KindaBasic Posted 14 hours ago Report Posted 14 hours ago 11 hours ago, drscorpio said: The hookup apps (and the dating ones too) are all about finding someone who wants to do the things you enjoy doing. I don't mind guys who don't do anal having a term to make it clear where they stand. I would rather the sides find one another; that sounds like less frustration for them and for those of us who think fucking is the most important part. If one does not already exist, I have little doubt that a side focused site and/or app will soon be a thing. Over the years I have known guys not into anal, so no surprise someone has labeled it. I am curious to how that word ended up being “side”, but only because I find language development interesting. 1 Quote
TownTravellerMan Posted 11 hours ago Author Report Posted 11 hours ago 13 hours ago, Iker80 said: It's like that, they ask to hug without asking for other things. It's a recent thing for me. I haven't taken a guy up on the idea, I'm not sure what to think about it. But I do think wanting to be hugged can make bigger guys seem better because they fit easier around you. Some I see are gay or bi, others unknown. My only hugging with a known straight guy is my stepbrother. It happened first when we were at the cabin and it was very cold and he was ill. We had clothes on because it was cold, even with the blankets, and we wouldn't hug naked anyway. Sometimes when we're out there and it's cold we still do. He likes it, it just is something that sometimes happens. I know it's nice to feel safe and that's all for him, and that's all I want it to be. I don't think that feeling would happen with a random guy though, but also I think maybe to feel safe is what the guys online want? However, the difference is we know each other properly and I always look after him. So it's different when I hug him vs. a guy you don't know from online. But of course people will have to accept what they can get when they have needs. Cis is the opposite of trans, it means you're born the gender you are. It actually has no connection with sexuality. I'm a cis man and bi. Being hugged by a big guy is definitely nice. I think that's pretty common with bears as well i think. A hug can be like a greeting but it can be also be warm and comforting. I thought about it some more a hug can be very sexual. But whether a hug is sexual or not can determine on the two people involved. Example when I get hugged by a man i think is hot my dick gets hard and leaky. And generally so does the man I'm hugging. I've discovered recently that some guys will grind their dick against you when they are hard and that's very sexual as well. And this is with clothes on. At the same time though I've hugged females and friends and no hard on or wetspot. But I think that's also a lot to do with the chemistry between people whether that's sexual or not. So I kinda did know that. However on an app let's call it grindr for the sake of the example 😭 They let you classify as man or cis man. This is apparently outside of pronouns which i believe is a completely separate thing. There is not really a gay/straight indicator on there. Which is kinda weird even for grindr but I'm new to it so maybe I missed it? But looking for it now. There are tags though and bi is one of them. But there isn't a straight tag?? So from what I've seen from several profiles it's almost like straight/bi guys are using cis man to indicate straight i generally see gay guys just put man. Just my experience and in my area doesn't mean the same for everyone. Shows how kinda fucking weird grindr is lol Also reading what someone else posted after cuddling parties is actually insane at the bath house. I can see that being a not bad concept in general but not at a bath house damn. Quote
Moderators drscorpio Posted 3 hours ago Moderators Report Posted 3 hours ago 10 hours ago, KindaBasic said: If one does not already exist, I have little doubt that a side focused site and/or app will soon be a thing. Over the years I have known guys not into anal, so no surprise someone has labeled it. I am curious to how that word ended up being “side”, but only because I find language development interesting. I would suppose it was as opposed to "bottom" or "top." Saying I am not either. Quote
ellentonboy Posted 2 hours ago Report Posted 2 hours ago Wait....I thought "side" meant I was the guy he fucked on the "side", as he had a partner. His straight neighbor would say "I saw your "side" coming out of your apartment" they shared a common wall in their building. From what I understand straight guys refer to women they sleep with on occasion as "sides" if they are married or in a relationship as well. I am reading all of these posts, and I am like, wow I really missed this one. I thought it was just a term that all the 20 somethings used. Apparently I was totally wrong, glad I read this thread. Amazing what you can learn on BZ. 1 Quote
badubydo Posted 2 hours ago Report Posted 2 hours ago I’ve put in my profile across all the hookups apps I’m on. I’m there to get fucked. It’s beyond annoying when a “side” messages me asking to “hook up” there is no “hooking up” if I don’t have a dick in my hole. I’ve put “no sides” in all my profiles and I’ll still get some who think they are something special and will message me. I look, see in their profile that they are a side and either delete the message or block them. im not on a hookup app to play games. I’m not on a hookup app to suck some dudes nipples so he can get off Quote
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