Carnaval in Rio not good for sex?

[verstop]

I spent the last week in Rio de Janeiro during Carnaval, and am confused as to whether the guys here like having sex or prefer to just dance and kiss and do kindergarten stuff. Maybe I'm the pervert idk.

Besides my husband who I'm here with, I have not had a single sexual encounter during my entire stay. The guys here are beautiful and sexy, and I could have hooked up with just about any of them, but it's just not happening. Is it me? Is it Rio/Brazil? It's my first time here and I don't get the culture (I'm from the Netherlands for context).

Possible reasons:
- transport: everyone lives an hour or more away from everybody else and the transportation system is simply not adequate
- safety: I am advised to always be on my guard and not go beyond a very boring tourist-approved perimeter, especially at night. Doing otherwise apparently risks getting robbed or worse. The apartment we're staying at has a doorman so it's not straightforward to invite casual guests.
- party scene: the parties I've been to seem to be only for dancing and "kissing", which is apparently a big thing. I don't get it: what is so radical about kissing? Are we back in middle school?
- no darkrooms: in addition, the clubs here don't seem to have dark rooms, or any other place to do anything you wouldn't tell grandma about. Again, all you're there to do is listen to music and dance.
- women: in addition, the gay spaces are not really gay but crawling with chicks. I sometimes feel there are more straight girls in gay clubs than in straight bars.
- shy guys: I'm a shy guy myself, so I get it. I just thought Brazilians were not like that. But my experience so far says otherwise 

If anyone has insight into this, I'd be interested. I haven't yet mentioned possible reason #7 which is my cockblocking husband whose idea of an open relationship is I use what little vacation I have to go on trips with him and am a jerk for even entertaining the idea of maybe having a taste of all the male beauty around me. 

Edited Thursday at 07:33 AM by verstop
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[NordicBtm]

When my bf cockblocks me I def tell him in no uncertain terms lol… sometimes guys that would otherwise approach you may pick up on the lurking boyfriend and end up not going for it for that reason. A jealous boyfriend is something I also avoid, it is not worth the hassle and energy for a fuck. But my guess would be that the reason for your dry spell (in gay terms lol) is a combination of the factors you mentioned, it’s rarely just one thing so don’t overthink it or get resentful!

So I am sorry on your behalf about the lack of sexual adventures, but it sounds like otherwise you’ve had a good time. Sometimes that’s just all that happens and it is what it is!

[verstop]

21 minutes ago, NordicBtm said:

When my bf cockblocks me I def tell him in no uncertain terms lol… sometimes guys that would otherwise approach you may pick up on the lurking boyfriend and end up not going for it for that reason. A jealous boyfriend is something I also avoid, it is not worth the hassle and energy for a fuck. But my guess would be that the reason for your dry spell (in gay terms lol) is a combination of the factors you mentioned, it’s rarely just one thing so don’t overthink it or get resentful!

So I am sorry on your behalf about the lack of sexual adventures, but it sounds like otherwise you’ve had a good time. Sometimes that’s just all that happens and it is what it is!

Thank you for the sympathy 😁 if I tell him he's cockblocking he throws a fit so I try to be diplomatic on that front.

Anyway, I didn't mean to be self-pitying. I'm just struck by the discrepancy between reputation and actuality. I somehow thought Brazil was easy-going, sex positive and a good place to get laid. But indeed it might just be my personal circumstances.

There is also the language barrier, I forgot to mention that.

Edited Thursday at 09:40 AM by verstop

[bareback-flipflop]

I have never been there, so I can’t help with adequate explanation only with ideas. 
Based on my experiences sometimes there are big differences between reality and how it presented in the social media or other platforms. 
The other factor is that the Carnaval is a central event there, so there are lots of people and it can increase the guys” shyness. Furthermore, also based on my experiences more the guys higher the number of picky ones. I see that always and everywhere except in one place that was the 321 Slammer in Fort Lauderdale. 
 

As for the cockblocking and jealous husbands, I have a strict rule: only non-monogamous and open relationship is welcome. Independently of serious problems with my relationship, this one works very well. Wr can have sex with each other with guests or individually or even in front of each other only with a third one. 
I respect monogamy but do it with someone else. 😁

[NWUSHorny]

I haven't been to Brazil, but would suspect it is a combination of things on your list. Is it possible the darkrooms don't exist at establishments within the "safe" tourist perimeter? At least in the US establishments that host such attractions are forced out of the "acceptable" areas in many cities. I also suspect the cockblocking boyfriend lurking nearby is a significant factor.

[Yeasure]

7 hours ago, bareback-flipflop said:

I have never been there, so I can’t help with adequate explanation only with ideas. 
Based on my experiences sometimes there are big differences between reality and how it presented in the social media or other platforms. 
The other factor is that the Carnaval is a central event there, so there are lots of people and it can increase the guys” shyness. Furthermore, also based on my experiences more the guys higher the number of picky ones. I see that always and everywhere except in one place that was the 321 Slammer in Fort Lauderdale. 
 

As for the cockblocking and jealous husbands, I have a strict rule: only non-monogamous and open relationship is welcome. Independently of serious problems with my relationship, this one works very well. Wr can have sex with each other with guests or individually or even in front of each other only with a third one. 
I respect monogamy but do it with someone else. 😁

So true about the more men, the pickier they are. Bear Week in Ptown is the same. I call it Grindr A.D.D.  

[hntnhole]

13 hours ago, verstop said:

Besides my husband who I'm here with, I have not had a single sexual encounter during my entire stay.

I wonder if your husband is the issue;  Carnival in Rio is infamous for wide-open sexual expression.  Is it possible that he's behind the non-action?  We went (it was years ago now) once, and it was as though every tubs/bookstore/fuckjoint in the Northern Hemisphere had temporarily relocated to Rio. 

Brazil is loaded with stunningly beautiful men, and surely they're fucking each other someplace ... 

[RubberAustria]

 I was in Brazil for one month years ago. In big cities at discos I had the impression that many cute boys took too much enhancements. So it was all about dancing and drugs and not fucking. In the sauna I expected twinks with sixpack, white teeth etc. Well, even the rent boys were slightly overweight men that were eating the whole time in the sauna. So like Miichael Jackson was singing : you are not alone!

[PozFunBER]

Some food for thought from a Brazil-fan (never been to carnaval though):

1. whenever I aimed for sex, it didn’t happen (expectations vs. reality)

2. carnaval is not matinee , it’s about letting go, yes but to have sex, you have to SHOW you are available … shy is not your friend, Brazilians don’t want to get harassed but flirting is key, otherwise they might judge us quickly as arrogant / cold hearted Europeans 😉

3. the action is NOT in Instagram-rich tourist places … if you want to see the real Rio, go in the dark streets

3.a and yes, most definitely, leave ALL valuables in the room! Do NOT bring your phone. WALK, explore, have some cash for a cab for the way home, no bling anywhere; just you and your horniness. I always have a „throw away smartphone“ with me that I could easily hand over if getting robbed. It only contains one credit card data and uber app and Google Maps. DONE. 
 

3.b try become friends with Cariocas; the best sex I had in a Favela but I would never recommend anyone to go there at night by themselves - you won’t only loose your watch and wallet there … (whenever I go to suburbs - usually São Paulo - I go with people I met before and somewhat trust 😉 - they take me and bring me to a save spot where I can get an uber back home)

4. don’t accept any cock blocking behavior - this is Rio - leave egoism and jealousy at home. 
 

5. the kissing is the „can he fuck“ test - if you fail there , nobody will wanna fuck with you. So don’t underestimate this challenge. 😉

6. to give you perspective: huge events like carnaval might increase pressure of „something must happen“ - I made the experience that off-season travels are my jackpot time: once in São Paulo , a hot breeder understood that I am a natural born cumdump and asked me if so would take ANY dick, if he takes care of me. I said yes… 4 hours later I was railed by a line up of men, cumloads dripping down my legs, dicks the size of kids arms , old and you, muscled bodybuilders and thin homeless - all loaded me up … I just happened to be a white slut being available (time, location and no competition that night were the formula 😉)

 

7. while saying all this and enjoying being a slut myself , let’s keep in mind they might be annoyed when tourists think they can just get what they want. At the end we all are human beings and maybe a cute flirt and some decent friendly behavior is exactly what will open the door for you to some little adventure 😈💦