Philip

Took a total of seven loads from six different guys this weekend. I have been quite inactive sexually during the winter months here in Australia and with the monkey pox running around, I have been quite hesitant to have any fun. The weather was warm over the weekend and I had a bit of free time so decided to go on a sexual spree at my local park, advertising myself on Squirt. On Saturday, 1. First guy had a fairly small dick and he kept trying to push it into my ass with many unsuccessful attempts. Decided to walk away but then he got it in on the last try and came almost instantly. Nice way to lube my ass. 2. Second guy was very cute but wouldn’t let me suck his dick. Started fingering my cum hole, turned me around, and started fucking me. Didn’t last as long as I wanted (maybe less than a minute), but secured the second load. 3. I heard the third guy came into the toilet but didn’t get a chance to turn around to see him when he pulled down my pants, fingered my hole, and insert his dick. Lasted quite a while and moaned loudly as he unloaded. I had to meet a friend for dinner straight afterwards and had a wet patch in my pants after dinner. On Sunday, at the same cruising park, in the toilet block, 4. Meet this hot man with a fairly angry face. Had a good size dick though and felt really good in my mouth. I put a bit of spit on my fingers and started lubbing my ass with it. He got the hint, turned me around, started fucking me. He lasted about a minute but could definitely feel his cumshot inside me. 5. There was a man inside the glory hole cubicle in the same toilet block so I put my finger through the hole and he put his dick through, nice and hard, sucked it for a bit and turned myself around and put my sloppy ass onto it. His dick was average sized and the hole in the wall reduced the length even further so only the head and a bit of the length went inside me, felt a bit dry, but when he pulled out, I heard cum splattering on the floor, so not sure if he had cum when he pulled out or it was the previously guy’s cum :// 6. Had advertised myself on Squirt several hours before and about seven men said they were planning to come to unload, but only one person came through, a New Zealander with a huge thick (9 inch?) cock. Very tall, muscular, and dominant. Pushed me against the wall and forced his big dick into me. It was quite painful as he started to pound me really hard, more than I would have liked, but I thought about my role as a cumdump to serve men like him, and the pain turned to pleasure. Came into me once, pushing his cock very deep inside me. When he pulled out, he let the man #5 to have his turn. My hole was so loose that I didn’t really feel man #5’s dick, sadly, and he must have felt the same, for he pulled out and left shortly after. The New Zealander went for round two almost immediately and came after a few minutes. 7. I stuck around for a bit hoping that the other six men who said they would come, come, but they didn’t. As I was about to leave, I spot another man walking towards the toilet, so I followed him. It was getting dark now so couldn’t really see him properly. He pulled out his dick and I started sucking it, but it never got hard enough to fuck so after a few minutes, I thanked him, got up and left. All in all, a great start to the Spring time here in Australia.

Thank you everyone for the overwhelming response to my poll question. I have read every single comment and it was nice to see such a broad range of opinions and it is clear that there isn’t a one-size-fit-all solution to this common problem that most of us share. I have came to a conclusion on what I will do about this problem from now on: If I simply receive a ‘hey’ message and I don’t think we are a match, I will ignore the message. A generic ‘hey,’ ‘yo,’ ‘sup?’ message in this case is the equivalent to a ‘like,’ ‘woof,’ ‘hot’ button. If I receive a ‘hey’ message and I like what I see or read on their profile, I will reply with a ‘hey’ back and see what it goes. Perhaps add a ‘How is your day going?’ for good measures. If I ignore their ‘hey’ message and they send another ‘hey’ message a few days later, I will reply with ‘Sorry, I am not interested message.’ If they continue to message me, it is time to block them. If I receive a compliment of any sort, or any message outside of the single word ‘hey,’ I will reply with a ‘Thank you,’ followed by a ‘Sorry, I am not interested,’ if I am not interested, or start a conversation if I think we are a match.

For those that uses apps such as Grindr, what are some interesting openers that you often use to get a conversation going? I’ve been struggling for the longest of time and conversations would be something like: ME: Hello, nice to meet you. How is your day going? THEM: It’s alright. hbu? or ME: Hello. Nice weather we are having. Are you excited that spring is approaching? THEM: It’s alright. hbu? or ME: Hello. What are you looking for on here? THEM: Mates, dates, fun. hbu? Someone once said that small talks are important because it allows you to gauge what type of person you are talking to, whether it is worth your time or not. Another person said that if you ask bad questions, then expect to get a bad response, and these are pretty bad responses, so am I simply asking bad questions?

I hope I’m not reading into this as a deeply metaphorical question of some sort lol. To turn off the Grindr sound, at least on an iPhone, you can turn off the app’s notification in the setting menu. You can also choose to turn off the sound specifically too for the app.

Double penetration in porn is becoming my favourite and would definitely love to try it one day. In the meantime, does anyone know if using two silicon dildo will work just as well? I got a 7 inch dildo that looks like a cock that I sometimes use. Can I buy another one and practice with those two or will that lead to tearing and permanent damage to the butt?

I came across the answer to this question in a book called “Rules of the game” by Neil Strauss. Below is the entire passage from the book: If they say that the ring doesn’t fit any of their personalities, you generally tell them that people sometimes choose those fingers because they’re subconsciously working on cultivating that particular attribute or because they’re attracted to people with that attribute. I’ve tried this on a lot of people and it is true most of the time. For those that are reading, do you find the above statement true about yourself?

Hello, Was wondering what the socially accepted etiquette is for rejecting someone on Grindr (or other platform) if someone sends you a message and you are not interested in that person? I have usually ignored messages, but I sometimes receive compliments on my profile or photo and I feel bad for not replying, but I am unsure what to say in response in relation to rejecting them. Any advice?

I’ve cheated on my ex before and when I told him, because I felt that was the right thing to do, it completely destroyed him. I would advise not to tell him about it even though that is morally not right. You will most probably do it again though so you’ll have to convince him to go open or express your need to have sex with others but still love him.

For those that are currently searching for a romantic relationship or are currently in one, did you meet that person by going with the flow, or did you actively seek them out? I’ve been quite actively dating the last couple of months/years with a few success, but nothing long-lasting. The more failed attempts, the more hopeless I feel. But I feel that if I go with the flow and just simply live my life, waiting for the right person to cross my path, that might never happen, and that fear propels me to actively search for a partner, and the negative hopeless cycle repeats. So I am unsure what to do now. Has anyone been in my shoes and have any advice on what to do?

In my experience, I normally lose a hard-on fairly quickly if I can’t get my dick inside him fast enough (especially if he tells me to slow down on the entry). The solution I found that works 100% of the time is to use a dildo (which is a bit smaller than your size) to open him up a bit, then push your dick in, which should go in without any issue. The upside is that his moaning with the dildo will definitely turn you on, so you’ll be super hard when you enter him. Another upside with the dildo is to check if he’s cleaned out his bum before you insert the real thing; if not, just clean the toy and try again after he’s cleaned out. He sounds like a really nice bloke. And you sound like a really nice guy too. Hope you two enjoy your time together!

Genuine question here; I hope it doesn’t get flagged. I have been reading some of the posts in the forums about guys having sex when they are underage (i.e., less than 18(?)), taking raw dicks and getting loaded. The questions is, how do you get tested and treated for the STI that you inevitable catch? If you are, say, nine years old, and catch gono, you wouldn’t go to a sexual health center to get tested, because they would immediate question you and your behaviour (and worst tell your parents)? You wouldn’t want to keep quiet about it either because untreated STI will cause complications later down the road. Sometimes I think how hot it would be if I got into taking raw dicks earlier in life, say in highschool (before 18), but I wouldn’t know what to do if I caught something :S

I am feeling very horny today so I decide to check out Squirt, a cruising website for gay men to have sex with other gay men. I look up Brimbank park and notice that the gate is broken again. Usually, the gates close at 8:00 P.M. so all the fun happens before this time; if the gate is broken, men can come into the park at anytime, which is usually better because there wouldn’t be any interruptions from families and you would know that any men that comes in after eight o’clock is after sex. I clean my bottom hoping to get topped tonight and get there a little after eight. There is only one other car there—a convertible, so I park my car near toilet C and wait. Soon, I see a man walk from his convertible to the toilet. It is too dark to make out what he looks like so I follow him. The toilet has a sink on the left hand side, urinal in the middle, and two cubicals on the far right side. A few weeks ago, there used to be a glory hole in-between the cubical which was gloriously fun to use, but it was closed after a month. Now, there is only the man at the urinal pretending to pee and the echo of my footsteps as I approach the urinal. I take out my dick and play with it a bit, he has his eyes lock onto it, then his warm mouth. He sucks me for the count of about twenty seconds before I leave: his technique was below average. I wait in the car for about twenty minutes before another car arrives, black, parks next to me. It is getting dark now so I could not see the man leaving his car and walks towards the toilet, but I follow him. He waits for me outside the toilet so I enter and he follows me to the cubical. We don’t waste any time. He grabs me by the neck and forces a kiss, spits in my mouth, pushes my down on my knees. He’s got his cock out, hard, pushes it down my throat, holds my head in place, and starts thrusting it forcefully. It feels great being used. I get up on my feet in a bent-over position and he wets my hole, turns me around, and using spit only, forces his cock into my hole. I hold onto the cubical door for support as he pushes his dick deep inside me. Another man enters. He watches us from a distance before approaching with his cock out and I eagerly put it into my mouth. My favourite position. Soon, my top unloads inside me, holds the positions for a count of ten, then slides his dick out. I quickly turn around and put the dick of the other guy into me. It slides in easily and he starts fucking me and I am holding onto the other guy for support and my top is gripping onto my waist as he thrusts in and out and in and out again before unloading into me. Both men cleans their dicks in the sink and leave. I stand there at the cubical jerking myself off with a finger up my ass to feel the cum leaking from my loose hole. After a minute, I leave and sit in my car. I contemplate on leaving when another car shows up, parks, and the man exits his car and walks to the toilet. I am overwhelm with lust and desire so I follow him. Inside, he is standing by the cubical, so I approach him, get on my knees, suck his dick. It is big. It doesn’t take long before it is hard. I stand up, turn around, guides his dick into me. There is no resistance now. There is no need for lube. There is no self-control. I bend over and let him use me, my body is for his enjoyment, his pleasure. He fucks me hard and deep. I feel cum from previous men drip down my legs but he is still going so I stand there like a good boy, and soon he unloads into me. He slaps me ass, rustles my hair, slaps the back of my head, and disappears into the dark and the night. I am exhausted. I pull up my pants, walk to my car, drive home. When I enter my room, I take out my dildo, spit on it, slide it inside me. I can feel the cum inside me squishing and when I take out the dildo, cum leaks all over the floor in large puddles. I stare at it, mesmerize. My knees falls to the ground on its own accord, my face drawn to the puddle, and I begin to lick the floor with the cum on it. It taste so good. I put the dildo back inside me, push it in and out while licking up all the cum. When I am done, I take the dildo out and there is another puddle of cum, so I turn around to lick the puddle dry. I jerk off, slightly disgusted at myself, and cum all over the floor. I lick this up as well.

Thursday, February 3, 2022 Today, I am on my way for a haircut in the old Sunshine plaza. I need to take a leak so I stop by the toilet just before the salon. I walk down the long corridor that reminds me of a hospital with the white fluorescent lights and I see you washing your hands by the basin and making suspicious glances down the hallway. It seems a bit strange but I don’t make anything of it so I take a right turn into the room with the urinals and cubicals. The room is empty except for a dozen urinals lined against the left wall and the dozen or so cubicals that occupy the right wall. I choose the urinal second to the end, unzip my pants, pull out my dick, urinate. You stand at the urinal right next to mine, pull out your dick, begin to stroke it. You stand at an angle to me, an invitation, and it strikes me that I am being cruised. My heart is beating fast. I finish my leak but I don’t move, except for my eyes that has made its way to your package. It’s a big cut dick. I look at your face but you don’t look at me. I take off my mask, slowly, and before anyone could catch us in the act, I bend over and take the head of your penis in my mouth, but you pull away. You gesture to one of the empty cubicals. I imagine getting on my knees in the privacy of a toilet stall with your dick in my mouth and if I’m lucky, in my ass, so I quickly choose a cubical. It makes sense to choose the last one, so I make my way into that one, closes the door but not locking, and begin to jerk off while I wait for you to enter from behind. I hear the sound of your jean zipping up, but your footsteps are receding as quickly as my desire. I peep down through the opening of the cubical but there is no one in the room. What a disappointment. I close my eyes and jerk off to what could have been, the fullness of your penis in my ass as you silently unload inside me, and I cum inside the toilet, flush, wash my hands, and make it to my haircut appointment being only five minutes late.

Just curious about our community here. What key words do you usually search up for when you are watching gay porn (on GayTube, Google, PornHub, Xnxx, etc.)? Mine has been, “bareback gay porn,” “gay glory hole,” “gay public toilet,” “gay cheating,” “gay muscles.” I ask some of my gay friends and most of them are embarrass to tell me lol. I guess it reveals a lot about their personality, preferences, and type.

I am usually worried whenever the person that I am dating ask what type of relationship that I want (e.g., open, monogamy, etc. ) because more often than not, they want monogamy, and I would always tell myself that I’ll give it another go to see if this arrangement will work out. And it does for a little while, until I start to miss the freedom of having sex with other men. Sometimes, when things get more serious with us, I would randomly get angry at my partner because I feel like my freedom (to have sex with other people) is taken away, which is very silly because I have placed myself in this situation in the first place. Maybe I am angry at myself. I think the above information is enough to deduce that monogamy is probably not for me. I want to tell myself that I am ‘ready to settle down’ with one person, to keep my options open (i.e., include monogamy as well as open relationship in the cards) but it doesn’t seem fair to my partner when I don’t hold up to my end of the agreement in a monogamy relationship. Anyway, I was taking to a guy on Grindr today. He asked what type of relationship I wanted to be in, and after a moment of hesitation, I told him I prefer open but be romantically attached to one person (but physically to others), and he was cool with that, thankfully. But couldn’t the opposite happen? Meaning that the other person really wants a monogamy relationship but wants to try an open relationship with me, and not be true to themselves? Somewhere along the line, they would be unhappy that I am sleeping around too much and things will go downhill?

I seem to be a magnet for both gonorrhoea and chlamydia every time. Thankfully, they are both easily treatable.

Very great advice, thanks for sharing! I will give that a go. (Also thank you for your replies on my other posts. I can only post three times a day now, so I sadly can’t reply to all of them at the present moment :(()

When you are dating someone for the first time, is it by default exclusive? (meaning that you can’t have sex with anybody else except each other) Or is the default non-exclusive until you both have the talk about it? When I date, I assume the default is non-exclusive, to keep my options open, so I can date and have fun with other people until I am sure that this person might be the one. Then at some point down the dating path, we both agree for exclusivity. I don’t tell people this at the start and when the men I am dating find out that I have been dating/having fun with other people, they think I am cheating and things go downhill pretty quickly, even though we are seeing each other and not even official. I don’t want to have the ‘exclusivity’ talk too early because it means I am lock into the relationship without options, but not telling them at all risk them thinking that I am a cheat. What would you do if you were in this situation?

Has anyone had any success in dating or having a relationship when both partners are both Tops, or both of you are Bottoms? I am a Top Vers, and have had the most success dating men who have identified themselves as Bottom. When I date Tops, I have no trouble being the bottom in the bedroom. But I find that we tend to disagree more on just about everything. It’s like none of us wants to lose an argument. Is this a ‘Top/Alpha’ trait? Bottoms tends to go with the flow more, carefree, so we don’t end up disagreeing as much, it’s just so much easier. I know I am generalizing here, please be nice.

When I am in a relationship, I usually like to be the one fucking, and occasionally bottom when the mood is right, so I put on my profile that I am Top Vers. However, when I hook-up, I love to bottom exclusively. The reason is that I can only get hard and maintain an erection when certain criteria are met (e.g., I’m attracted to them, compatible kissing and cuddling, good at sucking . . . ) so it’s just much easier to say that I am a bottom in this case. I love taking anon loads at bathhouses. Am I still a Top if I love to bottom just as much? Or is it more accurate to say that I am a Vers? How do you know that you are a Top? Does it have to do more with how you treat your partner outside the bedroom (e.g., the way you hold him, how protective you are, etc.) that defines you as a ‘Top’? Some responses might say that I shouldn’t worry about labels, but I find labels helpful in communicating to others what you like and what you want.

Oh, I have came to the aforementioned conclusion sometime in the past, but I am still pretty much a whore in the present hehe. In a way, I really like keeping two ‘identities’: one being the ‘good boy’ that everyone knows of me in life and the other one being ‘slutty’ when no one is looking. It is quite thrilling that way. It’s like having a secret identity that no one knows about, like Spider-man. It also satisfy that tiny bit of rebel inside me. I am that kid that puts up a smile when adults are around, only to knock down a vase when they have their backs turned.

Does anyone have any tips on making friends when you are over thirty? I was listening to a podcast and someone said, “It is a universal truth that it becomes more difficult to make friends as you get older,” and I agreed. When I was in my twenties, I made friends through school/uni, 21th birthday parties, and through work. Nowadays, I am familiar with everyone from my workplace, friends have their own families and babies to worry about, and birthdays are close friend invites only. More specifically, I want to make new friends roughly my own age (early thirty) with the possibility of finding someone to date (best case scenario). So far, I have joined clubs that reflect my interest/hobbies on facebook but people are too scattered across the country to meet up, been too afraid to go to clubs/bar scene and approaching someone there to talk to (maybe I should go with a friend), done +1 invitations to house parties but most people are busy so it ends up being just my usual group of friends, downloaded ‘Meetup’ app, but haven’t actually meet-up with any group yet because I’m such an introvert. I meet some cool people at bathhouses, so I think I’ll give that a go some more. I thought people go there for sex only, but there are some who likes to chat.

Thanks for the reply everyone! It’s pretty hot here in Australia so I can see why overheating can be a problem sometimes. I’m going to grab a fan and leave it on so I can stay under the covers with him longer hehe. This would indeed be the best case scenario and I have meet a couple of guys where we would cuddle for hours—it’s the best! Physical touch, especially hugging and cuddling, is so important to me so if I can find someone who is similar, that would be awesome.

Hey @TwinkSlut24, I’ve been there and done that hehe. In relation to your question, when I tell my gay friends that I have taken a dozen cocks (anonymously and bareback) the previous night, I can’t help but shake the feeling that they are shocked. I wouldn’t say that they are disgusted by my behaviour, but more along the line of being worried for me, because of catching STDs (which always happen anyway) or my getting hurt in some way. I definitely wouldn’t tell any of my straight friends about my slutiness, as they will be disgusted for sure. Oh well. In my personal view, after being in the shoes of a slut, I have come to the conclusion that we go and have sex for fun, but we are still people at the end of the day. We have our lives, ambitions, hobbies, families to return to. Perhaps the top might see as a piece of meat who purpose is for his enjoyment, and us bottom might see ourselves as a hole to be used, and for a brief amount of time, the world exist in that space only. But after everyone cums, the curtain is drawn, and we return to our lives again. So I wouldn’t worry about what people might think about your behaviour. They might call you this or that, but you are much more than just this one thing (being a slut) that you do in your life. It doesn’t define who you are. I think in terms of being addicted to being a whore, it depends on your personality. I’m a risk taker so I am drawn to activities like these, but I know a lot of other bottoms who are more risk-adverse, so they would probably think about doing this in their fantasy, but not in real life.

I met a few guys that say they enjoy cuddling, but when we cuddle for about two minutes, they move away from me, pull off the blanket, and say that they are overheating because I’m producing too much heat. Is our cuddling incompatible and they are trying to escape from me? For those that do overheat, what does overheating feel like? What do you do when you are prone to overheating but your partner wants to keep cuddling?