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Throughout the years whenever I got tested for HIV it was never done voluntarily. Why? I am very fearful of going to the doctor. And I am even more terrified when health care professionals draw my blood. My fears are very real. Many men refuse to get tested for just that reason. We are part of a group of men who would prefer to die rather than get tested. In recent years I have known African American men who have died from AIDS because they refused to get tested. The stigma of being a black man with AIDS (especially in the inner cities ) is driving this refusal to get tested. To this day I know black guys who tell me they don't know their HIV status and/or they don't care. My condolences to you for the loss of your friend.

Indeed everyone is different. I would say it's now anywhere between 12 to 15 years since I really became a bareback addict. I am not unlike many of the guys on this site who hardly ever use a condom. So for the past 12 to 15 years I have fucked and fucked and fucked like few other men I know. I am and have always been a total strict top. I fuck raw 99% of the time. It's impossible for me to even begin to count how many men I have topped raw since I took the plunge into being a bareback addict. I have done bareback sex parties, bathhouses, saunas, cabanas, glory holes, adult bookstores....you name it. And I have traveled extensively overseas barebacking on just about every continent in the world. And I cannot explain why I never caught any STI's until about 2 years ago. So for 10 to 13 years I never caught a single STI. Never! I wish I could understand why I didn't catch anything for those 10 to 13 years...especially since I fucked hundreds of guys raw during those years. Hundreds!! I have always been HIV negative. I am still HIV negative today. But in the last 2 years I caught gonorrhea a few times. Indeed everyone is different.

Yes, I agree. Timing is everything. Perhaps when this topic was raised back in 2010 it was at least plausible. Perhaps. Today, in America in 2016 if as a black man you want your sex partner to call you a nigger, you have major issues. If as a white man you want to ask your black sex partner if you can call him nigger, just don't ask. Because if you have to ask then it's probably not okay. There are so many other words to use to demean and degrade your sex partner... so just dig deeper in your vocabulary and you will find other titillating words. Today's social and political climate make race such a hot button topic that a white man's tone and perceived agenda might be misconstrued by a black man...even though the white man's intent was never meant to offend the black man. For a white guy who is contemplating using the word or for those who have already used it successfully: don't be surprised if your black sex partner backpedals on you in a heartbeat. In a nanosecond the acceptable can become unacceptable. Why risk it?

I detect a lot of political correctness in this thread. Bottoms are afraid to say it's an ass not a pussy, so deal with the unexpected. And Tops are afraid to say that shit is nasty and that they are offended when bottoms shit on them. Why are we being so polite here?

I agree. Totally. Shaming your sex partner is not the way to go. It helps when you are thoughtful and considerate. Great attitude.

That's a great attitude. I really like that approach...makes it easier to deal with the situation. Thanks for sharing that perspective.

I am not surprised. But I find it baffling that some guys who never clean out can take dick and never leave a mess. I have fucked many guys in poor countries where enemas are in short supply. And I hardly ever get painted in those countries. Here in the USA I have fucked many guys who think that cleaning out means just taking a dump. That's all they know. Many of those guys never paint me as well. Yet some guys who douche regularly and in preparation for taking dick, those are the guys who seem to have the most "accidents". Go figure.

IMHO "team" is already outdated. It's outdated and overused.

Sometimes I wonder if it's the vigorous strokes of the top or if it's the depth reached by the top that causes the mess.... My guess is that it has more to do with the vigorous strokes causing waste matter to get dislodged. No doubt tops with small cocks can create enough havoc to cause a mess. If that's the case then indeed size doesn't matter.

It takes 2 to tango. Tops have to deal with the aftermath of being painted. As a top, here's how I deal with anything from a primer to a full coat of paint when a bottom unloads all over my cock... Soon after the incident, I try to get some privacy in the bathroom. First I wash my cock gently with soap and warm water. Then I roll back the foreskin of my cock (I am uncut) and again I use soap and warm water to wash thoroughly. Then since I always travel with rubbing alcohol, I apply a generous amount of the alcohol all over my raw cock. It burns like hell. And the burning sensation lasts about 30 to 45 seconds. Then I usually repeat by pouring more alcohol all over my cock....and the burning sensation repeats itself. The goal is for the alcohol to kill any bacteria found in minute traces of fecal matter that might not be in plain sight, especially under the layering of my foreskin. Finally I rinse my cock with warm water to make sure I see nothing but clear water. I cannot emphasize enough how important it is for me to have rubbing alcohol with me at all times (the kind you get in Walmart, Walgreens, CVS or any other pharmacy). Some bottoms travel with a portable shower douche at all times. Tops like me travel with rubbing alcohol at all times.

I am glad you said it drscorpio...."bottoms have to be responsible if they know they are going to take cock". I didn't want to say that in so many words for fear of offending bottoms. Periodically I fuck a male stripper out of Philadelphia who happens to be married to a female. He tells me he will only bottom for a handful of guys. He will never top a man. According to him any man can give cock but only a real man can take a cock up his ass. That's his philosophy. Who am I to argue with him? But he never cleans himself out. Never. I have learned to deal with him painting my cock every time. But at times I feel like I might pass out from the offensive odor in the room. It smells like a mixture of sulfuric acid and rotten eggs. Like you said, bottoms should watch what they eat if they know they are going to take cock. I have no clue what's in my male stripper friend's diet to make his poop smell so nauseating. But being the hyper masculine male he his, I would never dare to suggest that he be mindful of what he eats when he knows he's gotta take my raw cock up his ass. But despite the Picasso effect and the disgusting odor, the trade off is that his ass is really good to fuck. With most other men I would take a pass.

I agree. When it does happen, no amount of apologizing is going to undo the damage.

I can relate to that. I have a top friend who is hung like a horse and bottoms have accidents routinely when he fucks them. Especially when he goes really deep inside...seems no amount of preparation and cleaning works then. But he tells me he always keeps fucking through the mess and the odor because it has happened often enough even with the most experienced bottoms.

Is that normal? Maybe his doctor can recommend some kind of treatment for that. (Assuming he's comfortable enough to discuss something like that with his doctor).

Then is it fair to assume that you have never had an unplanned fuck session? And have you ever wondered about escorts who bottom constantly? They don't always have anything close to 48 hours to prepare to bottom.

Painting is not my favorite topic. But by coincidence my last 3 private hookups caused me to raise this topic. Many tops who have fucked as many guys as I have can relate to this topic. Yet the mystery remains. I wonder if it can be avoided. The very last hookup I had was with a known porn star who bottoms a lot on film. It wasn't 5 minutes into fucking him that he started to make a mess. Now granted he had 24 hours to prepare for our fuck session. Nevertheless he painted my cock. And the sheets were a mess. The smell was not very pleasant. Over the years I have come to understand that each person needs to understand how his body works. My guess is that no 2 bottoms are quite the same when it comes to cleaning out....How then can a bottom tell if he is thoroughly cleaned out? Each person's body is different. One of the worst episode for me happened in a motel in Atlanta. I was barebacking a guy when out of nowhere a massive torrent of feces came flooding out his anus. Picasso could not have painted my cock any better than this guy. There was feces all over. I could tell he was extremely embarrassed and he kept apologizing to me. Honestly, the sight and the odor are not really a major issue for me. I am just amazed that some guys don't take more pride in what I consider a personal hygiene issue. Yes, in my opinion, bottoms should think of cleaning out as a personal hygiene issue. Let me be very clear, as a top I am not complaining or suggesting that I am upset or turned off my guys who paint my cock. I am aware that accidents can happen. I am not a physician and I really don't know if medical science can say that there are ways a bottom can clean out so that accidents are totally eliminated. It's just a distraction that I would prefer not to deal with. Whether you mostly top or bottom, how do you deal with this when it happens?

I have asked myself that question many times. I wish I could figure that out. Even though I recently read an explanation made by one of the moderators of this site and it kinda made sense to me. Nevertheless it's still frustrating. But in all fairness I will disclose that I have met 2 excellent fuck buddies on adam4adam for all the years I have been on that site.

"White Hispanics" are the best of those mentioned above. For me Anglo-white Americans tend to have very little sex appeal. White Europeans can be hot especially when are brimming with self confidence. However for the most part it depends on the individual. It's difficult to classify groups of whites according to sexual attitudes. In my world I constantly encounter sexy white men who I would like to breed. When it comes to sexual attitudes I view individuals based on their own merits.

I really can't remember the last time I was asked that question here in the States. I live in the New York / New Jersey area and I visit DC frequently and I can't remember the last time. Perhaps because barebacking is so widely practiced and it seems like the new normal here on the east coast. The general sense I get from guys is: "Why Bother Asking". However when I travel overseas I am asked. And still very rarely am I asked my status overseas. About 3 years ago I topped a guy raw overseas and after breeding him he asked about my status. I am negative. But it seemed strange to be asked that question after being bred.

Sometimes I think that criminals view gay men as soft targets. Criminals prey on the weaknesses of gay men. Some criminals know that gay men are constantly in need of sex with other men. I am not surprised that some hardcore ex-convicts turn to providing escort services targeting gay clientele. When a criminal sizes up a gay man to be weak, the criminal knows that such gay men won't try to fight their way out of a dangerous situation. Bingo: ideal target to be robbed. Those are just some of my thoughts. I believe we should always be aware that the stories we hear about or the stories that get media coverages aren't always going to be about somebody else. Gay men have been robbed, beaten, and even killed while in the process of pursuing sexual satisfaction. The perpetrators of such crimes can be gay, straight, or bisexual. Criminal minds knows no boundary with sexual orientation. Have you ever had a close call at your place or at another man's place? Do you know of anyone who did? Would you be ashamed to admit that you do not take any precautions when arranging to meet for a hookup? I don't believe that hiding your jewelry, your bank cards, etc. might be enough to deter a criminal. How much resistance would you put up if faced with a deadly situation while in pursuit of sex? My buddy who lives in New Jersey loves to breed and be bred. He never hosts. He meets guys online and is constantly traveling between New Jersey, New York, and Pennsylvania for sex. His need to give and receive nutt knows no bounds. He is totally addicted to barebacking and breeding. He will travel to any man's house or apartment in a heartbeat to satisfy his need to breed and be bred! I once asked him if he is ever concerned about his personal safety. He informed me that he never leaves home without his gun. He has a license to legally own and carry one. And he tells me he is not afraid to use it. So what precautions do you take...if any?

About 5 years ago my friend introduced me to an ex-con who had been recently released after serving 14 years in state prison for manslaughter. Since my friend knew him from childhood I thought it was ok to invite him over to my place. I invited him over for dinner and sex. He is bisexual and lived with his girlfriend. I was also aware that the victim of his manslaughter conviction was his ex gay lover. Anyway dinner went well and the sex was ok. Afterwards we met about 3 or 4 more times at my place for the same routine...dinner and sex. I began to know him as a jovial guy who just needed people to give him a second chance in free society. However prior to his last visit to my place he asked and I agreed to loan him some money. After dinner and sex I told him that I was $10 short of the amount I promised to lend him. At that point his facial expression went stone cold in a nanosecond!! The look of death that I saw in his eyes was beyond description. I knew I was in trouble. I knew my life was in danger. I had to think fast as the silence that took over my bedroom was deafening. So I told him that we could go get a cash advance off my credit card at a nearby ATM to cover the $10 difference. I never invited him back to my place after that terrifying experience.

Damn! It's hard to believe that this topic has inspired such strong sentiments among contributors like yourself and cam1972. I really like when you wrote: "it's a message board for goodness sake". LOL. I could not agree with you more. Yet it seems like this topic has taken on a life of its own. To say that all the valid points have been made is quite a stretch. In my mind it's a stretch because you are saying nobody else has anything new to contribute. But one thing I have learned from this thread is the uniqueness of tops and bottoms when it comes to how each of us feel about giving and receiving nutt. In that regard I believe valid points are constantly being made in this thread. cam1972 makes a lot of reference to respecting the points of views of others...and I will add that we should respect others' points of views even when we think that their views have already been discussed. I believe that's called common courtesy.

You said a whole lot in your most recent post in this thread. So much can be said about so many issues you raised but I won't go there. However please allow me to highlight two of your many statements: So if you think this topic has become a dead horse, is it fair to say that you no longer enjoy seeing others' points of views in this thread? Based on your dead horse statement, is it fair to say that any new perspective on this topic will only amount to repeating things that have already been discussed in this thread? And what are you saying to a brand new reader of this thread who would like to contribute based on his own personal experience? Are you implying that his point of view won't matter because the horse has already been flogged to death? I am just curious. Please tell us how your really feel about this thread.

So what about your personal security when you arrange a fuck session? Let's say you meet a man online or at a public venue and decide to take him home or you decide to go back to his place. Are you ever concerned about your personal safety? And if yes, what precautions do you take when making such arrangements? I guess we are all aware that gay men have been killed or seriously hurt by other gay men and even by straight men during what was supposed to be a casual (routine) hook up. My buddy in Harlem says he locks up all his jewelry, cash, etc whenever he invites anyone over to his apartment for the first time. But still he has been robbed at gunpoint by someone he met online during what was supposed to be a routine meeting for sex. The worst scenario that really shook me up happened several years ago when my best friend was stabbed to death by his landscaper. My friend invited the landscaper in his bedroom and propositioned him for sex. The landscaper was a straight man who ended up brutally and violently stabbing my friend in his bedroom. Luckily my friend made it to the hospital alive and was able to identify his assailant shortly before passing away. I am using the word home loosely here to mean either you hosting at your place or the other guy hosting at his place. And your place or his place doesn't have to be a residence....it also applies to hook ups at hotels and so on. We can read many accounts on this website about anonymous pump and dump hook ups at hotels....where guys advertise online and leave their hotel room doors slightly open to be bred anonymously by as many guys as possible. Personally I would not have the courage to do that. Personally my guards are always up even if I am the horniest guy on the planet. And yes, I have been in scary situations where I had to skillfully get out of a potentially harmful fuck session. Obviously we can't live in fear. There must be trust between individuals. But "home-land" security is always on my mind whenever I share a space with a perfect stranger. What precautions do you take if any? Do you have a personal experience or know of a hook up situation that went terribly wrong?

It's hard to believe that we are reading the same thread when you make such ridiculous comments. Are you a lawyer? Or are you someone who thrives on twisting arguments to suit your own framework? Local press, court, pozzing somebody, lock them up for a long time.....My head is spinning as I read your comments!! And are you getting brownie points for agreeing with cam1972? You have the unique ability to turn a light and meaningful discussion of "..but don't cum inside me" into something dark and unpleasant. You are absolutely amazing.