KindaBasic

1 hour ago, viking8x6 said:

Does not sound to me like you were cold. Honest, yes. Perhaps slightly hasty

 

 

We were both always upfront about it being nothing more, so was a bit of a surprise. Did what I could to be respectful.

4 minutes ago, topblkmale said:

 

I'm not sure if it was Whitney Houston, Cher or Madonna who sang the line:

You can't turn a cum-dump into a housewife.

 

But you can certainly buy me diamond and furs. May not want to date you, but open to a consider a possible sugar daddy arrangement. 😆

You don’t need to justify anything you do not feel comfortable with, especially in bed. Most of us have that line in the sand we want to cross, but for whatever reason can’t do. But then things change, and sometimes you move the line a few inches. Other times you step right on over it. 

On 7/5/2024 at 12:38 PM, AlB said:

There’s no such thing as “finding” a “truly safe” partner.  

Truth. Years ago, a ‘truly safe’ partner gave me syphilis, which he got from the “truly safe” straight married guy he was meeting on the side. 

Not long ago a longtime fuck buddy tell me that he wanted to “take our relationship farther”. My first thought was Relationship? What relationship? You text. I come over. You fuck me. I go home with your load inside me. 

Of course, I kept that thought to myself, but asked what he meant. He told me how much he liked me and wanted to take me out, see where we could take it. I told him I was flattered, but wanted ti keep it casual. He told me I should probably leave, so I did  

One friend I told about it said I was cold, but I told him that I’m just being honest. Unfortunately, have not heard from the guy, so disappointed that I may have lost a great lay. 

I tend to keep things compartmentalize in my life and the baths is where I go for fun and release from the everyday. For the most part, I don’t want to know nor care about your life outside the club. Sure, I’ve exchanged numbers a handful of times, but never got too serious with anyone I met at there. A couple of text flirts that never went anywhere. About the only exception was a brief Dom-Sub fling with someone I still play with often at the baths. But that was just kinky fun since he already had a partner.

6 minutes ago, Trainingwheels said:

“Dear Mr. Vernon,

We accept the fact that we had to sacrifice a whole Saturday in detention for whatever it was we did wrong, but we think you’re crazy to make us write an essay telling you who we think we are. You see us as you want to see us — in the simplest terms and the most convenient definitions. But what we found out is that each one of us is a brain and an athlete, and a basket case, a princess, and a criminal.

Does that answer your question?

Sincerely yours,

The Breakfast Club”

😉

But being gat, it would probably be The Brunch Club. 

Not really. The thickest and longest cock I have ever had the pleasure of pleasuring was attached to a guy who was about 5’4”. He was a bottom, but I had fun playing with it. On the other side, I have met guys around my height of 6’ with micro penises. 
 

On 9/1/2023 at 10:23 AM, tallslenderguy said:

i've often wondered about bias and stereotyping in the gay community.

 

Sometimes our need for all these genres and sub-genres gets to be a bit much. A few years back, I dated an Asian American, and suddenly I was a rice queen. When I had a few extra pounds, i was called a bear or chub. Now I’m a daddy. Being gay is like reliving high school where we were divided into jocks, stoners, geeks, brains, etc. 

On 6/30/2024 at 7:39 AM, AlB said:

This is a problem I never thought of; I just wake and go to sleep thanking god for a husband who feasts on me every day!  Has there been any problem for me to keep myself ready all the time?  None!  Maybe I’m just the lucky genetic recipient and taking fiber tablets and deep-cleaning regularly doesn’t affect my health the way some mention.  Yay me!

Very hot. 

7 hours ago, BootmanLA said:

I'm not offended by anything about you. I'm laughing at the thought you don't understand that being an hour out of NYC (especially with all the transit options traversing the area), you don't understand what privilege you have towards getting laid, as opposed to, say, the guy who lives 40 minutes outside a town of 1,700 people. But hey - pretend you're not privileged all you want. Marie Antoinette used to play milkmaid when she wanted to escape the main palace at Versailles, and she did it with the cutest little Sevrés milk pail, a gold plated stool, and an 18,000 square foot cottage. Make-believe is such fun!

Honey, I’m sorry you are so miserable. But if attacking me helps you to feel better about yourself, you go ahead and do it. And by the way, I never said I was not privileged. But again, if hating on me helps you to feel better, please do so. If slinging insults help you to feel less insecure, sling away. Sending good vibes your way and hope you find some inner peace and joy - or maybe get laid. Anyway, hugs and kisses. 

The most intense brand I have used is the infamous “brown bottle” from the Leather Man on Christopher Street, NYC. I am not sure if things have changed, but in the past you could only get it at the shop and cash only. (At least it does not appear on their website.) If I can get down there, I buy the large bottle and divide it between some small bottles I have kept around. 

You know the old saying, never meet your heroes? Sometimes that applies to crushes. A couple of times I have hooked up with crushes from the past that were certainly not up to the fantasy. That said, you might find Prince Charming. 

In spite of what most people think, the bottom has almost all the power. Yes, tops like to think they do, but they are only fooling themselves. Each bottom is different, and for some shooting their wad is as important, if not more than whether or not the top comes.
 

As for myself, when I bottom and with a talented top, I am usually experiencing some intense bodily orgasms. If the top knows what he’s doing and I’m really into him, I rarely get hard. Other times, especially if it’s one of those cocks that hit the prostate just right, I’m dripping precum like a leaky faucet the who time. 

I usually get there 4-5 days a week. I can’t tell you which group is most religious about gym attendance, but most of the guys I see at my gym every day would probably identify as straight. (At least most of the guys I hooked up with at my old gym swore they were straight as they ate and fucked my ass.) 

<sigh> It’s been awhile sense I had one top so obsessed with my tush. Enjoy it while you can. 

The line between attraction and objectification is often a thin, if not totally nonexistent one. 

This is about as close that I get to a chatroom, but not surprised. It is hard enough to find a hookup in person who does not have to keep messed up. Even out here in suburbia, all these “upstanding married family men” can’t seem able to fuck without it. And there’s nothing more boring than hooking up with PNP guys. If you are so bad at sex it takes chemicals to play with you, I’d rather not. 

Second Ring? Isn’t that a Wagner Opera?😜

17 hours ago, BootmanLA said:

If you live well over an hour away from the city, then your profile contains a misstatement, as that is not "NYC". I won't go so far as to call it a falsehood, since I don't know whether that's a deliberate lie or just a shorthand for being close to the city that you won't allow others to use when it works against your arguments.

Sweetie, kind of weird how offended you are by me getting laid on a regular basis. 

2 minutes ago, BootmanLA said:

You're still adjacent to a huge metro area with 19 million people (and there's overall a lot of transit to get around there). That's almost 15 million more than my entire state. It's about 35 times as many people as Wyoming. I get it that you may not be able to walk next door for sex, but you're still closer to a wealth of options more than a shitload of people in this country.

I don’t live right next to the city. I live well over an hour away from the city in a suburban area interspersed with some rural land. I also have family out in the Midwest in a state of less than 2m where the closest metropolis has a population of around 40k, and never have trouble getting laid when I go there either. 

8 minutes ago, BootmanLA said:

You live in a huge city. Those of us in places with 80,000 or 8,000 people in our city/town instead of 8 million may not have the same options you do. 

I live in the burbs of Long Island. 

On 6/27/2024 at 4:03 PM, norefusal said:

*shrug*
id rather get fucked w a condom than not get fucked at all so respecting his opinion coincides w me meeting my needs. 

whenever guys say they just move on to the next top i always think "must be nice to be you then" lol 

refusing a top in this "bottom's market" and as an older guy, its basically like saying "well guess im not getting fucked today" 😜 and that doesnt even include the 60% of the guys hitting you up for "oral only" 😜

Really? I’m 60 and I rarely have any problems getting fucked, especially by younger guys. 

12 minutes ago, Sfmike64 said:

I think it's even more fundamental than that. They see a cumdump ready to take their load and they just shove it in. A load in the cunt is worth two in the place to be named later. (That might be a really fucked up metaphor but you get my drift).

That’s probably where they make their mistake. I don’t see myself as a cum dump, and have no problem moving on to another top. 

On 6/25/2024 at 5:38 PM, jz48811 said:

I used Rush the first time I tried poppers simply because it's the kind I had heard about I and saw them the porn arcade. But the other brands mentioned are good as well, so whatever you happen to find. 
 

Rush seems to be the gateway brand for most folk. I was a teenager the first time I used it, with no idea about its use for sex. A few of us were doing bong hits with some dude’s older brother, who had us take huffs of it after taking a hit. I don’t even think he had a clue, other than something sold in head shops.