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South Bay as in SF or South Bay as in RB, PV, etc.?

Same here only with Imodium. If I'm planning a weekend of play I'll take two while initially cleaning out and then a third one the next day. That combined with thorough douching and light eating keeps me good to go for a couple of days with few to no touchups.

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Yes. I insert a plug after I think I'm finished douching, leave it in for about half an hour, and then remove it. If it comes out without anything other than clear water following it then I'm done. If not, another round on the hose.

Between this demonstrably false statement and your claim that you "personally know women who have had ten or eleven abortions" when you're clearly not someone a woman (much less "women") would confide in I have to conclude that you live under a bridge.

When you speak of "[p]lacing the right to decide the abortion matters back in the hands of the individual states" do you realize whose hands it was taken from? It was removed from the hands of individual citizens for her to decide. People seem to be ignoring that fact and instead like to pretend that it was taken from the Federal Government. But Roe was decided based on an individual citizen's right to privacy. It does not belong in the hands of the separate states. Why on Earth should a woman's neighbors get a say on what medical procedures she chooses to undergo? The Tenth Amendment of the US Constitution (the Reserve Powers Clause) does not just give the "powers not delegated to the United States by the Constitution, nor prohibited by it to the States... to the States respectively." Besides the Federal and state governments there's a third group who also holds power. The last four words of the Tenth are "or to the people." The states restricting abortion is nothing but a power grab by state governments taking power from individual citizens.

I have nothing to say about this. I'm just posting another comment in the hope that I'll be able to send messages.

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A year ago people would have thought that talk of Roe being overturned was fear mongering. And here we are. An Associate Justice of the US Supreme has stated in his concurrence of the decision overturning Roe that three specific decisions using the same legal reasoning as Roe should be re-adjudicated. How is discussing this "fear mongering"?

I was raped when I was 20 or 21 but it was decades before I'd realize that I'd been raped. I was conscious (for most of it), I just didn't realize that it was rape. For years I just chalked it up to being a bad sexual experience. I was in college sharing a two bedroom apartment with a guy I'd found through a roommate wanted ad he'd placed at my college's housing office. He was probably in his late 20s (I don't remember), wasn't a student, and identified as straight. I identified as gay (still do) and was out (to him and generally). We'd been sharing the apartment for several months when it happened. I was in my bed, in my room, with the door shut, sound asleep. Asleep, not drunk, not drugged, not passed out, asleep. Middle of the night I wake up when I feel him in me fucking me. I don't really remember many details other than that he was clearly drunk. He smelled drunk. Like he'd drank so much that alcohol was coming out of his pores like sweat. To this day I can't stand that smell. That's all I remember. He wasn't in my bed when I woke up the next morning, nor did we run into each other in the apartment for the next several days. One evening sometime later (weeks, maybe months, not days) he brought it up. He made reference to "the night he was in my bed" and him being a bit "bisexual." I don't remember much of what he said, I just sort of stared at the wall. I was in my 50s and reading an article about rape and the large percentage of women who have been raped. And some of those statistics were not based on women self reporting that they had been raped but from researchers interpreting how they responded to questions about sexual encounters. And it clicked. There had been no consent. There was nothing that could have been interpreted as my giving consent, we had NO past sexual history where consent had been given. I wasn't even conscious when it began. I'd been raped. It fucked with my head for a while after that. Still does sometimes. But writing this has actually been really helpful. Thank you for asking.

In the interest of full disclosure, my feathers are ruffled and I'm going to rant for a bit. When it comes to sexual activities and fetishes there are some I like, some I'm neutral on and find inoffensive, some I dislike, and some I just don't understand. Obviously my preference is to play with men who like the same things I like. But I will participate in the things I'm neutral about if I'm into the other person or we're also doing some of the activities I like. I won't participate in activities I dislike. As far as the one's I don't understand go, some I'm neutral on and some I dislike. Feet for example, I'm not into them, I personally do not understand the appeal, but I don't find feet offensive. If I'm with a man who is into feet and he wants to go to town on my feet I'll tell him to go for it and I try to be an enthusiastic participant. I'm not going to give an example of something I don't like or find disgusting, suffice to say there are a couple and when I come across a guy interested in them I don't respond with "ewwww, that's disgusting," I say, "we're not a match" and let him move on ego intact. All of that being said, everyone has things they dislike and won't do and that's fine. No one is required to do anything he doesn't want to, we all have agency. But FFS if there are things you don't like and don't understand their appeal or the mindset of the people who participate in them don't project onto them your preconceptions and, as @blackrobe wrote, "don't yuck on someone else's yum." There is such a thing as tact and trying not to be a dick. Everyone is free to say whatever they want, and everyone is also free to respond to what others say. @NWUSHorny is certainly free to say that he's "not going to fuck [someone in chastity] no matter how desperate [he is]." And someone else is free to respond with something like, "I'm never going to be so desperate that I'd let someone that arrogant and rude fuck me." But rude comments about who we wouldn't fuck/get fucked by really serve no purpose other than to show what assholes we can be. Same with comments like @MikeDelRay's comment, "I thought Toys R Us shut down 4 years ago." It's a bit clever. Probably as clever as someone else saying, "I thought we only play dress up on Halloween" about guys in sports wear. It's also equally as rude and dismissive of another person's interest. My point is can we please try to be a bit less dickish when talking about other people's fetishes that we aren't interested in or dislike. That's all. Rant over.

I made one using nylon webbing, stainless steel snaps, and stainless steel welded rings and D-rings. If you're interested I can give you more details.