I'm going to try being sub for a change. Any advice?

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2 hours ago, KneelerForDoms said:

that is, through setting limits

Assuming a hookup with a 'new' bottom I hadn't interacted with prior, I operate on a different "plane", in that each man has equal agency when meeting for negotiating the planned scene.  Frankly, I've never heard of a Bd/Sm/Leather scene where the bottom "sets" the limits.  The "limits" - or acts that will or will not take place - is the entire purpose of the "negotiation", and each man has 100% equal agency at that time.  Neither man has any more (or less) power over the other; it's nothing more than a negotiation of what will and what will not take place during the scene.  Total honestly is expected and assumed.  The Bd/Sm/Leather Community in any particular area is likely to be fairly small (limited in number), and word of any kind of violation of the limits will get around like wildfire, be investigated, and the man that commits the violation (if any) will lose any respect he may have enjoyed within that community.  That's called "peer-pressure at it's most effective". 

If an impasse becomes un-negotiable, (meaning agreement to limits/terms/whatever cannot be reached), each man thanks the other for his time, says something positive towards the other, and they part company.