Hook up sites a joke?

[cam1972]

Anyone else have the problem with the bareback sites where the guys will hit you up and say how hot you are but when it comes time to actually hook up, they disappear? What a waste of my damn time! Is this just in my area or is it everywhere???

[barefootbob]

the last time I was on gay.com, it was the same way . . you chat away for 30 +minutes, then just when you think it is all said and done with a hook up coming the other person exits chat. you wait for a while just in case he lost connection but he never comes back. the college station room was really bad about that, that is when you could actually get people to chat.

[mixxxedbttm]

I have to agree with you on this one. It really annoys me, especially when u hit me up. If I'm online and I hit up, I'm ready to fuck lol

[cam1972]

I have to agree with you on this one. It really annoys me, especially when u hit me up. If I'm online and I hit up, I'm ready to fuck lol

Yeah. It's one thing if I hit up someone and they don't respond. But when they hit me up and then disappear??? What the fuck?

[onlyraw]

I have to admit I sometimes I log on just to check emails or to cruise the profiles, but when I am doing that I try to be upfront about it, there are always going to be a certain number of flakes around, but it could also depend on the area, I have to admit that when I am looking to hook, I have had fairly good luck on bbrt in the Boston area

[cam1972]

I have done the same as far as jumping on to check e-mail. I guess my complaint is about the guys who hit me up but then disappear. And the site I've had the worst problem with is bbrt. So it may be the area..

[NiceHard1]

It is often hit and miss...just like bars, sex clubs, and bathhouses!

It can be a time waster, but can sometimes be productive.

I've sometimes met guys for sex, and then turned into friends, so you never know.

I have no trouble getting on a plane, train, or bus for great sex.

I just flew to Buffalo last month to meet a guy from this site, and swapped several loads of sperm with him over a weekend - planning to go back to see him.

I am feeling that this site might have more guys who are serious about hooking up and fucking. I'd love to meet a number of guys for individual one-on-one, or even planning out some hot group sex gatherings. Perhaps get a hotel room in a random city and look for sperm.

Anyone serious, please let me know

[cam1972]

I live 25 miles from the next bigger city. Most guys tell me that's too far to meet someone, IF they even talk to me. I'm willing to drive there, but they don't live alone most usually. Or don't want to wait the fifteen minutes for me to get there. Lame.

I'm hoping, like you, that the guys on here are more serious about hooking up. One can hope. I know I am.

[NiceHard1]

What's it like in Fort Wayne?? I've spent some time in IND and hooked up with some hot young guys at the bathhouse there. You get out there very much?? Or do you host at your place??

[cam1972]

Fort Wayne is the city I was speaking of. It seems very cliquey. If you don't know someone who knows someone, they don't give you the time of day. I can host at my place since I live alone, but the fifteen minute drive is "too damn far"......

[pepsirocks]

I agree with cam1972, so many flakes and guys that hit me up never to reply, I also find it fucking annoying when someone just unlocks pics for you and then doesn't send anything. Obviously living in New York doesn't make it that hard to find someone but you have to sort through the fakes and the flakes

[Looking4Pozzing]

seems to be everywhere anymore

[bobbie]

Hey cam1972

You are so fucking cute...man, I'd drive to meet with you...maybe even more than 15 minutes, LOL

Fort Wayne is the city I was speaking of. It seems very cliquey. If you don't know someone who knows someone, they don't give you the time of day. I can host at my place since I live alone, but the fifteen minute drive is "too damn far"......

[copenhagendipper]

I couldn't resist speaking to this topic....

1) The websites are the new bar and flakes, twinks, bears, daddies, idiots, drunks, druggies, assholes, average joe, leathermen, rednecks, big black cocks, truckers, etc… are on it. Some are nice eye candy others are downright fugly. That being known and out of the way one MUST acknowledge that the anonymity that comes with the internet sites support and encourage dishonesty, in other words lies. A stat that is kicked around is that nearly 70% of all, ALL, people on the Internet lie when it comes to describing themselves compared to 50% who do so in person. That is a powerful stat to keep it in mind during the next hot IM.

2) Timing is everything. The sites are there for a conversation starter not necessarily an automatic lead in for sex just as the bars are meeting place for conversation, a drink, and maybe sex. A bathhouse is about the only place I can say would be solely for sex (I think most know the routine there too). There could be factors that cause me not to play. I've had hits from sites when I'm not in the mood, I don’t have time, or from people I don't care to fuck around with (see #1). On a personal note, I admit that I'm cynical and suspicious of any contact, an occupational hazard for me. My stance has saved me from a number of bullshit sessions initiated online or in the flesh.

3) Distance maybe a factor. Why should I schlep 30 miles or 30 minutes for an hour, at best, fuck? Driving an hour is not an economical use of my time or gas despite my degree of horniness. This is especially true when, and if, I discover that you lied about appearance, stamina, ability, or sex play (see #1). Being closer increases the likelihood of at least a face-to-face meeting, which could get you into my sling. So I admit if a trick is more than 5 miles from me (and I live in a metropolitan area) a trick’s chances of reaching my sling isn't great. On the other hand, five blocks will get my attention and at least a beer.

Lastly, it is all fun, Don't take it so seriously. After all, it is entertainment and sometimes pleasure.

[cam1972]

Thanks Bobbie. I'd let that happen. copenhagendipper: I've offered to drive to them. So it would have been at no cost to them.

As far as taking it seriously... You speak about wasting your time if you drive to meet someone and they aren't what they say they are. Well.... The same goes for someone wasting my time online when they have no intent to hook up. If I want entertainment, I'll go to a porno site. When I want real sex, then a hook up site should be the place to find it. I'm not surprised about the percentage of guys who lie. I think I've talked to all 70%. I'm far from perfect. I'll be the first to admit that. But honesty is sorely under-rated.