About Last Night (re public sex etiquette)

[Jimmy1212]

I had a fucked up experience last night at a porn theater and was wondering how you would've reacted to it. It was a slow rainy night ... only about ten or eleven mostly older dudes circulating between the three little cinemas. So I picked the best flick, which happened to be in an unoccupied cinema, sat back, whipped out my cock and started stroking. After a few minutes a decent-looking black dude, around my age, walked in and pretty soon he was hovering around me, expressing his interest. Not that I'm an Adonis, but honestly I was the best catch on the premises at the time.

At this point I should explain that I'm married and exclusively a top. I go to places like XXXs for the convenience of finding dudes who are content to let me bust a nut in one of their holes. It's the easiest way to hook up with the kind of guys--like some of you--who aren't looking for someone to suck them off (or be concerned about making them cum). In other words, cumdumps. I'm sure as hell not there to make friends or find a relationship.

So back to last night. Eventually the black dude sat down next to me, pulled his own dick out and started stroking. Next thing he was reaching for mine and after he awkwardly played with it for a minute, I put my hand on the back of his head and pushed it down into my lap. Just as I hoped he would start sucking me, the door to the cinema opened and the black dude leaped back, landing four or five seats away from me. At this point I realized he was a flake. Hell, if he wasn't willing to blow me in front of a single other person, what was he doing at an XXX?

So I bailed and ended up stepping out the back door into the alley, where I figured I'd have a smoke and wait for things to pick up. Next thing I know, black dude is out there with me ... and damned if he wasn't a talker. He wanted to explain why he backed away ... and worse, he wanted to negotiate terms under which he'd be willing to blow me. What a fucktard! Like I give a shit that he was married (so am I, fool!) ... or that he has to pick up his kid from hockey in an hour ... and how he was not comfortable letting the other patrons of the theater see him do anything. Way too much information (and I really don't care). Then, amazingly, he said he hoped I wasn't one of those guys who expected head and didn't want to return the favour ... or god forbid, expected to cum in his mouth! Uh ...

Now I was really not into having conversations at times and places like this, so I just turned to him and said, "Dude, I just wanna get my nut. There are lots of guys around willing to take it and be happy--good luck finding what you're looking for." Then I flicked my cigarette butt and turned to go back inside. The black dude said "Wait, I know what you mean ... after all I've got a piece that's even bigger than yours--longer and thicker--and there are lots of guys willing to suck me off without getting anything back too, but that's not fair or right!"

OK, I was about ready to lose it at this point. Obviously he'd forgotten that I'd seen his fucking dick inside the theater (seriously it was about two-thirds the size of mine, which would actually make it slightly smaller than average) ... but more importantly, who the fuck was this dude to be lecturing me on sexual etiquette in an alley behind a fucking porno theater? I was dumbstruck by that, all I could do was laugh and walk away from him.

For the next half hour or so, the shithead followed me from cinema to cinema, although he made no more attempts to get with me. Finally I'd had enough and in the middle of the most crowded cinema I walked up to the nastiest old troll there (who was conveniently already on his knees) pulled my cock out and shoved it in his mouth. For about ten minutes I drilled the poor bastard's throat (note: he wasn't complaining) until I shot my big load, which he happily swallowed ... and thanked me for it. The entire time, the black dude stood five feet away, watching with his mouth hanging open and his eyes bugging out of his head. When I was done coming, I zipped up and got the fuck outta there.

I don't know if that taught the black guy anything, but it sure made me feel better after the horseshit he laid on me earlier. What the hell is up with guys like that? Why would they go to a public sex place if they want to spend hours negotiating sex instead of having it? Wouldn't they be better off online? And who the fuck do they think they are, telling other people how they're supposed to get off? Has anyone else run into this sort of fucked up behavior? If so, tell me your story and how you dealt with it!

Edited November 11, 2011 by Hotload84

[evilqueerpig]

Flakes come in all shapes/ages/sizes/colors....if you're just out to get your cock sucked, just say that and nothing more.

Edited November 11, 2011 by Hotload84

[nastybottom]

The way I see it, he was really into you but paranoid about someone he knows catching him. I doubt he would've bothered chasing you or arguing if he didn't want YOU specifically.

[Jimmy1212]

I kinda thought so too, but I've only lived in a city that even has things like XXXs for a short time. And since nothing like that has happened in previous visits, I'm obviously no expert on how these things work. The funny thing is that if I saw someone in there I'd assume they were up to something--whether I seen them doing it or not--so his shy act struck me as odd (and pointless, given there are no private spaces in the place).

[Belfast-Bottom]

Hi Jimmy, I can understand your frustration. I'd have taken your cock and load in either hole - no questions asked, or reciprication expected. But that's me. Different guys go to saunas, adult book stores and porn cinemas with a list of their own wants. Some guys want reciprocation. Some guys are basically Tops. You can't expect every guy to be into what you want. One of the advantages of the internet is that you can discuss and negotiate what you want - before you meet the guy. If you go to public sex venues you are taking pot luck. There might not be many cumdump bottoms there on a particular night. There are saunas in London where the muscle guys strut and pose for hours waiting for a perfect 10 to show interest. In a public venue, you can't just assume that your list of wants will be met every time. A related issue is that the authorities in London monitor "activities" in porn cinemas. Perhaps the black guy was frightened the cops might find him breaking the law? I don't know the legal situation in your town. I'm sure you'll have better luck another night.

[Jimmy1212]

Hey Belfast Bottom, thanks for replying bud. I do understand that some dudes want reciprocation and that's totally cool. What bugged me was that I'm not into that and this dude was basically telling me I don't have a right to that preference. I probably didn't describe it well, but he was pretty near demanding that I blow him ... so I blew him off instead! Anyway it all ended well--the old fucker who did blow me was fucking great and I dropped a big load, no doubt enhanced by my spite :-)

As for cops, I don't think that's a problem here (Canada). I know of other well-known, outdoor and very public places in the city, where I've gotten head and even fucked dudes ... and the police never cause trouble. No ones ever acted nervous in any of the arcades or other XXXs either. I've probably just been lucky until now and like Evilqueerpig suggested, I finally encountered my first flake.

Edited November 11, 2011 by Hotload84

[PhoenixGeoff]

Jimmy, there are lots of guys like this out there. They want who and what they want and they won't take no for an answer, which often leads to just the problem you're talking about.

Frankly, it all makes me glad I'm pretty much up for anything. That means that when I find a guy I like and who likes me, we're going to have some kind of sex no matter what. Especially if you're in a public venue like an arcade or porn theater or wherever, you best bet is to be prepared for as much as possible. The tighter your restrictions are, the more likely you're just going to have to rub one out and go home disappointed.

But on the plus side, if you run across me in a theater, I'll happily take care of your cock...always hot getting fucked raw in a public venue

[Guest MightyMouth]

Some places are not made for chit chat including arcades and theaters. I don't go to these places to make friends or share personal information. It's the one place where no talking is preferable to me. That being said, I understand some of the nervousness. Places like that get busted all the time and you don't want to go to jail for a blow job.