being versatile I've been on both sides of this issue, and lets face it, it's a lot easier to be a bottom...no real performance anxiety to deal with, however what I have discovered is that some bottoms really need to listen and pay attention. When I'm having sex, top or bottom...I pay attention to the other guy... if we are both having a hot time then things go better. For me when I top, I always tell a good bottom pig if he wants my dick hard, he should work my nips HARD! Lets face it, bottoms should do some of the work. If I have to tell the bottom 3 or 4 times to work my nips...harder, harder, harder, then he's not paying any attention to what I want and he's probably not getting my cock for long and he's definitely not getting my load!