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I'm up for the challenge if I am spun, but there is a difference between a guy inflicting pain because he is huge as opposed to someone who is being sadistic and wants to hurt you. Having anal fissures can bring you sex life to a crashing halt if you normally bottom. A competent, well hung top hopefully knows what he is doing and can allow you time to become comfortable with his length or girth. If I get the impression that he doesn't know what the hell he is doing I am out of there, and I am a patient guy who doesn't normally "throw in the towel". If he's an experienced top, the two of you can figure out a way to make it work.

I had someone travel from out west to Florida, and in our messages he said he would be bringing some kind of HIV testing kit with him, and that would determine if we would play or not. The individual didn't bother to read my profile, which clearly stated I was positive, and when I pointed that out to him - he blocked me. He claimed to be in the medical field, though I question how accurate these "on demand" tests really are. I haven't read through the entire thread, but are there tests that give immediate results that are accurate, and are they available to everyone, not just medical professionals?

It's a shame, because the situation has gotten worse over the years. When someone asks within the first several messages if I could help with gas money, I shut it down. I would never ask a stranger for anything like that. It's an immediate red flag. I do think these guys are somewhat professional, they think they're smarter than someone in their 40s or 50s (or older) which is usually not the case. I hate to be cynical, but I find it surprising that someone who claims to be about 2 miles from my place would need gas money. When they become frustrated after I say "Well I can come pick you up, I can be there in 10 minutes" you know they probably aren't even in your state. I just move along, I have been pleasantly surprised, but I was not anywhere near as skeptical as I am today, say ten years ago. I'm willing to give a guy a chance - but only just so much. When the conversation becomes financial in nature, I say "no thanks" and that's it. It's really sad that it has come to this....

Well if you are going to do it, find a reputable doctor like a poster mentioned in say NYC or Los Angeles. i have three individuals who I have played with over the years and their experience has been less then ideal. All three went to Mexico, the procedure was done in Tijuana and they recovered back at a hotel on the US side. I can tell you with at least two of them had a progressive movement of the silicone in their penis that resulted in a very unusual shape. Yes it was thicker, but that thickness would change. I can only compare it to chewing on a tire when it was in my mouth, that is the texture. Trust me, you don’t have to be a rocket scientist to notice it. One of these guys did a video for Dick Wadd, he was able to cum, but he was not invited back. I would just say “do your research” and ask the doctor what your expectations should be. You may also be told that there is maintenance to be done on your updated penis-just get all the facts before you dive into this. If you use the wrong doctor you could mess up your dick and no one wants that.

My feelings are just about the same. The absolute last thing I want to do is cum before the guy fucking me does. I have, in the past, wanted to “please” the top, make it more exciting for him because they told me that seeing me shoot my load turned him on. Well, I am no longer willing to do that and tell guys from the beginning . Granted I am not making professional movies and I can see why that might make the video more entertaining . I have, on occasion, noticed as the bottom shot his load while the top plowed away. Sadly I also saw the expressions of pain on his face. Glad to see this topic addressed.

I agree with what you said, but I do take exception to 'the HIV issue". When I was going to the baths in Lauderdale HIV was a very present and real threat. Yet I never saw condoms being used, mostly discarded. The age range was 20s to perhaps 70s during the Sunday cookout they had by the pool. I don't believe people's behavior really changed, or they were already positive. We had chatted about the Cubby Hole, look at the behavior that went on in the bathrooms! I mean, I only wish I had stumbled upon that place earlier. Who would have thought? That tiny bar, yet all the action that went on. I know bathhouses have to cover expenses, rising rents and it's pushing many of them out of business. I don't blame HIV for any of that. I believe it's the economy, it's almost inevitable. I believe that "times like this" will create almost a "sub-culture" where bars will be gone, bathhouses as well. Instead, apps like Sniffies will allow men to meet in anonymous places and take chances they know they should not (I try not to think about my behavior at the Cubby Hole). But HIV? Sure, many guys are concerned. But, in the long run, the worst of that plague I believe, is over. Or I pray it is. HIV didn't stop gay men from having sex in organized places in the 80s 90s or 2000s, and I doubt it will now. But the economy? It may force all of us to consider our options when it comes to "location".

Tampa Men's Club pricing is through the roof. You pay for a pass to enter, plus either a locker or a room, which is similar to "the old days". But these prices? Well here we go: A one day pass is $16, 3 months is $49, and 6 months is $69. Then, on a weekend starting at 4 pm on Friday, the rate for a locker is $32, a "deluxe room" is $44, a premium room is $70 and the Premium 2.0 Room (whatever that is????) is $130. So for someone who decides to go for the first time, just to get a feel for the place, the lowest cost with day pass and a locker is $48. That's a day pass only, remember that part. Their web site is very glossy. I cannot confirm just how nice their "rooms" are. But one thing I have heard is that the parking lot seems empty, even on weekends and holidays. Now if anyone has spent time there, I sure would love some feedback regarding the facility. These prices seem very high to me. One other thing to mention is that this facility has a bit of a "stranglehold" on the bathhouse market in Tampa. If you pull up their site, they proudly announce they are "Tampa's Only Gay Bathhouse". With the Rainbow Cabaret now a thing of the past, I am not sure how many of those guys have gone over to this location. Again, any comments are greatly appreciated.

I take a look at some of the pictures of asses that have been fisted and I wonder how some of these guys are doing as they age. I mean the photos alone are enough to make me cringe, I can't imagine how their ass must feel. I am not a prude, I don't judge, it's just not for me. I see DP action in a lot of porn, and yeah, I have been involved in that. Even with that, you have to include the right guys who have the right dicks, and who know what they are doing. Fisting to me, it doesn't even seem sexual. I have noticed many of the fisting bottoms are almost obsessed with doing that, they no longer find a dick that satisfies them. It's not my thing, I just hope that as they age their bodies don't let them down and the suffer in pain and discomfort.

Okay for all of you that are a fan of Eric Videos, they have a performer who does only fans and you can find him on X as well. He is Mathieu DeLyon. He has 34,000 followers on X. His only fans is @mathieu31. He describes himself as a dominant top with a "thick big dick". I watched him fuck the American @DerekKageXXX in a very good Eric Video. Derek had just about all the dick he could handle (and that says something cause Derek is a very "capable" bottom, if you know what I mean🤭) Or you can find him on the Eric Videos web site. I understand people may not think it is worth it to "pay for view". I agree, I can find much of the material everyone has posted on a certain site which I won't mention, lol, but this guy also performs for MENATPLAY.COM and Citebeur, he's got it going on. Check him out if thin, unassuming types with huge cocks turn you on.

The attraction to going to a bathhouse in a city where you don't reside in, is in my mind, privacy. I don't like to go a location where people may know me socially. For example, I lived in an area that had several bathhouses at one point prior to Covid. I can probably count on both hands how many times I actually went to them. Why? Because these nosey queens, who may know me (or think they know me) socially, stand around chatting - when the intention of going to a bathhouse/sexclub/fuckjoint is to be able to let go, and have some fun sexually without people listening outside my door. I don't need them to know how many guys I had in my room over the course of an evening/day/8 hours (or 16 if I am Lauerdale 🤭). It's not their business. My last experience in my local area drove that feeling home. I was not even in my room yet, when I heard, "Guess who's here, it's ,,,,,,,,". I don't claim to be well known or popular, but Jesus, can't a guy have some fun without having it broadcast to the place? It was not worth the price of the room, to be honest. People argue this subject, saying "well everyone is here for the same reason, you shouldn't be embarrassed". Well I'm there to have sex, not to stand around in a towel watching who goes in and out of someone's room. I will drive hours to Fort Lauderdale because, frankly, I can go most places and the majority of the time I will not be recognized. When one of the bathhouses started adding a "bag check guy" years back, he waved me through, fortunately that was someone who knew me from where I live and he didn't do the check. In that instance, it was good to be recognized. But if I am out of town, I can do who and what I want with them, and actually enjoy myself. If I wanna take a ride share from my hotel and get fucked up, I am not running the risk of hurting anyone. I would never, ever go up to someone - let alone knock on their door for God's sake, just to ask some dumbass question and ruin whatever was going on in their room. I try to respect people's privacy. And yes, I do behave differently sexually. I might have double digit totals at a bathhouse in Lauderdale, but not where I live. Do I do different sex acts, or behave differently? Not really. But if I am out of town, I can forget about both my neighbors hearing me as well as so called "friends" counting the number of guys I hook up with. Sorry, but this subject hit a nerve with me.

I find that surprising and I am sorry to hear you experienced that. To me, fisting is just something that is not going to happen, at least with me. I would think some guys might be using a butt plug to "open" themselves up. I am not interested in toys, or fists, to be honest. Call me old fashioned, but I would prefer just a big dick any day. That's just me.

What is that saying? "First impressions are lasting ones"? Well, the same can be said for having a dirty ass. Now I know there are times, when an opportunity arises and you may not have had time to prep. I guess what I am saying is I understand that circumstances arise, and you're not quite ready. You can A. Be honest with him, try to make an arrangement where you can either go home and take care of it and then come back or you can B. Risk it and take a chance. Here are my feelings. Run home, or back to your hotel/motel room and take care of the situation. He'll wait. If he is a decent top (and a decent person) he understands what you have to do and why. This is the bottom line - if you are dirty, you are forever in his mind as that "dirty ass". You don't want that. I know guys get excited, they want to jump on that guys dick - but do you want to have an accident? Hell no you don't. So take the time to correct your situation. That way, you can relax and enjoy yourself. Because you "mess up" the first time, he may not give you another opportunity.

That's a 14 inch dick inside you? Wow -where did you hide it? That is impressive.....

Aren't you the same guy who posted something like this "A BIG DICK MAKES UP FOR A WHOLE LOT OF UGLY". I could have sworn that was you. I had a t shirt made with that saying on it, never had a chance to thank you. But the but plug thing, yet, that would be a tell tale sign.......

You think????????😀