Why do I like being watched and shared?

[NWUSHorny]

I'm a bit of an exhibitionist and love group sex, so I love being watched and having other guys join in.

[NWUSHorny]

On 7/6/2025 at 5:13 AM, kinkysuBB said:

The religious angle is interesting. I live what used to be a very conservative Catholic society (Ireland). Beginning with my parents generation that started to shift and in my lifetime things have swung very much the other way, so much so that we’re now one of the most liberal countries in Europe. We’re not Berlin level but we’re level of ahead of most places in terms of live and let live.

It’s a slightly different situation for you I think. As a Mormon in (I assume) the USA, you’d have been part of a conservative group in an overall liberal nation (I know the USA is a big place and there’s nuance and geography to this, but overall America was a lot more liberal than Ireland anyway until relatively recently). So it’s probably a personal liberation for you and finding your place in a bigger society that allows for that?

Unfortunately the Catholic guilt thing is still big here, particularly among older men (not ancient, anyone who grew up in the 80s or before). And it’s a small place with few degrees of separation between people and word travels fast so even younger guys have a level of discretion you don’t find in bigger cities and countries. Guys are more timid about joining in on this type of sex, particularly if cameras are involved or big groups where they might end up knowing somebody. That probably doesn’t apply to you outside your old Mormon circle, in which case enjoy that and run with it! 

I found the religious and cultural angle interesting, having moved from and still frequently traveled to more religious and culturally conservative areas to Portland which is one of the most politically liberal and least religious cities in the US. Group sex and exhibitionism really aren't a thing in Portland, they won't even watch let alone join in. They readily accept people going out in public dressed in sexual fetish gear that would not fly very many places. Guys will walk other guys through a park wearing a dog mask on a leash through a public park in broad daylight and no one will bat an eye. We also have heavy promotion of hetero normative gay monogamous relationships, but will ignore and slut shame anyone who even dares to admit they are looking to hookup for a casual fuck in a bathhouse or anywhere else gay men typically hookup. Sexual preferences or even an indication that you want to fuck are mostly verboten on the hookup apps. There is more to it than just the cultural and religious aspects. I can easily find willing partners to play when I'm working in predominantly Mormon Utah or in the deeply religious towns in the Midwest (like the area I grew up in), as well as liberal and less religious cities like LA or Palm Springs, that are impossible to find in the PNW or on up into Canada along the Pacific Coast.

I've been trying to understand it for almost 2 decades, and still don't have a clue what makes some regions more sex averse than others.

[bipaunk]

I don’t know but I enjoy, my bf s used me and shared me, only suck. They said I was a real fag. Ok, I was ypung.

[PozBearWI]

9 hours ago, NWUSHorny said:

I found the religious and cultural angle interesting, having moved from and still frequently traveled to more religious and culturally conservative areas to Portland which is one of the most politically liberal and least religious cities in the US. Group sex and exhibitionism really aren't a thing in Portland, they won't even watch let alone join in. They readily accept people going out in public dressed in sexual fetish gear that would not fly very many places. Guys will walk other guys through a park wearing a dog mask on a leash through a public park in broad daylight and no one will bat an eye. We also have heavy promotion of hetero normative gay monogamous relationships, but will ignore and slut shame anyone who even dares to admit they are looking to hookup for a casual fuck in a bathhouse or anywhere else gay men typically hookup. Sexual preferences or even an indication that you want to fuck are mostly verboten on the hookup apps. There is more to it than just the cultural and religious aspects. I can easily find willing partners to play when I'm working in predominantly Mormon Utah or in the deeply religious towns in the Midwest (like the area I grew up in), as well as liberal and less religious cities like LA or Palm Springs, that are impossible to find in the PNW or on up into Canada along the Pacific Coast.

I've been trying to understand it for almost 2 decades, and still don't have a clue what makes some regions more sex averse than others.

I think it is adequate to understand that sexual openness isn't common across the globe much less your community.  More than regions being sex averse, many individuals in your same town are.  Social norms around the world have always varied.  Shoot sometimes they vary quite a bit from one town to another.