loads.  Frankly, it's guys like me that hold all the cards, which also implies a certain level of responsibility one brings to the fuckjoint.  There are certain responsibilities Tops have that bottoms don't.  Tops need to behave responsibly - eat their  Hole, fuck them beautifully, and find something supportive to say (if any words are exchanged). 

There are a lot of Tops who think with their cocks, and we all know that hard cocks have no sense in the first place.

[Traviscraymer]

I really love being watched.  So into the CMNM scenes. Makes me feel good about myself so many people just like watching me play with myself or be fucked. Love it!

[phillygwm]

9 hours ago, Traviscraymer said:

I really love being watched.  So into the CMNM scenes. Makes me feel good about myself so many people just like watching me play with myself or be fucked. Love it!

I don't mind being watched but I LOVE watching.  Especially if I'm speaking to/directing/coaching the top while he's fucking.  Love seeing them as they blow balls deep but want to see them squeeze that last drop out when they've pulled out.

I also like a bottom who effectively has no say in the matter -- nothing more than a breathing fleshlight -- especially if he's been forced to cum before he's penetrated.  Maybe they're blindfolded or at least face down ass up so they don't know what I look like, or broadly what I might do to them (obviously fuck, but might I slide some fingers or have them arouse me orally first?)  

Edited July 11 by phillygwm

[curiouslooker]

26 minutes ago, phillygwm said:

I don't mind being watched but I LOVE watching.  Especially if I'm speaking to/directing/coaching the top while he's fucking.  Love seeing them as they blow balls deep but want to see them squeeze that last drop out when they've pulled out.

I also like a bottom who effectively has no say in the matter -- nothing more than a breathing fleshlight -- especially if he's been forced to cum before he's penetrated.  Maybe they're blindfolded or at least face down ass up so they don't know what I look like, or broadly what I might do to them (obviously fuck, but might I slide some fingers or have them arouse me orally first?)  

That’s a hot scene you just described. Dripping here