NJRawDaddy

It occurs to me that one reason there are less orgies is because no one wants to organize them. I can't imagine that there's a lack of people who want to attend. I have a friend that organizes orgies. The problem is that he's running the show, meaning he doesn't get a lot of sex because he's busy opening the door, greeting people, answering messages, etc. etc. Not to mention paying for privilege of doing this in the form of paying for the room. So everyone but him as a great time while his needs are only partially met. The solution to this is to go to a sex party in a large city. Take LodgeNY, a group in NYC that throws 10-15 parties/week along a variety of schedules and themes. They cost roughly $30 to enter, which includes clothes check, light refreshments, lube and condoms, cleanup efforts, advertising, staff costs, and location rental. I used to go to a 2-hour lunchtime event that was a much smaller version of this. I thnk he charged $20. Enough to pay for the room and give him a bit of spending money. So if you want an orgy, why not organize one yourself? Your needs won't get met terribly well, but if you just wnat to play then be prepared to make a donation to the host or pay for entry to someone else's event. Otherwise, you're just showing up and enjoying a service they're providing while they don't get a lot in return.

I laughed so hard at this. I'm on anti-depressants and on blood pressure meds. So so so true. I changed my profiles too. In truth I'm a versatile bottom. I do top on occaison. But I absolutely LOATHE being pressured to top. I spend years as an escort with bottoms demanding I fuck them in XYZ position and cum on demand. I hated it on a personal level, although I was fine with it professionally. Now I fuck when the mood strikes me. I only fuck bottoms I want to fuck, and I do it because I genuinely want to cum in them. I say I'm a bottom online though because when I said I'm a versatile bottom, other bottoms started harassing me wanting me to fuck them in the positions they wanted. UGH. No more. Now I mostly top at sex parties when I can tell the bottom what position to get into. And if he doesn't want to do it, then fine. I'm perfectly happy not topping or will find someone else who will comply. I'm not demanding, I just don't enjoy being someone else's top piece of meat in a position that does nothing for me. Especially since it's harder to stay erect than it used to be.

Knowing that you were laughing in solidarity made me feel better about the incident. It's still somewhat raw in my mind as it was only a few months ago. I gotta ask. What were your erratic people like?

We have a nice orgy group out here in suburban NJ every month or so. A couple of friends (and playmates) of mine run it. They split the logistics -- one pays for the room while the other does the recruiting / messaging. Their events are typically mid 30s through mid 60s, modestly fit to somewhat chubby. They don't usually let in younger guys because experience has found that even though they say they're okay playing with older guys, the younger guys are typically uncomfortable and get clickish with each other. They make for a bad vibe so they aren't allowed in. (Although I suppose if one repeatedly said he very much wanted to play with older men that he could convince the host to give him a try.) The vibe at the event is very hot and very relaxed. The event runs about 3 hours, with about half of the guys departing by the 2 hour mark, and 90% departing by 3 hours. A few of us usually stay a bit longer playing and talking in a more relaxed and intimate fashion. It's definitely some work to throw such an event, especially since the guy who does the messaging goesn't get as much action at the event. He has to enjoy watching and understand that a lot of his playing will come in bursts and later in the evening.

As the younger partner: 52 year difference (I was 28, he was 80) As the older partner: 36 year difference (I am 54, he is 18 -- we still play sometimes).

Years ago when I was an escort, I had several clients whom I knew. I didn't recognize one of them at first -- he was a hookup from a previous year. He had to remind me whom he was. The other looked familiar. Turns out he was an adult I had known 10+ years prior from when I was 15. He recognized me from the ad in my pictures and thought it would be fun to hire me. The funny thing? Fast forward another 20 years. I now work for him. Not regularly or in a traditional sense, but we're in the same profession and I occasionally do weekend projects for him. We are perfect gentlemen to each other, but occasionally make veiled references about our shared past. It always gets a smile out of the other.

@njdaddycumdump I'm trying to post on it regularly about my hookups, my former career in the sex industry, and my cumdumps.

My answers: The good: A late evening arrival who role-played he was raping me, and forcing me to say how much I wanted it. A daddy and I repatedly working over a horny (and very passive) college student who came inside me four times. At the end of my first event - realizing I can be openly slutty with a community of people who celebrate this as a good thing. Meeting new tops some of which are becoming friends. The bad: As an experiment I openly posted a hotel room # on Grindr resulting in a mess of erratic people showing up. A guy who wanted to watch and refused to take off his clothes. A guy who wanted to play, but who put on a women's bikini and announced he wouldn't top. A rather hot-looking guy who freaked out when he realized he was getting someone else's cum on his dick. Needless to say that event didn't go very well. A hygiene failure early into one event. I took a shower, re-cleaned out, and the rest of the day went fine. The guy in question understood it happens, but I was embarassed. I've made new changes to my preparation routine because of this. Becoming inwardly (but not visibly) upset at people who aren't following the rules. For example, someone that showed up at my event and announced he wanted to bottom, followed by someone announcing he only wanted to fuck him and didn't want to touch me. Lesson learned there: boot such people instantly. The practical: Novice cumdumpers need to learn lessons that experienced cumdumpers take to heart. Knowing in advance how to handle a negative situation will make you a far more effective host. It's not kind to be overly-flexible with one person if it ruins the experience of others (including yourself). Be prepared for strong emotional and physical response after your events. Aftercare far more important than people realize. Have someone you like present to help you through it. You'll have an approximate "ceiling" of 20-30 loads in an evening without refining your event and having someone help run the room. You can't recruit more tops when you've got a dick in both ends. Just because you bottom well for 1-4 loads doesn't mean you're ready for 50. Stress test yourself periodically to see how well you can take it. Some guys will enter the room, decide the vibe isn't for them (for any of a thousand reasons), make an excuse, and leave. Don't be annoyed at them. They're what I call "Ghosts". They kinda float in and float away and don't affect your event as a whole. Lots more stuff. I hope top have my guidebook done in a week or two. I'll post it on BZ when it's ready.

I'm writing a guide to hosting amateur cumdump events. I'd like the community's input on the following questions so I can include the answers in the document. All responses will be anonymized. 1. What particularly good (hot, intense, or emotionally-fulfilling) moments and encounters have you had at cumdump events? 2. Same question, but bad (gross, distracting, off-putting) incidents. 3. What practical advice would you give to an aspiring amateur cumdump? My own answers in the first reply.

This is probably bad advice, but I've been ignoring standard prescription dosages of Viagra and Cialis for a while now. I experimented slowly with increasing it and have found that when I double or so the dosage I have the effect from Viagra that I had 20 years ago. Without it I don't do nearly as well. I also mix Poppers and Viagra (again, with slow testing to make sure my body can handle it). It's pretty easy. Interestingly, I've found I use poppers a lot less than Iw as. Purposely not cumming for weeks at a time naturally makes my body more responsive, which in turn means I need less Viagra and poppers for enjoyment. So even if your dick has ED troubles, turn that to an advantage. If you're a bottom, just stop cumming nearly as often. Focus on the top fucking you. You'll have a field day with it. If you're a top, that's a lot more difficult. I'll let others give you advice on that.

I love being a cumdump. I always have the tops draw tick marks on my body. I find the ritual both encourages and reinforces their use of my hole, as well as looks damn sexy when it's done. Show off your body and the tick marks on it. Here's me.

Epilogue: 16 guys fucked 24 loads into me. A great time for everyone involved. One amusing moment: a guy showed up with a huuuuge dick. I could only get my mouth on half of it. I was actually a bit scared about being fucked by it. When it came time, he pulled out a condom and put it on. I told him no condoms, so put on his clothes and left. He made his choice, I made mine. But a part of me was relieved that I didn't have to bottom for him. Part of me is regretting I'll never get to experience it.

The boiler room of the Clara Maass Hospital (now Medical Center) in Newark, NJ. This was over 20 years ago. I don't actually rememer if I was fucked there, but I did have sex. Close enough.

Normally I would have, but he had traveled out to see me and I got confused with the times. He was in the area and sending messages that he was leaving when I realized the error. He came inside saying he really needed to be going at that moment and didn't have much time to play. So when he pulled out a condom to fuck me, I decided not to make an issue out of it. We had little enough time as it is, and it was my fault that the time got screwed up. Since I was inconviencing him with the time, I wasn't going to press him on the condom. He slide (rubber and all) into me and came within 60 seconds. Set the condom on the edge of the bed and left. I walked him out of my home, then came back to the bedroom. It was still quite warm, so for the first time in my life I poured the cum from a condom into my hole. It was erotic in a suboptimal sleazy kind of way. But I realized that I didn't know how to evaluate it. Was it a load or was it not a load? Since the community is split, I think I'll go with a fair compromise -- each person is free to make their own definition, and in my case I'll count it as half a load. So when I tell people I took "x and a half loads" this year, that ought to get some funny questions how I took half a load. This amusing story will follow.

I asked ChatGPT for an answer on this. It waffled a fair bit, but I pressed it for an answer. Here's what it finaly said:

One thought. The urinary incontinence issue may be a major issue for some partners. 25+ years ago as an escort, I arrived at a client's home. The first thing he asked: "are you into watersports?" I said I wasn't. His next question: "Ever wanted to try it?" Me: No thanks. Turns out he'd had radical prostate surgery causing constant (albiet gradual) dribbligns from his dick. When he orgasmed it came out in a giant stream of urine. It wasn't my scene and I would have left earlier had I not been paid by the hour. I have no idea what the surgerys are like today and what percent chance there are of certain side effects. But you may find yourself very popular with certain aspects of the watersports community. I'm sure they'd love urinary orgasms. Good luck to you with your medical challenges.

I really should have put up a poll...

I escorted in the mid-late 1990s. I started after I got out of grad school and couldn't get a job. I was one of the first escorts on the Internet. Well, sorta. Y'know how the hookup apps have guys looking for "generous" men? That was a thing back then too. We hung out in the America Online chatrooms. I was one of the first to leave it in favor of building my own web presence. It took off bigger than I ever dreamt possible. I did it full time for about five years. Most of my clients were in the NJ/NYC area, but had clients that flew me around the country and occasionally took me on trips around the world. I eventually wrote two books about be experiences. Both are out of print, but their pages still exist on Amazon. Suburbn Hustler; Stories of a Hi-Tech Callboy. (That's me on the front cover) The Male Escort's Handbook: Your Guide to Getting Rich the Hard Way. (Not me on the front cover, but I'm on the back cover.) I left escorting to get into porn and produce my own line of amateur videos. In retrospect it was a poor idea. Escorting was far easier and more profitable, but it wasn't intellectually challenging. Running a porn business was better at that. I have no real regrets, but in hindsight it wasn't ideal. Bonus points if anyone remembers my "nom de porn" - Aaron Lawrence - from my escort / porn days. I wasn't a big star by any means, but I did have a strong online presence for the day.

The top didn't empty it in me. He left about 30 seconds after he came, and I emptied it in me. So... Yes? No?

I need an official ruling. Y'all are perfect for the job. > Does getting fucked with a condom and pouring the load inside your hole count as taking a load? No weaseling out of the question. 😉 I need a yes or no.

Interesting. I'm new-ish to cumdump events. I've held eight of them so far, all out in NJ. Lowest was 11 loads, highest was 25. The're getting better over time as I refine the system I'm using to hold and promote them. Sorry this one didn't work out for you. You identified one principle that I've been learning. --> Personal satisfaction after the even t= a balance between numbers (maximizing tops and loads) and enjoyment of the experience. Sounds like you didn't get much of either. I've been doing fairly well. Hope your new events and hookups are more rewarding to you.

So don't leave us in suspense. How'd the big cumdump weekend go?

I'm glad the Red Roof Plus in Secaucus is getting such rave reviews here. By pure coincidence I'm doing a cumdump event there this Friday night. I normally host mine at the Red Roof Inn in Edison, but thought I'd try a different location and see what happens.

Bareback cumdump Friday (4pm - 10pm) - Red Roof Inn, Secaucus (Will begin earlier if the hotel gives me advanced checkin) My record: 17 guys / 25 loads in me - all from fucking. Let's break it together. Smooth, pump-and-go flow. Jump in, play, fuck, cum inside me - then recharge and repeat, or head on your way. Bareback only. No drugs (poppers okay). No crossdressing. No other bottoms. All ages and male body types welcome. Regulars and first-timers appreciated. Message for invite.

My progress: I've taken 92 loads so far. That brings me all the way up to April 2, so I'm well ahead of schedule. I'm already thinking ahead to 2027, wondering if I should go for 1.5 loads per day on average.