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I have a sex tally app (Kountr) to record numbers relating to fucks, loads and STIs.

in relation to sex partners and encounters I have another app (S-Log) to record useful details of hookups. 

The condom thing rarely comes up these days. In a bathhouse I’ll generally politely walk away if a condom is insisted upon. However, in a hookup where I’ve not persuaded about the merits of barebacking, I’ll generally respect the other guy’s preference and let him fuck me with a condom. If he wants me to top him with a condom I’ll try but I warn the guy that I may lose my erection. The last time I tried I went soft, took the condom off, had the guy suck me hard, put on a new condom and start again. I went through 4 condoms. The guy has since asked for another hook up and readily agreed that we go bare next time.

I’m a bit too inhibited to do dirty talk, the most verbal I get is usually ‘that’s hot’ and ‘harder, harder’, tame I’ll agree. However, I certainly acknowledge the mental and verbal aspect of sex - recently I was at a bathhouse and had fucked a guy near the start of the evening. I caught up with him later in the evening shortly before He left. I was fucking him, fairly mechanistically as I confess I didn’t find him that hot, when he mentioned he’d taken a couple of loads over the evening. It was like my cock was suddenly supercharged. I was suddenly pumping hard and dumped a big load in him within 10 seconds. It was definitely the mental, not physical, change that was so electric. Perhaps there’s no better ‘dirty talk’ for a barebacker than to reveal the top is churning up fresh loads!

I started barebacking in 1986 or 2016 depending how I count things. In 1986 I met my partner and we always fucked raw. He was 10 years older than me and was top only whereas I was versatile. This was a bit frustrating for me and I eventually started fucking around as well though always with condoms. By about 1996 my partner and I had ceased having sex partly because my partner was fearful of getting infected by me. So my sex became 100% condoms again. This continued with minor lapses into raw sex until December 2016 when I made a firm decision to bareback full time. I went on PrEP in early 2017.

I think twitter is used (relevantly here) in 3 connected ways: to view porn (pull in images), to share porn (push out images) and to enable hookups (connections between some of those who are pushing and pulling). The mechanisms of twitter are varied and may differ between the three with porn viewing being the least intricate. (I use porn as shorthand, a more neutral term might be intimate images, but in this context we are seeking to arouse sexually.)

Porn viewing - all that is required is to view others’ accounts displaying images of interest. If you have more particular interests, such as BB or a fetish, you’ll follow favourite accounts and return to view again. No real interaction required.

Porn sharing - for some reason many of us like to share pictures of our sexual exploits on twitter. However, unless someone follows the account no one will see the pictures much less share them further. So for sharing other techniques are used, principally following accounts of like minded sharers. Also creating curated lists. No great interaction is required but there is scope to increase interaction as desired by commenting on others images etc. The connections will often be global. No one need know anyone’s identity beyond their twitter handle.

Hooking up - this is the area that is less understood and that I would welcome people discussing. It’s a step away from the virtual side of twitter into real world interaction. Because of social taboos around porn, especially porn one has made oneself, these postings are almost always pseudonymous, carried out behind sensitive content settings, it is unlike some other parts of twitter where real world identity is freely disclosed. Also the use for hooking up is not something intended by the platform, unlike say the dating apps and so some improvisation is required (to use an analogy a bit like, say, the way in the real world we cruise in the shopping centre or fuck in public rest rooms, neither of which are intended by design). One difference with the porn uses is that one needs to connect with accounts with the same sexual interests that are local or in a place where one is likely to travel. This is not straightforward to achieve but possible in various ways.

25 minutes ago, lecheroxxl said:

Is barebacking widespread in The Philippines as it is in Taiwan and Hong Kong?

To be flippant as a Catholic country condoms may be discouraged . To be serious, someone more familiar with the country should answer. I only spent one evening at a sauna in Manila about 6 years ago. I don’t recall condom use practices though I do remember a rather prudish staff member requiring me to keep my cabin door closed when I was trying to attract the interest of passers-by.

I use Grindr and BBRTS. Grindr is good for its being near universal but suffers from many flakes. BBRTS has a useful bareback premise but suffers from a lack of usual notification facility. I have tried a couple of other apps over the years but gave up as Grindr worked better for my locality. In anticipation of a planned trip to Thailand I installed blued which I understand is big there. Trip cancelled by Covid so now uninstalled.

actually twitter is the hookup tool that interests me a lot at the moment. One of the most interesting aspect is that it is not designed as a dating app but can be slyly coopted for this slightly illicit use. 

On 1/25/2021 at 4:17 PM, gwmxyz said:

For me the problem with filming is that you can either film or fuck.  Trying to do both is super tricky.  The best is obviously getting someone else to film and the next best setting it up so it's not a distraction (without the video looking too terrible and far away) Even then some can ignore it others can't.

Filming can be a bit distracting but so long as not too disruptive a few small interruptions are ok I think. The partial solution I’ve tried is to set my iPad to record from a fixed position diagonally at one side of the foot of the bed. I find it hot to see full bodies in action and if I were to post part of the video there’ll usually be long portions where faces are obscured. 

No doubt it’ll be a while before the ‘Grand tour’ will be easy to arrange but if you were expanding beyond Thailand and the Philippines I’d also suggest Taipei, as already mentioned, and perhaps Hong Kong. I have a soft spot for Macau, a short hop by boat or coach from HK, as I got a lot of action there and I had an epiphany to start barebacking when convinced by a sexy mainland Chinese guy who was working in Macau. He was very persuasive!

I’m not especially organised in relation to cellphone contacts so let me describe what I do as its a little different. A couple of years back I decided I needed some way to record details of hookups as I was losing track. I wanted to recall details of the guys and the encounters as well as means of contact. I was conscious that exchanges on the apps seemed to disappear after a while. I was mortified when suspended from Grindr and at an inopportune time (for no good reason I might add). I’ve also had temporary suspensions from twitter.  I also wanted some security in case my partner were to browse my iPad. 

Most of my hookups, at least the ones where contacts are available, are via Grindr, BBRTS and, more recently, twitter. I try to retain contact details with each app allowing the electronic ‘black book’ or log to be a central repository or backup. With Grindr I mark the guys I’ve hooked up with by a star and add a note of date and brief key details. BBRTS I create a note in notes manager. I’ve never got the hang of the ‘buddy’ feature, perhaps its for paid version. For twitter I have created a locked list. I also have a few whatsapp contacts but these are usually also contacts on an app.

i looked for a suitable app for storing a sex black book. Several were no good as they were tailored to heterosexuals. The one I settled on is called S-log (I.e. Sex log). I started with the free version but made two small payments to remove a cap on contacts and to activate password protection. It does all I need. You create profiles of partners and then create entries for sessions. Photos can be store on both the profile and the sessions entries so you can, for instance, keep screenshots of conversations from an app or more intimate pics.

I don’t see a lot of Middle Eastern men in my home city. I do recall during my condom days (more than 6 years ago) lying in a room in a local bathhouse with the door open and suddenly looking up and seeing a stunning Arab guy at the foot of the bed. He indicated he wanted to fuck me and I showed my willingness.  I motioned towards some condoms. He said he didn’t want to use them and encouraged me to go raw. He was so hairy (not what I was used to), so good looking  and with a beautiful big hard cock I agtreed, which was very unusual for me at that time. He was a great fuck and I don’t know if he came in or on me. I do remember not worrying in the way I normally did when I occasionally ‘lapsed’ into barebacking - I had enjoyed it too much. 

Wow guys have fucked in some wild places. Three examples come to mind that are ‘usual’ in the sense of being rest rooms and bushes but the context set them apart for me anyway:

- in the basement restrooms at my university there were several showers installed, and while adjacent showers continued running we had understall sex while other users came and went.

- in public toilets in Kowloon, Hong Kong. Not remarkable enough by itself but the context was that the guy only spoke Chinese, wejust cruised each other in a shopping street, and the pick up was a good twenty minute walk away as we went through alleys and department stores, not communicating in any language but lust, before finding the toilets.

- in a disabled toilet at a busy South American airport. Again, context. This was a Grindr hookup with an airline staffer who turned out to be in sole charge of a gate for a delayed flight.

- in bushes in Berlin’s Tiergarten within metres on one side of parking and a big Berlin road, and on the other side a few metres away down a slope to a park pathway. I got a quick snap of the guy’s big cock as we kept flipping and bred each other:

I rarely rim but when I do can find it wildly hot with the right guy in the right circumstances. Things came together with a sweet guy recently after we showered together. The guy managed to take a video on my phone for me and this still shows the position:

I naturally have only a little chest hair, if I leave it to grow it merely looks pathetic, so I shave it and my nipples. Also I’ve shaved my balls since was an adolescent as I was amazed at how the soft feel of my own smooth balls. As for the rest I’ve varied over the years starting with a bit of pube trimming, sometimes shaving all my pubes, ass hair, though to leg and pits sometimes. The trend anyway tends to the smoother. And this preference with my own body tends to be mirrored in what I tend to seek in casual sex partners, including a particular fondness for SE Asian guys who tend to be smooth (though that’s just a generalisation and many guys are sexily hairy). However, if I have a tendency towards smoothness as a notional preference I find I’m instinctually more complicated than that and in practice some of my favourite fucks have been with hairy guys. 

I’m fond of both hairy chest and smooth chests in partners. I’m not keen on hairy shoulders or backs. 

When topping I prefer hairless asses, but I’ve never thought to check in advance, I take as I find. I don’t rim often but where I do I’m much more likely to do so with a hairless asshole. That said, I showered with a hot guy recently and took the rare initiative to rim his hairy asshole and loved it. 

When bottoming I don’t care if a cock is hairy or not. I’m more likely to suck a cock, and deeper and for longer, if the pubes are trimmed.

4 hours ago, valldelxeno said:

I always get his name before meeting up, even if I don't know anything else about him. Even when it's really casual, just sex and nothing else, I still like to remember that I'm being fucked by a man, not just a flesh dildo.   ...

I am sometimes asked my name and always happy to give one. I agree that it can come across as a sign of respect, that I’m a man not just a hole. Personally I don’t tend to initiate asking for names in advance, as I know some guys crave the anonymity, though I will often ask in the post-coital chat.

I certainly try to treat the guys that I fuck with respect and friendliness but in my experience that hasn’t required names. While I’m out and comfortable in my sexuality I seem occasionally to strike some fairly nervous closeted guys. I can imagine them blurting out their real name without realising all that is required is just any name, real or invented.

4 hours ago, valldelxeno said:

... If someone refused to tell me his name I would find it a bit weird (I mean, he could just invent one) but I would still hook up with him. But it hasn't happened yet.

I suppose I wouldn’t want to give some of the nervous types a reason to suddenly back out of a hookup. There are many flakes on the apps!

You mention that poppers were stronger when you lived in Australia. There is, I believe, a joint therapeutics regulatory arrangement between Australia and New Zealand and those strong poppers may now be a memory in both countries. After a period of allowing weaker formulas I think, alas, that Australia and now NZ have phased all poppers out or are in the process of doing so.

You might like to browse the PrEP Discussion topics under the HIV/AIDS and Sexual Health Issues section. There’s some useful stuff there that might touch on your question.

I give and take deep inside. 💦

I’ve been using twitter as something of a ‘sex aid’ since the start of 2019, posting my own pics and seeing other guys’ sex pics. However, in the last year I’ve stepped things up a bit and am using it to make hookups. I’d like to hear about how other guys use twitter to hook up as I’ve had limited success and would like to learn from others as well as share. (As an aside, my twitter handle is @traveller _gay .)

For those unfamiliar with twitter the key thing to remember is that it is not a dating app. Using it to hookup is a stretch, albeit a very rewarding one. The things I mention are done with settings set to sensitive content, so people don’t stumble on gay content generally.

One approach is to post that you’re hosting in some locality and open to contact for guys who want to hookup. This was actually how I first realised twitter had this useful function. I responded to such an invitation and an hour later was being bred in a guy’s apartment. I’ve tried replicating this myself a couple of times when I’ve been visiting at a hotel in another town but so far without success. 

Another approach is to contact followers in a location who you’d like to fuck having seen their own posted content. Of course you have to this with care to avoid appearing to be some anonymous pest of the type that abound on all social media. However, I had my greatest success with this approach. I approached a guy who only posted his own content and there were many bareback videos of high quality of his frequent encounters, most of which appeared to be generated via twitter contacts. I said I’d like to make a video with him when I was in his city. He was up for it. When finally set up he brought a friend and we had a great threesome with me being the bottom and the two tops taking turns to fuck me raw or to operate the camera. 

Ultimately the most successful approach may not be so much to generate individual hookups, where Grindr etc may be easier, but to facilitate a network of fuck buddies since you can follow up with your hookups, posting videos of your sex together, watching their subsequent sexual exploits and them following yours.

id be really interested to hear from other twitter users about how they’ve harnessed twitter for hooking up, what works, what to avoid. 

I think all gay guys should be trained to do at least the basics. Perhaps 25 seconds without teeth connecting with cock. Practice could make most proficient to do a few moments of reasonable workmanship. However I believe that there are a minority of guys for whom their skills are so great that there’s an element of natural gift, or vocation, that goes beyond trying or experience. These guys are usually obvious almost as soon as you put your cock in their mouth. They’re all unique and the feeling divine. 

If you ask a guy’s name you naturally need to give your own.  You might be asked by the guy first. In either case you need to decide what name to give. To avoid forgetting my alias I use the same one each time. Only occasionally do I strike a minor problem such as where a hookup needs to ask for me at the front desk of a hotel. However, even where another real name is revealed, hookups don’t seem surprised as using a false name is almost expected.it might be different if one was seeking a LTR but I have one of those.

53 minutes ago, fskn said:

Sometimes I will offer my first name and ask the other guy's first name early in a Grindr chat. ...

On the other hand, I also appreciate guys who are direct about sex. There's no need to exchange names when a cute bottom 2,500 feet away opens with "Fuck me rn?" I might ask his name when my load is dripping out of his hole and he's getting up to leave, but anonymity can be hot in and of itself.

I confess that I've also had a few regulars over the years whose names I'd forgotten after the first or second encounter. When you only communicate that you're horny today and free at a certain time, and then you fuck or suck, and bolt, there really is no need. It's a paradox, but those ongoing, if casual, connections can run quite deep. Not having to talk much, and not needing to remember each other's names, reflects a level of familiarity built up over time.

Yeah there are some real paradoxes such as hot anonymity and false intimacy of a name. There is a perversely significant connection when you know a guy’s face, voice, look of his cock or feel of his asshole, and yet long since forgotten his name if you ever knew it.

@traveller_gay

On 5/22/2021 at 2:06 PM, Hotrawbutt4u said:

@bunns_Joe. Lots of interesting stuff on Twitter wish i could use it as a hookup site. I really need my dady butt used,

I’ve been using twitter as a supplementary hookup site, it doesn’t always have same features of a usual hookup app but some of the differences are fun - like seeing videos of prospective hookup fucking other guys. I’ve set up some hookups using twitter, typically posting “I’m in x city on Thursday,  local guys DM me if interested in hooking up”, responding to another guys post or even just messaging followers from that town. Once a guy who followed me from another city messaged to put me in touch at short notice with a young friend of his whose Grindr hookup had flaked.

4 hours ago, leatherpunk16 said:

I usually ask prior to the sex part. ...Also helps me track them and I add them to my list of guys I've had sex with. If I had a good time, they get a star next to their name. ...

I started wondering about recalling names when I set up an electronic record of hookups, including inserted partner details of dozens of guys I could assemble from apps, and realised that I knew guys who had bred me several times only by handles such as Thicccock 246.