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The best way is to find someone with a car to go with. :-)

Hey guys, sorry it's taken a couple of days to respond. I had a busy-ish Sunday and worked today. I went and had a good time, though I'll say that I had built it up in my mind more than it turned out to actually be. I went with some viagra in my system and a bottle of poppers in hand and got there fairly early. It was still pretty empty but I quickly ended up fucking my way through numerous hot bottoms. There was one who I kept running into and he kept taking my dick until I was almost ready to cum and I'd pull back. Damn he had a fine furry ass. Really I was there to get myself fucked and I knew if I'd cum I'd probably be less motivated to do so. So I pretty much spent the majority of my time edging myself until I was ready to switch over to bottom mode. After a while I gave in and got fucked by a hot bearish daddy with a thick uncut dick and begged for his load. He obliged which was very nice. There were some really hot tops around, but they were a bit popular and crowded, which led to me mostly avoiding them. Mostly the bottoms I came across were amazing and there weren't enough cocks to go around to fill them. I suspect if I was strictly a top it'd be heaven. I found another hot older guy to fuck me after a pretty long while and I thought it'd be hot to get fucked in the sling. It was a good fuck until I did a hit of my poppers. The guy asked for some and I delivered, which was a mistake because he couldn't handle them and basically had to go lay down. Oops. So I figured "Hell, I'm already in the sling." and I just stayed there and let anyone who wanted to fuck me in my ass. That turned out to be a chubby older guy who couldn't stay hard, a really young twink who I had fucked earlier in the night (he was cute, but not really my type) and finally a rather hot furry chested bearded daddy. At my request he shot his load in me which sent me over the edge and I shot all over my chest. In truth I came out of there with only two loads in me. That is more than I've ever done at one of these types of things, but only by one. I think that I prefer just going to Steamworks on a weekend daytime or Truck on a Tuesday night over Cumunion in hindsight. There's still tons of bareback sex to be had but there's more of a social atmosphere at both places. Cumunion is just pure fucking, which seems good on paper, but I think I miss having the option of either grabbing a drink and chatting or chilling out in the Jacuzzi that those other two options offer. Either way, I'm glad I went, and I'll probably end up going again sometime. I'll definitely be less stressed about doing so. If I had a versatile fuck-bud to go with, I also think that would be a significant draw.

I decided to go after all. It starts in about a half an hour. I'm cleaned out, lubed, and I've got my poppers ready. Hopefully it's a good time. I'm still nervous as fuck.

Yeah, I should say that I'm not interested in Tina or GHB or anything outside pot, alcohol, or poppers, and if I go I'll probably only be hitting the poppers that night (helps loosen me up in a more practical sense). For me the decision here is bit less "Should I bareback" and a bit more "Should I let my risk escalate to the natural conclusion." It feels inevitable but I'm still nervous about it.

So I'm debating going to cumunion in SF this weekend. I went once over a year ago and had amazing sex, but didn't take any loads. I'm neg and now on PrEP, but I'm still a little sheepish about letting guys cum in me. I know that if I do go I'll be leaving full of cum, and most of it will be poz. I'm not really a big chaser, but the risk does turn me on a little. Has anyone taken this plunge? Gone from sheepish about loads to full cumdump? Any advice?

Last night I went to a seedy Tuesday night bar in SF for the weekly private speakeasy. On the way in the doorman suggested he wished he could come in with me, felt up my stomach and made out with me a little bit. After I went in I downed a drink and then went to use the restroom. Coming out of the restroom was a bearish boy I've run into around the city but never hooked up with. He grabbed me and dragged me into the bathroom where he proceeded to deep throat my dick for a while. I think he was high, but he asked if I wanted to fuck him. I turned him around and tried to get in but the angle was awkward, so I pulled out and pushed his head back on my cock. He must've really wanted my load because he decided to lay on the floor and spread his legs up in the air. I took the bait and fucked him on the bathroom floor until I almost nutted. Finally I told him I wasn't ready to cum and pulled off. After he left I pissed and cleaned up a little. I went back out into the bar and nothing much was happening. I positioned myself on a comfy couch they setup in the far back. Someone I couldn't quite see was getting blown off to the side so I pulled out my cock and started stroking. Soon after I had a daddy sucking my dick, and I was making out with a bearish guy. While this was going on the crowd started to thicken up. The bearish dude left and a skinny/muscled bearded dude replaced the daddy sucking me. I ended up standing up and making out with a hot smooth daddy with an uncut cock. I positioned myself so the bearded guy could suck us both, but I had my sights on the daddy. At some point my cock ended up in someone's ass, and the daddy asked me to pass him. Instead I turned around, hit my poppers, and backed up on his uncut cock. It was fucking amazing. He fucked me for a while with me backing up into it, and eventually I felt him unload in my ass. I pulled off and sucked some of the rest of his cum out. This was only the second time I've taken a load from a guy without asking his name or status and it was fucking hot. I ended up fucking the daddy for a while and then passing him on to a couple of other cocks. Mostly I was exhausted at this point so I sat on the couch and stroked off while watching the way too packed tight orgy happening around me. After it thinned out the daddy came back and fucked me some more. I finally pulled off and came down the bearded guy's throat, which prompted him to shoot down the daddy's throat. It was a fucking hot night, though I kind of wish I had taken more loads.

If you're not ready to tell people in general then you shouldn't tell her. You shouldn't feel guilted into sharing and you've just gone through a major shock. It might be a good idea to tell her when you're ready to tell people, though. Break up with her and don't lie. Tell her that you've changed since the summer and that you feel that the relationship can't work for you. You don't owe her a full detailed explanation. Put yourself first.

I'm glad to hear that you're holding up better than you thought you would. As a gay barebacker who has lofty goals of one-day having a family, I would like to point out that you still can have a child, you can get married, and you can be bisexual. There are lovely poz women, and there are plenty of negative women who are able to see past your diagnosis. You can even have an HIV- child. You could also potentially adopt, though the laws around adoption are sometimes difficult to navigate and vary state by state. Don't give up hope on any of those things.

Truck requires a password on Tuesday nights.

I'm kind of at a loss for words here. You haven't listened to a word anybody has said. You are anything but a voice of reason. You're uninformed and arrogant about it, which is an extremely harmful combo.

You should discuss it with your partner and come to a conclusion together. Just be open to what he feels and has to say on the matter. He shouldn't be forced into it either.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Comparison_of_birth_control_methods#Effectiveness_of_various_methods Condoms aren't 100% effective in even perfect use-case scenarios, so get tested if you're having any sort of sex. And I'd recommend getting tested every 3-6 months depending on how often you're having sex. Waiting to do it once per year seems like way too long unless you have very few partners and are very careful. HIV isn't the only thing you can get and most of the other things you can get through oral sex. Syphilis can (in uncommon situations) be transmitted through kissing if the person has sores in their mouth.

How long have you been on PrEP? I'm only a week in. So far I haven't noticed any side effects. I've been having less sex than the few weeks before, but that's because I started jerking off again and I'm back to doing that a couple-few times per day.

STD clinics can't prescribe PrEP because the drug requires regular blood work to monitor for possible kidney harm and they don't do that kind of thing. It doesn't require you to be part of a study. Ask your regular doctor. I just recently went on PrEP and am not part of a study and it was not a hassle. You just need to have an informed doctor which I suspect you can find where your profile says you live.

Wow, that's not you trying to scare people into using condoms at all. Ultimate reality? Really? You are completely ignorant on this subject and you're spreading harmful misinformation. Fun fact, not everyone who gets HIV dies of AIDs. With treatment, that scary situation you're describing is not likely anymore. You and people like you are the reason that there's such a huge stigma against HIV+ men in the gay community. Other fun fact, there are ways to reduce risk of infection in people with risky behavior patterns that don't involve tellng them that they're going to hell, er, I mean telling them that they're going to get sick and die a horrible death. Your scare tactic is ineffectual at causing people to stop barebacking, which is why nobody who works in the related field of medicine uses it. I once volunteered for an HIV vaccine study. I was counseled on my risks every couole of months. You know what they never did? Try to terrify me into using condoms (which aren't 100% effective btw). What they did do was encourage me to lower my risk in realistic ways, such as not taking loads and reduucing my number of partners. They encouraged me to top more. They encouraged me to get tested regularly. These things reduce risk in non-negligible ways. It's about reality, the ultimate one, where abstinence is the only way to guarantee no std infections ever. It's about knowing even one iota of human psychology and what motivates behavior. Fear and misinformation aren't effective. You're not helping your cause.

Here's how I did it: I switched insurance this year and was a bit lazy/intimidated by the process so I didn't have a doctor to go to. My insurance company's website wasn't helpful, really, so I turned to yelp. I found a list of doctors that were known for being gay friendly on yelp and then called a few to see if they took my insurance. You might even want to find a doctor that people mention is helpful with HIV related care, since that's effectively what you'e looking at. So then I setup my appointment and asked him. He was all for it so we went ahead with it. It took about a week. The process I've experienced so far and what is expected of me: First you get a blood draw to test your kidney and liver functions to make sure that they're healthy to begin with. This is what took a week, to get the results. Then you go on PrEP. It's pretty easy. My insurance covered it and I was able to use a copay assistance program with Gilead so I paid nothing out of pocket. If my insurance hadn't covered it there would have been more to the process, involving authorization from my doctor and it would have taken longer. My doctor wants me to get an HIV test and another kidney function test in a month and meet with him to discuss how I'm tolerating the medication. Then I'll repeat that after 3 months twice. Then we'll move to a schedule of every 6 months. This monitoring is the important thing that rawTop was mentioning.

This scare tactic always pisses me off. First off, I fuck for much longer than 10-14 seconds, the orgasm is just the proverbial gravy. Second, we all fucking die. These forums to some extent are here because a lot of people think that a lifetime of sexual satisfaction is worth the risk. As an aside, I really don't think that fear tactics ever work on anything. You might cause someone to bottle up their desires for a little while, but that usually leads to an explosion of bad behavior at the end. A much better tactic would be to get to know a person and encourage safer behavior. vrsguy, have you considered getting on PrEP? If you do I'd say go for it with the guy after. It'll be safer than if you're trying to serosort (the least effective method of trying to stay negative). Otherwise I'd recommend picking one, your brain or your cock, and following it. Your brain is telling you no, your cock is telling you yes. Which do you like better?

I'll pick up a pill box, that's a really good idea. As I don't get out into the sun much (I work with computers) my doc also put me on a high dosage vitamin D pill that i have to take once per week. I'm more worried about missing that one.

I'm bareback versatile so it makes extra sense. Protecting myself protects others. I have a Blue Shield PPO and it covered the cost of the medication minus a not that big copay. I ended up not having to pay anything, though, since Gilead has a copay assistance program which covered that, so my total out of pocket was zero. Thanks for the encouragement and suggestions guys.

Thanks to some feedback on here and discussions I've had with friends I finally went to the doctor and asked about PrEP last week. Did all the tests and everything came back good so I got on PrEP today. I'm nervous, to be honest.

Two nights ago I went down to the folsom gulch. If you haven't been, it's a seedy video arcade for gay men, and it's usually pretty fun. It was just at the tail end of when the businessmen would be there but I immediately spotted a guy in a suit and tie and ducked into a booth. He ducked into the booth next to me, unzipped and pushed a thick semi-erect cock through the hole. Naturally I started sucking on it. Now, I'm trying to lower my risks, and I told myself that I was going there just to suck cock and then fuck my load through a hole into someone's throat. But fuck, this dick was thick and large. It must've been 8.5x6, and as I got sucking it became incredibly hard. It wasn't very long before I, in my usual dick-controlled trance, stood up, spread my cheeks and backed up on it. I had cleaned out (despite telling myself I wasn't going to get fucked) but I hadn't pre-lubed, so it was a bit painful. I had to pull off and spit lube him a bunch. Finally I stood back up and slid in with ease. He fucked me and it was amazing. I made sure not to touch my cock because I knew I'd shoot if I did and then I'd feel guilty and pull off his cock. Instead I pushed back on it and took it. I could feel him speeding up and then after a bit he slowed down and his cock pulled back a little. I'm tall, and the glory holes are short, so my legs were getting tired. I decided to pull off and take a break from that position and suck him. It took me a moment with his cock in my mouth to realize that I was tasting cum. I slurped it down and it tasted amazing. It seemed like a small load at the time. It wasn't until just today that I realized that most likely it wasn't a small load, but that I had pulled off in the middle of him cuming in my ass. I've never taken an anonymous load before, so I've got mixed feelings on it. My hole is definitely telling me to do it again, though. Later I did end up shooting my load down someone's throat.

In general I've never really been disappointed at Steamworks. There's always enough bareback to go around when I've been.

I got mine at Mr. S in SF. They're a little pricey but they do know their stuff and they fit it to your body.

You seem to be afraid to let yourself go but you desire it. I wouldn't say you're fucked in the head. I can relate a bit, though I tend to do different things than what you describe. I mostly end up getting fucked in glory holes or back of bars and not letting the guy finish.

I know how you feel. I don't miss my ex, but I miss having someone. If your ex was bad for you, though, you're better off. Have you ever tried to find a dom bottom? They exist, they're just a little rarer.