"Side" Status on Profiles

[TownTravellerMan]

So I recently found out what this means. Or at least I think I did. I haven't been on apps for a number of years. I don't really ever remember this being a term or a thing several years ago. When someone messaged me asking about getting together and they mentioned they are side position. I asked what they meant by that. They said for them it meant they do everything but penetration. They said they sometimes do anal but not much. I got messaged by someone else to and their profile mentioned side and they said they don't do anal at all. I'm kinda curious when this started becoming a thing. I do know some websites/apps just let you not list anal or put that you aren't into that for a preference. 

Also kinda curious how people here feel about profiles that say side for position if they come across it. Even if the guy is cute or you like them would you still want to get together with them or hook up with them. Or is it more of an automatic pass. I think I'll still potentially get with someone who wanted to get together at a later date just to see how the chemistry goes. It's just weird seeing this now when I never saw it several years ago.

[NWUSHorny]

It is a relatively new term, for an old problem. What it means to the sides themselves seems to vary as well, some guys using the label claim they do everything but anal, others interpret it as no anal or oral penetration. Where I live it seems to be mostly guys that do neither oral or anal that have adopted the term, guys that do oral get offended if someone calls them a side, and guys that call themselves sides get offended by the idea that being a side includes doing oral. Guys that don't do penetration of any kind have been in the majority on the apps, in the bathhouses, at the ABS and anywhere men go to look for a hookup, as long as I've lived here so it is just a new term for an old problem. I guess it is a bit nicer than calling them "functionally lesbian" which is what I called them for years before they invented the side label.

Personally I avoid anyone who self identifies as a side, even if their definition includes doing oral, we simply are not going to be sexually compatible if they don't fuck or get fucked which is extremely frustrating for me.