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As you can see in the screenshots it’s a restricted account. That said, he has a surprising number of followers for being locked. Given that the account is locked down and he’s not stating anything that’s false (he’s “just” a COVIDiot), I doubt Twitter would care. If I wanted to shut him down I’d report him for his banner pic which is X-rated. But I sorta want to see what else he does. He’s young(ish), but has “underlying health conditions”, but not sure if they’re enough to make this whole experience difficult for him. I don’t really want to say where he’s from. I’ll just say it’s a 1st world English speaking country.

When I went cycling yesterday I went to the most vacant big park I could find near me and just rode around and around in circles a bunch of times. It was a bit monotonous, but it kept me away from cars (that could land me in the ER). My biggest risk would have been a low-speed accident (e.g. a slip on loose gravel) where I skin my knee or something. As far as keeping away from people I literally counted the number of times I was within ±12 feet of another person. It averaged 23 times per 5 mile loop, and in the vast majority of those cases I was passing 8-10 feet from them and literally only for a second. To me that's sensible risk reduction. A lot of places have banned cycling completely. And I sorta get it since people underestimate their risk and overestimate how far they are from other people. So it's not what you do, it's how you do it. If the guy had set up a gloryhole in his apartment with antiseptic wipes on both sides I wouldn't have called him out. Maybe he was reducing the number of partners, but that just isn't enough given what's happening right now. As @BiggerJigger mentioned healthcare workers (and I'd add other first responders) are dying right now. Cancer patients can't get chemo, people who have a heart attack are literally being left for dead here if the paramedics can't revive them. In this situation you need to not do things that are clearly dangerous (such as indoor activities with physical contact).

Totally agree. It was when I saw him use the word "bitch" to describe the nurse that I knew he was the example of a true COVIDiot and needed to be called out. Every step in what he did just showed a complete lack of concern for other people. I don't really give a shit that it was hooking up. I'm equally upset with the fundamentalists who are still going to church. They're also stupid, possibly even bigger COVIDiots. And to be clear your mention of "contact" is spot on. I do a fair amount of cycling and I see people online attacking people who are still cycling. Yes, for something like cycling you need to reduce the chance of crash as much as possible. But done right, cycling can be a very low risk activity. To me it's about risk reduction, and that's the way it's similar to the AIDS pandemic.

I thought about holding off on this story to see how it ends, but I think it's more important that it be told now… This is something I saw on Twitter yesterday. I'm dumbfounded… March 27th… So the guy is under "lockdown" (a stay-at-home order), and he's still hooking up – and proud enough of it to post it on Twitter. March 31st… 4 days after the first hookup, he posts a video of another hookup.… April 3rd… 3 days after the 2nd hookup he posts pics and videos from yet another hookup… April 7th… And then surprise, surprise… That's right… 3 hookups later he's in the hospital with COVID-19. He's stupid enough to think he's in the ICU when he's not – he's probably just in a ward with all COVID patients. If he were in ICU he'd have breathing support (either be intubated or be attached to a BiPAP machine). Oh, and the kicker is he's calling the nurse a bitch and mocking the fact that she says she's tired! I just want to strangle the guy. If he reads this… "You're a fucking asshole. If karma doesn't catch up to you this time around, it will at some point. And guess what, I won't give a shit when it does." People, seriously, be responsible! Hospitals are over capacity. People are dying. There's no cure. There isn't even a decent treatment. Even in the middle of the AIDS crisis hospitals could manage their core caseloads. This is a whole other order of magnitude above that pandemic. It's gonna be a long time (probably years) before we're back to where we were before with big sex parties and crowded bathhouses. Even when the stay-at-home orders are lifted people will still need to be vigilant to avoid another peak of the pandemic. You'll need to focus on risk reduction – fewer partners, 1-on-1s, maybe sex in parks, maybe gloryholes. But being legs up in a bathhouse taking all loads isn't going to happen again until there's at least a decent treatment. If for no other reason, that sensible gay guys are gonna stay away. Here's a poll I did on Twitter a few days ago… Only a bit over 1/3rd of guys will risk a crowd when the stay-at-home orders are lifted (and that's now when they're horny and jacking off to Twitter, before the pandemic hits their city/town)… We can hope the clinical trials they're doing now turn up something, but who knows. Don't be like that guy above. Don't be a COVIDiot!

This is from a guy who's really into gloryholes…

Tops don't always know they have gono. Often, yes, but not always. So wasn't necessarily intentional.

I doubt many guys are getting their STIs treated during stay-at-home orders. So yes, there's less transmission, but doesn't mean they won't come back once the lockdown is over.

That was the initial protocol that came out 8 years ago. Since then "PrEP On Demand" was proven effective in numerous studies starting with the IPERGAY study. It shows that 2 pills 2+ hours before sex and then one pill daily until 48 hour after the last sexual encounter is sufficient to stop infection in men who have sex with men who's primary risk is anal sex (I don't believe it's approved for folks with vaginas). Bottom line, most people on this site don't need to take it for 28 days, 2 days is sufficient.

Not quite sure how to answer the question… I had my first sexual experience in 1990 at the height of the AIDS crisis. I was pretty adamant about using condoms 'cause getting HIV was a literal death sentence back then. BUT I'd often do 2-3 strokes raw and then put on the condom. But I'm not sure 2-3 strokes counts as bareback sex when you then put on a condom. In terms of zero condom sex it was definitely unplanned. There was this guy I hooked up with (in either 1990 or 1991) who was a trainer at one of the gyms in Hells Kitchen (so great body). I fucked him with a condom (and probably did the 2-3 strokes of raw), then he fucked me (I was pretty vers back then). He probably started with a few strokes of raw, then he resisted putting on a condom when I asked him to rubber up. I was pretty nervous and kept asking him to put one on. He kept saying he'd pull out before he came. Then he pulled out and came like a 1/2 second later. In hindsight I probably got part of his load in my ass. I was pretty furious with him and left. In terms of intentionally going bareback I didn't do that until a few years later (1995). I had this rebound relationship right after my lover died of AIDS and the guy was a voracious bottom who talked me into going raw. We both got tested and then after that never used condoms. I loved the sensation of fucking him raw after all those years of condoms and basically dumped as many loads as I could in his ass the months we were together. When we broke up and I started hitting the bathhouses again it was really hard to rubber up since bareback felt so much better and more and more I found myself fucking anonymous cumdumps raw.

Would love to breed you when this is all over, before you go back on PrEP 😉 But yeah, there's no need for guys to take PrEP if they're not having sex. And unless they're fucking someone in their household, they shouldn't be having sex right now.

102 years ago it was the US government who did it and we wound up killing 2.7% of the people around the globe (1 in every 37 people!). The Spanish Flu originated in Kansas and was spread around the globe by the US military. Our military was warned by health experts to do certain things and they repeatedly ignored the advice and did them anyway. We also suppressed information in the name of "we're fighting a war and don't want our enemy to know how this is affecting us" (the very same excuse our military used to suppress information a day or two ago). So as Americans it's not our place to judge the Chinese government. About the furthest we can go is to say "We made that same mistake 102 years ago. It turned out horribly. If only people would learn from history and follow the advice of experts."

Situations like that are a good example of how the current laws are seriously flawed. You were lied to and had zero intent to break the law. That said, it's tricky to devise a law that fixes situations like that without giving actual rapists a free get out of jail card ("but the teen was in control of the situation, wanted to do it, and even initiated it"). Meanwhile the Justice Department goes ape shit whenever someone mentions jurors right to do "jury nullification" where they refuse to find the person guilty because they don't see that instance of the crime as criminal (or they just fundamentally object to the law). Juries have that right, but it's getting taken away from them. Likewise the importance of intent is losing weight. While intent still plays a part in whether a person is guilty of murder vs manslaughter, in most cases "I never intended anything like that to happen" won't help the defendant when, in certain cases it absolutely should (IMHO).

I've bred a guy I thought was 18 only to realize later that he was younger (but still legal to fuck here in NY). Good thing I didn't take any pics… Moral of the story – if they look particularly young when you meet them, ask for ID and know the law in your location (start here: US, worldwide). But to answer the question, if it's legal, I'd do it…

My understanding is that they're redundant. I suppose I could disable one of them…

AFAIK, they should be in a consistent order. I can't explain why that's happening.

Those of you who can't connect… Can you help me do a little research for me? I need to know if, when you have problems accessing, you're on IPv4 or IPv6. In other words, does your IP address look like this… 65.250.9.6 or like this… 2601:5b1:4580:58b0:3d98:236c:52c2:fdcf If it has 4 segments of numbers (1-255) separated by periods then you're on IPv4. If it has lots of segments of letters and numbers separated by colons then you're on IPv6. To find out your IP address go to Google using the network connection where you have problems and type in "What is my IP address?". Don't tell me the IP address of your computer that you might see in Network settings. I need to know the IP address my server sees, which is different than the IP of your computer since you're probably on a "NAT'd router". And I don't actually need to know your IP, just whether it's IPv4 or IPv6. A guy on Twitter hit me up with the same problem and in working with him I realized that it could be a case of the IPv6 / IPv4 gateways having their IPs banned. Basically my server only uses IPv4. So if you're on IPv6 then you have to go through a gateway that gives you an IPv4 IP address. A gateway for a major ISP would have so much activity that it could seem suspicious. Either way I'm going to have to make some changes. I either need to turn on IPv6 for the server and then modify my routines to support IPv6 (which is "non-trivial"), or I'll need to figure out how to detect and be far more permissive with the IPv6 gateways (but that could create security issues).

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LGBT_rights_in_Saudi_Arabia#Criminal_procedure A few highlights… I don't want my sites to be result in anything like those incidents. I just won't have it. And look, I get that people "make do" in bad environments. I grew up in a fundamentalist (Christian) environment. I literally went to Jerry Falwell's church/school/university for few years there and he was liberal compared to some of the other churches my parents took me to as a kid. And Middle Eastern Studies was my minor in university, and I wrote a pretty long paper back then on the unusual (from a western perspective) gender norms in traditional Arab culture. I get that there's a gay under current to things there. But when it goes wrong, it goes spectacularly wrong. And a western site, like this one, is more of a target than local things with an Arab approach to homosexuality. So I'm choosing to remove my sites from that mix. If Arabs want to use VPNs to get to get around the blocks, I can't stop them. But it's going to be a deliberate act on their part.

The only thing I plan on changing (when I have the time) is to present a page with a full reCAPTCHA dialog just before I ban the IP address. Otherwise, despite a few legit people being blocked here and there, my strategy has reduced Javascript-executing bot traffic on my sites from ~40% to 1-2%, so I'm happy with the overall results. That said, I have reduced significantly the ban lengths for certain types of things. So when a person is blocked it shouldn't last too long unless I think they've done something pretty serious (or several people in their immediate IP address range has done something serious).

The platform is a number of sites. They're being developed separately from this site – so different login, though your user name should already be reserved for you on the new platform. When the new platform is mature enough the content on this site will be moved to the new sites and this site will be redirected and eventually shut down. (That's years away, not months). Right now my sites are English only, which means they mostly cater to English speaking countries. Writing in other languages isn't allowed since I can't moderate the content in other languages. At some point I'll experiment with on-the-fly translation (similar to how Twitter does it). If I can get that to work then I'll support other languages and will (hopefully) have a more global audience. That said, Saudi Arabia is one of 9 countries which have the death penalty for being gay. I completely block those 9 countries from accessing sites on the new platform because I don't want someone to die simply for visiting one of my sites. If you choose to use a VPN that makes it appear like you're coming from somewhere else, that's your choice. But please remember many VPN services sell their data. The VPN doesn't necessarily make you safer. On top of that there are quite a few countries where homosexuality is illegal (but the penalty is less than death). For those countries I will severely restrict the geolocation features of the sites, which may render parts of the site non-functional. Again, I don't want someone going to jail for years simply for visiting one of my sites.

It's sorta too early to say what will happen. While other corona viruses do well in cold, dry environments (and hence do well in winter), we don't really know how much spring will reduce the spread of the virus because not enough is known about this strain. What does make sense is to prepare for it. I live in NYC. It will absolutely come here at some point. Avoiding big crowds is important – so no busy bars, ride a bike not the subway, do 1-on-1 hookups rather then a sex party, and so on. Also, learn to wash your hands frequently after being in public. Start being aware of when your hands touch your mouth/nose/eyes (it happens more than you think). And start stocking up on things that have a long shelf life that you'd use anyway – canned goods, pasta, frozen fish, etc. If panic hits those things will get much more expensive, so buying now is prudent. Face masks apparently only really help in that they reduce the number of times you touch your face. They also help if your sick so when you cough it doesn't spread as far. But with a 2% fatality rate and uncertainty about how to treat it, yes, you should start thinking and planning about corona virus – especially if you live in an urban area.

The cravings aren't going to go away. Just do it and let yourself enjoy the moment…

At the moment this site isn't really a hookup site. Ergo, finding a profile isn't really the point of the site. That said, the new platform will have hoookup site features which will start getting rolled in a month or two. I just need to get taxes filed, etc. then I'll have some time.

Are you a lawyer? Do you own or administer a site with 10s of thousands of users? I'm not sure what your qualifications are to make that statement. And saying that my statement is libelous is completely out-of-bounds. W icker, when mentioned on this site, was almost always associated with underage sex. I know, I moderated 100+ messages where it was used. Getting rid of it, got rid of a huge legal nightmare for me. Anyone who tries to get around the banning of the word will get suspended and if it's me doing the moderation at the moment, the points will not expire since there was clear intent to break the rules. (On stuff like this I'm much more harsh in my moderation than DrScorpio.)

W ickr is banned because it's almost always used to facilitate illegal activity or the discussion of illegal activity. I can't and won't have that here.

When I came out in college (30 years ago) the gay friend I came out to suggested I get into one of the university's gay men's counseling groups. Long story short the group I was in the 2nd semester discussed sexual abuse a fair amount. Many (most?) of the guys in the group had had sex with adults when they were kids. I grew up in a really sheltered environment – the idea that "statutory rape" was so widespread shocked me. It's that experience that makes me tend to not question the veracity of the guys telling the stories here. There's no wrong reaction to what they went through. Anger is fine, temporary depression is fine, and so is eroticising what they went through. It's their experience, no one else should tell them how they should deal with it. But yeah, I do wonder about the veracity of some of the stories, and I agree it's sorta gross to tell fake stories that cheapen what other people went through. But it's such a sensitive topic I'd only give an infraction for telling their story in a way that's too erotic. It's never my place to tell them it didn't happen.