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Maybe they like fantasizing instead of actually doing the deed. You see the same types at concerts recording the concert on their phone instead of listening to it directly. Social media has created a habit of fetishizing reality instead of inhabiting reality.

I love smooth

Uh... Blackrobe dude, read your profile again: "Rigid, slender, and girthy-cocked men especially encouraged to wear grooves in me at both ends. Open to adults of all ethnicities and ages." In the first sentence, "Rigid", "Slender" and "Girthy-cocked", all function as parallel adjectives modifying the noun "men". Are you aware the most grammatically correct way to read your sentence is that you are looking for men who are "Rigid", "Slender" and "Girthy-cocked"? It's pretty easy to read that and think you're only looking for ripped/uptight, lean guys with thick cocks, regardless of age/race. Many guys won't have all that, so I don't think it's helping you get action. Just my two cents; I don't really care if I'm right or wrong here, but at least you have an unbiased third party's opinion to consider, but if what you are writing is contributing to you not getting the level of action you want, you can do something to change it. Good luck getting more guys 🙂

1 public sling in the basement, 2 public slings on 3rd floor. Some of the private rooms have had slings added (a couple notably on the 2nd floor)

On a church altar. I'm not religious, but the experience felt divine 😉

When it comes to rejection, one important truth to understand is this: nobody is sexy to everyone. Everyone has different tastes, including tastes you personally won't understand or agree with. Don't take rejection as the idea that you're not good enough; instead, rejection at an individual level only means you are not a good fit for what that person is looking for. That's not a bad thing; if anything, knowing you're not a good fit for someone specific at a sex club frees up time for you to find someone else who would be a better fit for you. If you feel you're being rejected by *everyone*, then one of two things is probably true: 1) You're in the wrong scene and everyone is looking for something that doesn't suit you. (e.g. I wouldn't be a good fit in a BDSM scene) 2) You may be communicating to others that you're not ready have good sex. (Note: I didn't say anything about inherent sexiness; just that you're *communicating* bad vibes) Guys can sense when you think "My body is something that I don't like." Sex is about wanting to open yourself up to connect with others. To me, putting physical barriers on yourself (like a t-shirt) implicitly communicates you're not opening yourself up to connect, and that would turn me off personally. Getting active and eating healthier may help change the shape of your body and is something I would support if only because it helps improve your health and may help improve your personal relationship with your body; however, that doesn't mean you'll feel more "sexy" once you get there. I worry that focusing solely on changing the shape of your body means you're only addressing one symptom. I worry doing this will cause you to be insecure for other reasons. For example, I've met guys who have great bodies who are insecure because they're too old (so they buy into skin creams or get botox), or too hairy (so they get surgery to remove the hair(!)), or are not hairy enough (younger guys desperately growing out facial hair to look less like a boy). The common theme behind these insecurities is a thought of "I'm not good enough as I am". "I don't deserve good sex as I am." If you maintain a habit of thinking this way in your attitude, no amount of physical change will transform your mindset to "I'm happy with my body, am grateful for it and want to connect with others." For all these reasons, I suggest you look into trying nudism and social nudism. As a skinny fat guy who never went to the gym and unable to grow any body hair at all with an average size dick, I used to have debilitating body shame that prevented me from reaching out to have sex with anyone. I decided I couldn't live that way when I was 35 and looked into trying nudism and social nudism. When I found myself naked in public unable to hide those parts I felt most insecure about, surrounding by bodies of all ages and types, I was able to relax and not worry so much about what I looked like. To my personal shock, I learned others would find me sexy naked, even if I don't think myself much to look at imho. I also learned that almost everyone is insecure about *something*. Once I let go of those thoughts, and learned to appreciate the parts of my body that work well (i'm able to walk without needing a cane, i'm able to get it up without drugs, my body is working fine, etc...), as well as helping others let go of their insecurities, I began attracting others and found myself able to connect with them. When I visit sex clubs now, people think I'm confident simply because I worked on my attitude and just not let my (perceived) imperfections get in the way of having a good time. I've also learned to reach out and try to connect with people I want to have sex with and not be bothered when I get rejected (like 70-80% of the time) because I recognize that were I to have sex with people who don't want to have sex with me, *it wouldn't be good sex anyway*. I have been surprised by guys who I would think are WAAAAY out of my league approaching me for sex. I guess getting rid of my mental hangups itself became an attractive feature because it manifests as authentic confidence. In any case, here's some stuff I personally did to overcome my personal anxieties: 1) Read up on naturism and nudism, as well as "FKK" in Germany 2) Find opportunities to practice social nudism (I went from nudism at home to going to a nude beach) 3) Look up the" Wabi Sabi" aesthetic from Japanese culture: so-called imperfections, especially from wear and tear, can actually be seen as experiences that enhance one's beauty. I drew from this the idea of incorporating imperfections as being an intended part of what's natural and perfect 4) Check out "Kaelan + Ecstatic Self" channel on YouTube; he's someone who talks about body acceptance and body positivity. He has a lot of great stuff on adopting a healthier mindset, which helps you feel sexy in your body as you are. When your mind starts thinking "I'm good enough as I am", the good sex will come afterwards as a collateral benefit. I wish you luck in finding peace with yourself. Hope this helps!

Better than before; new materials on the walls, nicer lighting, upgraded a few of the amenities like the dry sauna room, dark area on the second floor, public play area etc... Lots of guys too checking out the reopening; a good time to be had by all 😉

went tonight - confirmed reopened now

open July 18

GI Joe is actively hiring employees to reopen; hopefully this means soon

Yup, Montreal still has GI Joe, Oasis, and Sauna Centre Ville in the village, Bain Colonial in the plateau. There are also another one each in both the North and South Shores too. (~20-30 min. drive out of downtown). We get a lot of American visitors ^__^

i like gi joe to fuck bain colonial further in the plateau i like for the big hot tub and roof terrace. Chill vibe in an old, 70s, eastern european style building