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I'm curious about the Pride weekends up in Chicago.  I see that the "festival" is one weekend and the "parade" is the next.  Any locals have suggestions on finding action either of the two weekends?  Are there bigger crowds for the parade weekend than the festival, i.e. more potential at Steamworks that Saturday before the parade? Or vice versa?  Anybody know of any orgies or sex parties held either weekend that are open to visitors? 

Or...is it better to come up to city later in the summer to find fun at Halsted Days or something?

(context: I'll be flying back into O'Hare on the 15th from a vacation...debating whether to take the train home that day or stick around for the festival weekend)

9 hours ago, ButchGuy78 said:

Now they are saying it leads to bone density problems where you fracture easily. I did read of a study where researchers found the levels of the combined drugs where not needed to be as effective to maintain  undetectable viral levels. They also found the drugs were more caustic to liver & kidney tissues as well as bones than previously disclosed. This was reported in POZ magazine in 2016. But the study was closed due to funding issues. Personally I’m concerned enough to have a appointment with my Dr. 

If you do go talk with your doc, I'd be interested to hear what he/she has to say and whether it helped with your concern. 

I've been on prep for about 4 years now and haven't had any bad side effects (other than maybe some nausea for the first couple weeks I was on it).  But, I'm also young enough that if there are long term side effects that have been documented for sure, I'd like to know about them.

A good 4-5 years ago at a bathhouse in Indianapolis.  I'm not a huge fan of darkroom sex, I guess I'm more of a visual guy.  But, back then I would wander through occasionally, see if there was anything happening.  One night I wandered in and it was packed full of guys...I squeezed in along the wall and realized that some bottom, seemed like a younger twink, was bent over and being fucked while all these guys watched and touched him (enough light to see that at least).  So I dropped my towel and started stroking...and this guy (might've been whoever brought the twink) reached over and felt my dick, and he must've liked it, because he pulled the twink's ass over to me and backed him up on me....I fucked and unloaded pretty quick (was really turned on), and then left the room. 

Since then, the bathhouse has changed the darkroom...they made it larger, which you'd think would be good, but for me it has had the opposite effect and I rarely go in there anymore.

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This would have made a good poll question, so we can see the skewness in the age distribution (as you can tell already, there are more guys responding so far that are 40+ than under 40). 

It's interesting that sites like this or BBRTS where men openly talk about or look for raw sex is sort of like the crowd at a church - mostly older, more established.  We all know that there are plenty of younger guys in their (legal) late teens and 20s who are open to and looking for raw sex (hop on Grindr late on a Friday or Saturday night), but I sometimes wonder if we need to be encouraging them in some way to seek out sites like BBRTS, this site, or bathhouses.  Or would they care about being in more of a BB community like this? Thoughts?

On 5/22/2018 at 11:56 AM, scott0882 said:

For alone time; there is Inn Leather   if you find a guy staying there. Club Ft. Lauderdale, Clubhouse 2 and Slammers. Higher barebacking will happen at Slammers and Clubhouse 2. 

How far are those places from the area where I'm going to be staying?  5, 10, 30 minute Uber rides?

I'll be down in the Fort Lauderdale area June 11-14.  Unfortunately I may be with family (sister and nephew) for most of the time, and I won't have a rental car (I plan on using Uber if needed).  We're staying sort of near the airport by the convention center.  Questions for those that live there or have visited there:

1) We don't have many plans other than my nephew's competition at the convention center on one of the days.  What are some things (touristy, kid-friendly) to do around the area?  I've heard there are good boat tours/swamp tours?

2) If I get an afternoon/evening away from family (I know I will need it), where are the nearest places to find some adult fun? 

A married buddy and I have had a couple threeways the last two weekends.  He (married bud) is an amazing kisser, and he's talked about bottoming for me (safely) sometime...he loves it when I eat his ass...but usually he'll come over and we'll lay on my bed with our phones out looking for someone to come suck us off or bottom for us. 

Last weekend (8 days ago), married bud had a middle eastern guy (let's call him H) from campus that he had met before come over to join us.  I had seen H on Grindr before, but either didn't talk to him or he didn't respond to me.  Well, he walked in and looked incredibly hot...very fit with nice furry pecs and a great ass.  He started moving from cock to cock with his mouth and eventually up to our mouths.  He was VERY intense...lots of pulling our bodies into each other, sucking on tongues/lips, etc...including giving me a couple little hickeys before we were done.  The three of us played around for quite awhile...easily 1.5-2 hours, and I could tell married bud was getting antsy to get going, so I went down on him until he gave me a load.  Married bud got out of bed, cleaned up, and headed out. 

H hadn't made any move to get dressed or anything...came into the bathroom and watched me pee (turns out he would've taken it on him, but that's for a future visit), and then we started grinding into each other again right there in the bathroom, all the while him telling me how sexy he thought I was (was nice to hear!).  We moved back to the bedroom and he wanted to learn more about me...turns out we're both grad students in neighboring buildings on campus, but he was leaving the next day to go home for the summer.  We tried to fuck (condom), but it just wasn't working very well between his tight hole and my cock not liking the condom.  Another half hour or so later, he left...after we exchanged numbers and agreed to meet up regularly in the fall when school is back in session.

This past weekend (yesterday), married bud had been messaging me on Grindr and was implying that he was horny and wanted to have some fun again.  After looking around all afternoon, I think he was at the point of just wanting to come over and jack off to porn or let me suck him off again.  As luck would have it, I managed to hit up a 22yo from campus who was interested in coming over to get tag teamed.  Let's call him U for undergrad.  I briefly explained that I was on PrEP and was open to bare or safe, but that married bud would be safe only, and U kept asking more questions about PrEP...to the point where I thought he might be getting freaked out enough to not come.  But, he did.  He was visibly nervous, but once he got on the bed and started sucking us, he became more uninhibited. 

U wasn't the best sucker by any means, and married bud was fairly quick to get behind him, take the buttplug out that U had arrived with, get a condom on, and start fucking U (married bud was very short on time at this point).  U was asking us to be rough with his nipples, ass, and balls...so married bud was slapping his ass while he fucked and I was twisting his nips while he sucked me.  Married bud came in his condom, and went to the bathroom to clean up, and U asked me to slip on a condom and take my turn.  I was concerned about the condom ruining my hardon, but managed to get it on and slip inside him.  Gave him the hardest fuck I could, married guy came back to the bedroom and was checking his phone while I finished unloading into the condom.  While I was in the bathroom getting rid of the condom and wiping off lube, married bud said goodbye and showed himself out. 

U was still naked on the bed (I've been surprised at the last couple younger guys I've met not running off right away like most guys).  We chatted about PrEP some more, he admitted he was "90% straight" and got the itch to suck and get fucked by guys every once in awhile (like every 6 months). After some more chatting, he asked if I had another fuck in me...to which I replied, "if you suck me hard again, sure."  He sucked me hard, then squeezed out some lube on my dick and slid down on it raw and rode me for awhile...asking me again to be rough with his nips.  I don't do well with being ridden, so I told him to get on his back and gave him another pounding for awhile until I shot a load in his raw hole this time.  After I pulled out, he put his buttplug back in (hot!).  We moved into a situation where I was biting his nipples and pretty much slapping/punching his nuts for a few minutes and then he blew his load...said he had been denying himself for a week or so, so it was nice and thick on his abs.  Chatted for a bit more before he left.  Have no idea whether I'll see him again or not, given that this was his "6-month itch". 

Tomorrow night, I may have a buddy that I haven't seen in awhile coming to spend the evening (and maybe overnight) with me before he goes to see family on Wednesday in a nearby town.  Told him I'd save up a couple loads for him. 

Went to the bathhouse in Indianapolis last night.  Slid into 3 raw holes (fit white, bear white, fit Latino), but only bred the last one.  Some oral give and receive throughout the night.  Decent crowd overall. 

My "Latino jock buddy" hit me up on Grindr this evening...asked if I wanted to fuck, and within 5 minutes of me saying "yeah" he was walking in my apt door.  Gave him a load and he was on his way as usual. 

An undergrad says he wants to come over later tonight for a load, but he's been saying this for months now and hasn't ever come through...so not holding my breath.

On 4/28/2018 at 3:43 PM, hungry_hole said:

As a top you should ...

I'd like to assume you meant this in a good way, but I first read it as a slam.  The reality is that the cum-craving sex-addicted bottoms on this site that will essentially let any dick fuck them are still a relative minority, especially in certain rural areas like where I live.  So, while my dick pic may be all that is necessary for some bottoms on here and some bottoms on BBRTS (I've been rejected there for unlocking non-dick pics also), it is not enough in general. 

And the mental health issues related to Grindr have been popping up in research and blog articles...

https://www.advocate.com/current-issue/2016/5/05/grindr-tinder-scruff-recipe-loneliness

https://www.vox.com/science-and-health/2018/4/4/17177058/grindr-gay-men-mental-health-psychiatrist

https://www.pinknews.co.uk/2018/04/18/does-grindr-affect-mental-health-dating-apps-and-mental-health/

On 3/12/2018 at 9:40 AM, BottomKink said:

Bald, goatee, 40's, stocky or muscle bear are my favorite tops! I love sucking these mens' cocks. Stocky bears are more gentle and loving, muscle bears are more dominant and aggressive.

I'm a top myself, but I also like the guys you've described...either as bottoms for me to fuck, or as tops that I can tag team some bottom boys with.  Love to see a bear (muscle or not) railing a younger slimmer guy.

I agree with the advice of mixing it up.  I live in a university town where younger guys will hit me up on Grindr because they see I'm a top, but when we get to trading pics they will either disappear or block me.  I also have some people say that my cock looks thick/large and others that claim that's its' "too small" for them (same pic I'm showing in my profile here).  So it's a toss-up as to whether my profile will appeal to a given guy or not.  I've also tried to mix up the "approach with small chat" vs "approach by sending cock pic or asking if they're a bottom right off the bat".  I've gotten plenty of guys that call me rude for being too forward, but plenty of others who will be just as direct with me sometimes.  I've found that mixing up my profile by changing pics and info every so often has helped me figure out what works best.  Right now, I have very limited info on my profile other than the fact that I'm a top with the pig and devil emojis...and my pic is a landscape pic other than my body.  Lately, this profile has gotten me some attention.  More attention, say, than when I had a face pic on with more information about me.  So, I'll keep experimenting and see what pics tend to go over well and which ones don't, etc...

Bottom-line: the apps can be very frustrating and screw with us mentally in terms of the rejection and wondering about what's going on at the other end of the convo, etc... But, for some of us, there aren't very many other options (no bars or bathhouses or anything like that where I live, for example). 

Had a surprise last night.

My family goes down to the Charleston, SC area every couple years to vacation, and several years ago I had met a cute bearish couple around my age for a casual "meet over dinner".  The one was interested in playing (let's call him X), but I don't think his partner was into it at the time.  So, we've kept in touch through FB and the apps over the years, and they have moved into an open relationship.  All this time, X has kept saying that he wants to get piggy with me and take my load.  But, each time we've been back to vacation, I haven't been able to get in to Charleston by myself to meet up with him. 

So last night, I get home from campus around dinnertime and hop on Scruff and see a profile pic I recognize...it's X and hes 4 miles away!  I message him, he doesn't recognize my profile right away but once he realizes who I am, he says "I'm out to dinner with coworkers, come breed me tonight at my hotel".  Turns out my university is a client of his, so he might even be back again sometime. 

Needless to say it was a great time...after all the build up we've had over the years, anything less than spectacular would've been awful.  His bear ass felt perfect, he loved my cock in there, and when we weren't fucking we were either making out or cuddling and chatting the entire time (couple hours total).  Amazing night...so glad I caught him on Scruff!  If/when he comes back, I'll try to find some other tops to tag team him with...we looked a little on the apps during a break in the action but, like usual, when you want to find more for a group it's impossible. 

Fucked two 23 year old guys within the past few days. Both from Grindr.

1) short (5'6") latino twink boy that lives an hour away.  Through broken English, he said that he had come to town to make a car payment and go to the mall.  Hot little ass.  Started off with him riding me, but then pushed him over and finished missionary.  This was the second time I bred him, but it had been about 6-7 months.  Hope he'll be back in town more often this summer.

2) white fit/jock type guy from about a mile away.  I had messaged him several times over the last couple years but he never followed through, but this time the extent of our conversation was essentially:

me: wanna fuck

him: yeah, now?

me: sure

him: address?

He came over, found me naked in bed (my usual scene), and stripped down and got on the bed to start sucking me...pretty quickly transitioned to sitting on my cock, and then just like the Latino I got him into missionary for a few and then into doggy until I bred him. 

Both guys were pretty much "arrive, strip, suck, fuck, cum, leave" quick hookups...but that was fine with me. 

In my university town, I get a lot of younger guys (18-22) that will get into some hot chat on Grindr and say they want my load...then when we get to the when/where it comes down to the facts that they don't have a car and can't host.  I've learned my lesson a couple times now that it's not worth driving to them, picking them up, and bringing them back to my place.  The few times I've done that, the sex ended up taking less time than the driving to/from...and it wasn't very good either.  Once, I drove over to an apartment complex at 2am only to sit there in my car for 20 minutes with the guy never coming out...I could tell he was there, from the location on Grindr, but he eventually went offline.  Later he said he had been drunk and passed out...whatever. 

I haven't gotten any requests to call anyone an uber, though...then again, I don't know that uber is big around here either. 

On 3/13/2018 at 9:07 PM, CigarBear68 said:

I top a lot, and I enjoy some popper hits here and there. Usually some to get me piggy, but more for the bottom so he lets me slide my cock in raw. And sometimes, I love a big hit right before I blast my nut. Really brings out a bigger load, as well as some filthy poz talk as I'm jizzing inside his cunt.

I also like to take a hit or two of poppers while I fuck...makes me fuck so much harder and faster than without.  Don't use them all the time, but it definitely makes me more piggy and rough.

I'm a top when it comes to anal...but if a beefy hairy daddy bear smoking a pipe told me to get down and suck on him while he smoked, I'd do it in a heartbeat.  I've never actually done this yet, but really want to.  I think a part of it is the "bad boy" aspect of it.  I'm more of the casual/business casual type of guy, whereas I view pipe smokers as being more "bad boys" who get their leather vests on and take their bikes out on the weekend.  And maybe have slings in their basements for playtime. 

I also wouldn't mind tag teaming some bottom slut with a pipe smoking daddy bear too... ;-)

Went up to Chicago this past weekend, somewhat as a birthday weekend.  Ended up being really busy most of the weekend, hanging out with friends and seeing a show (musical theater) with my mom and a friend.  Ended up going to some gay bars for the first time up there...was alright, but it reminded me that I'm not the bar type, at least not the loud bars.  I did get to see a friend (and member on this site) that I grew up near and haven't seen for several years at one "neighborhood" bar, so that was nice. 

The only action I got was:

1) after the bars on Saturday night, there was a younger twinkish guy (25ish) at my hotel who came to my room and we exchanged oral and made out a little.  Tried to get him to roll over and let me eat his ass, but he wasn't going for it.  Ended up fucking his face (at his request) until I blew.

2) on Sunday, after lunch with friends, I told them I was going to Steamworks (bathhouse) and that they could join me if they wanted (all of them have been there before with me, but none of them went this time).  The crowd at Steamworks was a little different on a Sunday afternoon than when I've been there on a Friday/Saturday evening.  A little more of a balanced variety/mix - older, younger, bears, twinks, different races/ethnicities.  But more variety in a crowd sometimes means less options of one's type to choose from.  Also, there wasn't ANY public action going on - no one on the fuckbenches or in the slings.  So that was unfortunate.  In the 3 hours I was there I only fucked two guys: a white bearish type that was probably in his 40s and then a middle eastern(?) jock a couple years younger than me. 

I didn't realize until later that the second guy (jock) was someone I had chatted with on Grindr while I was in my room at Steamworks.  On Grindr he was listed as being nearby (I actually assumed he was in the bathhouse when I first messaged him and he said no) and he had been asking me whether it was busy.   I replied to say it was a decent crowd but I had to leave within the next half hour.  Then I put my phone down and went for one last walk around the place, looking for some last-minute action.  Ended up back in my room and right as I was about to give up, this guy in a baseball cap comes in and we go at it.  It wasn't until later when I was on the train home and he messaged me saying "thanks, that was hot, you're totally my type" that I realized it was baseball cap guy.  So I favorited him on Grindr for my next trip up there.

My "every 2-3 months" swimmer/jock kid came over tonight.  Same situation as usual: he let himself in, stripped down to his jock and put a blindfold on, and felt his way to my room where I took over. Fucked his face for a bit, then got him bent over on the bed and rimmed his amazing hole for a few minutes, then put a dab of lube on my cock and slid all the way into him...he wasn't ready for that and pulled off, but I eased back in and took it a little slower until he was taking it nice and hard and rough like usual.  Switched up positions a couple times, but eventually shot what felt like a huge load while I was on his back and he on his stomach.  Told him to leave the blindfold on and turned him around to clean off my cock...my dick was still hard, but even after slipping inside him for a few more minutes, I wasn't going to cum again so quickly.  But he asked me to put my cock inside him (and I kept fucking as much as I could) while he jacked himself off.  Did our usual catch-up chat for a few minutes at the door before he left. 

I usually post here when I'm coming up to Chicago for a weekend visit...in case anyone wants to meet up to fuck, or share advice on things that are going on to check out, etc... My birthday is this week and I'm coming up Friday through Sunday to celebrate by hanging out with some friends and seeing a show.  Will have some free time on Friday afternoon and Sunday afternoon for sure, if not possibly Saturday night also.  Let me know if you're interested in chatting or meeting up.

The way I understand it, if the red spots are still there you could still pass it on to someone else, despite the fact that the meds are working.  My spots stuck around for almost the entire 10-14 days that the doctor told me to wait.  Also note that future testing will (according to my doctor) always come back positive, but they will do a secondary test to see how much of it is in your body to determine whether you've been reinfected or not. 

So...I'm wondering if I'm "too nice" of a top.  This evening I was chatting with a guy that I've fucked a few times before, and I asked if he'd had any good fucks lately (secretly hoping it would lead to him coming over tonight, but it didn't work).  He said he had met this bigger hairy guy that was a great top.  So then I asked what made this top a great fuck.  My bud said "Bigger and stronger than me, hairy, takes control, a little verbal."  I then said something like "well maybe I need to work on being more dominant" and my buddy assured me that he thought I was fine...yet I haven't had his ass in months, so....  A couple other recent fucks come to mind where I got the impression the bottom wanted me to be aggressive/controlling than I was, so I haven't heard back from them since.  My bathhouse fucks are a little different, I go in there with more of a NSA/"not going to see them ever again" kind of attitude and I can get into more of a "fuck and go" mindset.

So...here's a couple questions:

For the bottoms:  I realize most of you bottoms on this site (and other BB sites like BBRTS) are actively wanting "used" and "dominated", but is that the only kind of sex that you enjoy?  Do you always want your top to just pound the hell out of your hole, talk down to you and demean you, and not care whether you're in pain or enjoying it?  Or are there times when you can enjoy a fuck where it's still a top fucking you (and you're both enjoying it) but there's no explicit dominance involved?  Is the latter kind of fucking only reserved for regular fuckbuddies or FWB or partners that you're close with?  How do you define a "dominant top", i.e. what does he do to make you feel "used"?

For the tops:  Are you always dominant/controlling/demeaning to all of your bottoms?  Have you run across bottoms that do NOT want to be treated that way? 

For all:  I suppose it comes down to the mindset I mentioned above:  I approach bathhouses in a purely NSA way, but other hookups differently (probably because I'm hungry for connection with other gay men).  How do others handle this?  Most of the guys that want "dominated" tend to be younger, at least in my experience.  Is this a generational thing?  Is porn influencing what our "new" crop of gay boys thinks: that being a bottom is all about being used?

Slow night at the bathhouse in Indianapolis last night.  Was there from about 6:30-10pm and only really played with 2 guys: swallowed a daddy top's load and bred a fit/muscular guy after he finished in the gym area. 

I've been taking for 2+ years.  I remember some stomach issues the first couple weeks, but nothing serious. I also sometimes feel that I have some gastrointestinal issues the day I open a new bottle of pills (break the seal), but I'm guessing that's just a coincidence as I doubt the "freshness" would be a factor.

for what it's worth, the problem I originally made this post about doesn't seem to be happening anymore...but I'm not sure if that's because of a change or because I'm not "liking" things as much anymore, etc...

I haven't had much luck this year so far...but it's partly my own doing as I've been focusing more on work.

(I had originally written a much longer version of what's below, but have cut it down dramatically - I know I tend to skip reading long entries here, and I suppose some of you do too) 

Sunday late afternoon I got to talking with a married buddy of mine and we started looking for a bottom to tag team.  Found a guy that appeared to be nearby (a couple miles), no profile pic, "average" stats, listed as a bottom.  He and I exchanged pics and he was into the threeway idea, so I had him and my married bud come over.  The bottom guy got here first, stripped down, and started sucking me...had a great view of his bubble ass over his shoulder while he sucked.  My married buddy got here a few minutes later and joined us on the bed.  While bottom sucked married bud, I got behind him and started rimming his ass.  After a bit, I lubed up and slid in to him and started fucking while he sucked my married bud. Married bud took a turn on his ass (with condom) for a few minutes, then I slid in again and  shot my several-day load up inside the bottom.  Eventually married bud blew his load while the bottom was licking his balls.  Bottom guy took a shower while married bud and I chatted and got ready to watch the Super Bowl halftime show. 

After they both had left,  I was actually ready to shower and call it a night.  But, another guy I had been chatting with for a few weeks messaged me and basically said, "I'm horny, come fuck me."  Well, how could I back out of that after wanting to get with him for a few weeks? 

Drove over to his place about a mile away in some freshly fallen snow, let myself into his apartment (sort of ghetto), and found him naked in his bedroom.  We got right to it and as soon as he got my cock hard he spit on it and lowered himself down on me (no lube).  Switched to doggy for a few, then I got him on his back and was pounding him (almost to the point where he fell off the edge of the bed) until I shot. We cuddled and chatted for a bit, until he sucked me hard again and we went for round 2, doggy style.   Nice guy, a little redneck, but I'd fuck him again. 

So that was Sunday night - 3 guys, 2 asses to fuck, and 3 loads blown...all in about 2 hours. 

While writing this, I also remembered that I had a brief encounter on Monday night as well.  A younger (22yo) stocky type that wanted to suck me off.  He was good, but said that I was only the second person he ever sucked.  He swallowed me, and then he stood up and I swallowed his load too (and a pretty big one at that).  We'll see if he comes back again sometime, he might be one of those younger types that is just experimenting a little.