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Just wanted you guys to know that it appeared a database index got corrupted or something and it resulted in pages loading really slowly on the site. Luckily the problem was in the sessions table so I didn't have to get a server admin involved. I just dumped all the data in the table, which deleted the indexes, and then everything rebuilt itself. For a moment I was worried the server was being attacked, so figuring out it was simple data corruption was a relief. The worst case scenario is you might have to login again. But apparently that's not even necessary if you've been on the site recently.

The other thing that defeated it is that emerging technologies such as DNS over HTTPS make it impossible to do what they planned. Once they can't control DNS, they can't block sites very effectively. BTW, if you use Firefox it's not hard to use DNS over HTTPS. Just go to settings search for "DNS" and then check the box next to DNS over HTTPS. What that does is make it impossible for anyone (other than the DNS provider) to see what sites you're accessing. Prior to DoH the domain name would be sent in clear text over the Internet.

A fair number of guys on this round of deletions asked for account deletion and then forgot about it, and are now wondering why their accounts were deleted. If you request account deletion, and then change your mind, make sure you cancel the deletion request. AND, make sure your password is secure. Another possibility is that someone had access to their computer or knew their password and requested the deletion without the person's knowledge. I can't help you if this happens. It's up to you to keep your password and computer secure.

I've taken a pretty close look at what was happening. I've deleted the accounts of the people who were spammers (which should delete the messages). I've also devised a SQL query that helps me identify people who are spamming through the message system, which I'll check periodically. I won't go into the details of the patterns I noticed, since I don't want hackers knowing what not to do. But the attack seemed to come from Ukraine. I also noticed a problem where it seemed a few users (@Botsub, @mplsnegpig4poz & @bbcunthole) have had their account passwords compromised and weird things were happening as a result. I've changed those users passwords – they'll need to do a "I forgot my password" to reset their passwords. That should solve the issue of hackers using their account provided the hackers don't have access to their email account as well. Edit: Actually, I'm not confident that those users had their passwords compromised. The more I look at it the odder it looks. It may be a glitch in the system where, when I delete a user, stuff goes into the moderation log that doesn't belong there. I had banned the IP address used by those users. That's reversed. But I can't restore their passwords, so they'll need to do a "forgot password" (sorry about that, assuming it was a random glitch that caused me to modify your password.)

IMHO… In VERY rough terms… Gay men are attracted to masculinity Straight men are attracted to femininity Bisexuals are attracted to both Queer folks are attracted to non-conformity and gender ambiguity (or are themselves non-conforming / ambiguous) So, if your fem your target audience should be straight & bisexual men and queer folks. It doesn't surprise me at all that you'd strike out in a gay male venue – they're not interested in what you're selling. Or to put it another way – the way I've always described my own sexuality is "if I were interested in fem, I'd be straight". To me femmy guys are in the same category as girls – never more than friends. (Except for anonymous pump-n-dumps where I'm not really aware they're fem).

THIS THREAD IS NOT IN THE BACKROOM SECTION!! So far 8 people who've posted here have gotten infractions and (temporarily) banned from the site. Don't be the 9th!

There are two types of tests – RNA tests (basically viral load tests) that can tell if you're poz quite quickly after infection, and antibody tests which take 4-6 weeks to be accurate (because the antibodies have to build up in your body). So after 4 weeks even then antibody test will probably be accurate.

FYI – I've done another round of deletions. About 325 this time. (Took hours).

I'd like to hear some discussion on this. I've bought the domains ExposedFags.com and ExposedFag.com, as well as Exposed.men. I'm trying to get a sense for how the niche works. I know it's one of those "edge" cases that a lot of social media sites are skittish about because it can be abused and become revenge porn. I started at Twitter account, @ExposdFags, but I've been really careful not to retweet things unless it's clear the guy is giving consent by holding his ID in the pic, writing his consent on this body, etc. My thinking is I'll set up the site so guys who want to be exposed enter into a literal legally binding contract. It would be a barter arrangement where I get a license to use the images, and they get exposure on my various sites. So each party gets "something of value". I'd require a photo of their ID, and them holding their ID to prove who I'm doing business with guys over 18, and that they photos they submit are of them. The photos of their ID and them holding their IDs can be kept private or distributed. Ditto with their legal name, location, etc. – guys will be able to get the level of exposure they want. Then there would be a monetary fee to cancel the license. The fee would be per image, and the cancellation fee would increase each time they request a batch of images be deleted. That will either discourage guys who aren't serious from submitting their photos, and/or attract cash slaves who want to be abused financially. [Another niche with nuances I've never quite understood.] Question: Exposed Fags is a better name than Exposed Men, right? Initially I was noticing a lot of cross-dressers labeling themselves exposed fags, and I'm not really interested in supporting cross-dressers – the audience is straight men who I want to avoid. So I thought Exposed Men might be better. But from what I've seen the guys who want to be exposed really identify with the term "fag", so I'm now thinking Exposed Fags is better. Anyway, it's an understatement to say I don't have the time to develop this right now. The UK has been threatening to deploy age verification. If they actually do it, then I'll work on S3XAV.com (my age verification solution for my own sites), and since there's overlap between that project and Exposed Fags then Exposed Fags will get done relatively soon. Otherwise there's a fairly long list of stuff that's more important and it will be 3+ years before I get around to this project. If you have other thoughts on this niche, I'm all ears… Just realize it's gonna be years before I get around to doing anything.

My goal is to implement topic-specific chat and 1-on-1 chat before the end of the year. Chat about bareback (breeding) will be on https://bbbh.men Chat about bareback porn will be on https://bbbh.com Chat about poz fetish will be on https://pozpigs.com Chat about oral fetish will be on https://oralpigs.com Chat about oral sex porn (no fucking) will be on https://oralpig.com Chat about hardcore fetish (fisting, piss, BDSM, etc.) will be on https://twistedpigs.com (possibly with a group chat for each major fetish) Chat about hardcore fetish porn will be on https://twistedpig.com Chat about vanilla sex, exhibitionism, etc. will be on https://spunkbuds.com (and yes, "vanilla" includes "condom-free" sex these days) Chat about vanilla porn will be on https://spunkbud.com You'll have one login for all the sites, though your profiles will vary between the sites. I've been quietly reserving your BZ profile names in the background. So there's no sign up necessary if you're signed up here. You'll be able to claim the profile name you use on BZ by using your BZ login credentials. 1-on-1 chat will hopefully come (shortly) after group chat is broken up. Why now, when I promised it so long ago? Because the porn sites I've been working on (e.g. https://bbbh.com) are finally coming to a point of completion and one of the remaining tasks is to implement basic user profiles for those sites. And once I have that it's a good time to deploy chat more broadly.

AFAIK, the server doesn't save "drafts" (the only button is "Submit Topic", there's no "Save Draft" button). So there's nothing that can be done. We only have what's been saved on the server, which is submitted posts. I suspect what was happening was your browser was saving the data locally. But that's out of our control. Clearly, in the future it's best to draft in a text editor (locally on your computer, or something like Google Docs). Sorry, I know that's not what you want to hear.

READ THIS!! Beyond this post I'll allow only one type of comment… Anyone posting other types of comments will have them deleted/hidden, and if they persist, I'll give the person an infraction. Give me the URL of a post that's been changed. In particular I want the URL for the particular post, not the URL at the top of the page. To get the post URL right click on the "Share this post" icon just above and to the right of the post. Post that URL and tell me what's changed. I'll look into it to see who changed it. I'm particularly interested in recent changes (last few days). I'm not really interested in what people think about what's happened. I want to know who did what and when. As I mentioned above, I think I know how it happened. And I just need to make sure I've got it fixed. There's limited information on moderation changes, but there is some – enough for me to figure out the source (but not enough to roll back the changes).

One of the moderator accounts (that was set up ages ago) seems like it's been compromised. I've locked down the account until I can talk with him and see what's up. That may be the source of the problem. But it's really weird that the damage is so minor.

I agree, that edit makes no sense to me either! If a fictional story has merit but is poorly written I'm fine with a moderator "fixing it", but in that particular case the original was better.

The moderators look out for trigger phases that can get this site in trouble. In this case "good kid" is quite borderline, especially in the context. The word kid has to be used VERY carefully otherwise Google (and the FBI) may start thinking we're promoting things we have no intention of promoting. I suspect that was the intention of the moderator in this case. The point being, there are things moderators think of that you don't think of. They don't take on work for themselves just for the hell of it. They do it to protect the site. Just because you don't understand what they're doing doesn't mean it shouldn't be done.

I've gone through all the pending deletes. It literally took me almost an entire day to do them. The time consuming nature of the deletes is why they're not done more frequently. I'm locking this thread. Posting here does not get your profile deleted any more quickly.

Actually, the real purpose is booty bumps for chem sex… But it works for other purposes as well.

OK. All background processes are done. Logo and background image are restored. I think we're good. I'm going to ask tech support to put back the caching that was in place before the upgrade (that caused problems with the upgrade). It should make the site a bit faster. And I'll try to remember to check everything before I go to bed.

Unfortunately your two options are 1) to delete everything, or 2) to go into each message and delete that conversation. It's a bit dumb, I know. But I didn't write the software. Sorry. [Oh, and this has nothing to do with the upgrade problems.]

The site is based on IP.Board, which is off-the-shelf forum software. The site gets it's look and feel from a theme I pay for. The name of the theme is Villain. The upgrade is messing with the customization of the theme (logo, background images, etc.) When the reindexing is complete I'll restore the missing images.

I should mention I'm seeing issues. The site logo isn't working anymore, and the background images aren't there anymore. There's a background process running that's "reindexing images" (whatever that means). It's apparently the source of the problem. Once it's done, I'll work on fixing things. Hopefully it's just a matter of fixing a few images and the other problems won't crop back up. 🤞

Just so you guys know what happened… I did an upgrade the software vendor said was "minor" and part of the upgrade process wasn't compatible with how my server was configured. When I had tech support help at one point the upgrade process got kicked off twice. Somewhere in all of that there was clearly some data corruption. I tried my best to resolve the problems, but they just couldn't be fixed, so we've rolled back the back up that happened the night before all this happened (~8pm on Wednesday). Nothing could be posted to the site after the failed upgrade (late morning on Thursday). So about 12 hours of posts and other changes were lost. Ditto for anyone who registered during that time as well. It is what it is. We just move on… If you see problems (you didn't see before yesterday), please comment below… But before you comment, please reload the page or (better yet) close and reopen your web browser.

Nope. Different owners.

I have a TON of unanswered questions about Article 13, but based on my current understanding… It probably won't go into effect for 2 years. My porn sites with sponsor content (e.g. bbbh.com) are completely safe. My affiliate agreements make that content completely legal. The hookup sites I want to build (e.g. bbbh.men & cumdump.network) are probably safe if I'm strict about the nature of what people upload (has to be pics/videos of the person). BUT my plan was to pull in people's content from social sites, etc. EU visitors will need to be blocked from seeing that content. But the social site I'm working on (s3x.social) will have major problems. I'll basically need to block all EU traffic from that site. The question is whether blocking EU traffic will be sufficient. I'm not sure yet. But it's early and my understanding of all this could change completely.

This YouTube video explains what just passed in pretty good detail… This site would be exempt if it were less than 3 years old. All I can can is we'll have to see how things play out. Each of the countries in the EU has 2 years to pass the resolution into law. Hopefully sites like this one can get some type of exemption in that time.