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The best way is to find someone with a car to go with. :-)

Hey guys, sorry it's taken a couple of days to respond. I had a busy-ish Sunday and worked today. I went and had a good time, though I'll say that I had built it up in my mind more than it turned out to actually be. I went with some viagra in my system and a bottle of poppers in hand and got there fairly early. It was still pretty empty but I quickly ended up fucking my way through numerous hot bottoms. There was one who I kept running into and he kept taking my dick until I was almost ready to cum and I'd pull back. Damn he had a fine furry ass. Really I was there to get myself fucked and I knew if I'd cum I'd probably be less motivated to do so. So I pretty much spent the majority of my time edging myself until I was ready to switch over to bottom mode. After a while I gave in and got fucked by a hot bearish daddy with a thick uncut dick and begged for his load. He obliged which was very nice. There were some really hot tops around, but they were a bit popular and crowded, which led to me mostly avoiding them. Mostly the bottoms I came across were amazing and there weren't enough cocks to go around to fill them. I suspect if I was strictly a top it'd be heaven. I found another hot older guy to fuck me after a pretty long while and I thought it'd be hot to get fucked in the sling. It was a good fuck until I did a hit of my poppers. The guy asked for some and I delivered, which was a mistake because he couldn't handle them and basically had to go lay down. Oops. So I figured "Hell, I'm already in the sling." and I just stayed there and let anyone who wanted to fuck me in my ass. That turned out to be a chubby older guy who couldn't stay hard, a really young twink who I had fucked earlier in the night (he was cute, but not really my type) and finally a rather hot furry chested bearded daddy. At my request he shot his load in me which sent me over the edge and I shot all over my chest. In truth I came out of there with only two loads in me. That is more than I've ever done at one of these types of things, but only by one. I think that I prefer just going to Steamworks on a weekend daytime or Truck on a Tuesday night over Cumunion in hindsight. There's still tons of bareback sex to be had but there's more of a social atmosphere at both places. Cumunion is just pure fucking, which seems good on paper, but I think I miss having the option of either grabbing a drink and chatting or chilling out in the Jacuzzi that those other two options offer. Either way, I'm glad I went, and I'll probably end up going again sometime. I'll definitely be less stressed about doing so. If I had a versatile fuck-bud to go with, I also think that would be a significant draw.

I decided to go after all. It starts in about a half an hour. I'm cleaned out, lubed, and I've got my poppers ready. Hopefully it's a good time. I'm still nervous as fuck.

Yeah, I should say that I'm not interested in Tina or GHB or anything outside pot, alcohol, or poppers, and if I go I'll probably only be hitting the poppers that night (helps loosen me up in a more practical sense). For me the decision here is bit less "Should I bareback" and a bit more "Should I let my risk escalate to the natural conclusion." It feels inevitable but I'm still nervous about it.

So I'm debating going to cumunion in SF this weekend. I went once over a year ago and had amazing sex, but didn't take any loads. I'm neg and now on PrEP, but I'm still a little sheepish about letting guys cum in me. I know that if I do go I'll be leaving full of cum, and most of it will be poz. I'm not really a big chaser, but the risk does turn me on a little. Has anyone taken this plunge? Gone from sheepish about loads to full cumdump? Any advice?

Last night I went to a seedy Tuesday night bar in SF for the weekly private speakeasy. On the way in the doorman suggested he wished he could come in with me, felt up my stomach and made out with me a little bit. After I went in I downed a drink and then went to use the restroom. Coming out of the restroom was a bearish boy I've run into around the city but never hooked up with. He grabbed me and dragged me into the bathroom where he proceeded to deep throat my dick for a while. I think he was high, but he asked if I wanted to fuck him. I turned him around and tried to get in but the angle was awkward, so I pulled out and pushed his head back on my cock. He must've really wanted my load because he decided to lay on the floor and spread his legs up in the air. I took the bait and fucked him on the bathroom floor until I almost nutted. Finally I told him I wasn't ready to cum and pulled off. After he left I pissed and cleaned up a little. I went back out into the bar and nothing much was happening. I positioned myself on a comfy couch they setup in the far back. Someone I couldn't quite see was getting blown off to the side so I pulled out my cock and started stroking. Soon after I had a daddy sucking my dick, and I was making out with a bearish guy. While this was going on the crowd started to thicken up. The bearish dude left and a skinny/muscled bearded dude replaced the daddy sucking me. I ended up standing up and making out with a hot smooth daddy with an uncut cock. I positioned myself so the bearded guy could suck us both, but I had my sights on the daddy. At some point my cock ended up in someone's ass, and the daddy asked me to pass him. Instead I turned around, hit my poppers, and backed up on his uncut cock. It was fucking amazing. He fucked me for a while with me backing up into it, and eventually I felt him unload in my ass. I pulled off and sucked some of the rest of his cum out. This was only the second time I've taken a load from a guy without asking his name or status and it was fucking hot. I ended up fucking the daddy for a while and then passing him on to a couple of other cocks. Mostly I was exhausted at this point so I sat on the couch and stroked off while watching the way too packed tight orgy happening around me. After it thinned out the daddy came back and fucked me some more. I finally pulled off and came down the bearded guy's throat, which prompted him to shoot down the daddy's throat. It was a fucking hot night, though I kind of wish I had taken more loads.

If you're not ready to tell people in general then you shouldn't tell her. You shouldn't feel guilted into sharing and you've just gone through a major shock. It might be a good idea to tell her when you're ready to tell people, though. Break up with her and don't lie. Tell her that you've changed since the summer and that you feel that the relationship can't work for you. You don't owe her a full detailed explanation. Put yourself first.

I'm glad to hear that you're holding up better than you thought you would. As a gay barebacker who has lofty goals of one-day having a family, I would like to point out that you still can have a child, you can get married, and you can be bisexual. There are lovely poz women, and there are plenty of negative women who are able to see past your diagnosis. You can even have an HIV- child. You could also potentially adopt, though the laws around adoption are sometimes difficult to navigate and vary state by state. Don't give up hope on any of those things.

Truck requires a password on Tuesday nights.

I'm kind of at a loss for words here. You haven't listened to a word anybody has said. You are anything but a voice of reason. You're uninformed and arrogant about it, which is an extremely harmful combo.

You should discuss it with your partner and come to a conclusion together. Just be open to what he feels and has to say on the matter. He shouldn't be forced into it either.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Comparison_of_birth_control_methods#Effectiveness_of_various_methods Condoms aren't 100% effective in even perfect use-case scenarios, so get tested if you're having any sort of sex. And I'd recommend getting tested every 3-6 months depending on how often you're having sex. Waiting to do it once per year seems like way too long unless you have very few partners and are very careful. HIV isn't the only thing you can get and most of the other things you can get through oral sex. Syphilis can (in uncommon situations) be transmitted through kissing if the person has sores in their mouth.

How long have you been on PrEP? I'm only a week in. So far I haven't noticed any side effects. I've been having less sex than the few weeks before, but that's because I started jerking off again and I'm back to doing that a couple-few times per day.

STD clinics can't prescribe PrEP because the drug requires regular blood work to monitor for possible kidney harm and they don't do that kind of thing. It doesn't require you to be part of a study. Ask your regular doctor. I just recently went on PrEP and am not part of a study and it was not a hassle. You just need to have an informed doctor which I suspect you can find where your profile says you live.

Wow, that's not you trying to scare people into using condoms at all. Ultimate reality? Really? You are completely ignorant on this subject and you're spreading harmful misinformation. Fun fact, not everyone who gets HIV dies of AIDs. With treatment, that scary situation you're describing is not likely anymore. You and people like you are the reason that there's such a huge stigma against HIV+ men in the gay community. Other fun fact, there are ways to reduce risk of infection in people with risky behavior patterns that don't involve tellng them that they're going to hell, er, I mean telling them that they're going to get sick and die a horrible death. Your scare tactic is ineffectual at causing people to stop barebacking, which is why nobody who works in the related field of medicine uses it. I once volunteered for an HIV vaccine study. I was counseled on my risks every couole of months. You know what they never did? Try to terrify me into using condoms (which aren't 100% effective btw). What they did do was encourage me to lower my risk in realistic ways, such as not taking loads and reduucing my number of partners. They encouraged me to top more. They encouraged me to get tested regularly. These things reduce risk in non-negligible ways. It's about reality, the ultimate one, where abstinence is the only way to guarantee no std infections ever. It's about knowing even one iota of human psychology and what motivates behavior. Fear and misinformation aren't effective. You're not helping your cause.