Hi mate,
It can be daunting travelling to these events on your own. There is no clear recipe for success, but I find the basics hold well:
- respect - be respectful to other people, read their ques....do they mind you watching, feeling, participating or joining in on the conversation?
- open communication - be open to chatting to anyone - both those that approach you and those that you approach. Read them and how they respond...sometimes he just be fleeting - "hey mate, you look amazing in that" to something a bit more "Hi I really love that harness/chaps/mask you are wearing, do you mind if I ask where you got it from" or "cute pup, do you mind if I pet him?" through to the basics of "Hi, are you having a good time/ is this your first time here/can you tell me where I can get...."
- Body language - it is critical...stand tall, shoulders back, don't close yourself off by crossing your arms and legs, demonstrate self awareness and a bit on confidence (and not im a cocky bastard and you are all dumbshits!)
- keep turning up - find out where your kind or your kink are gathering and keep turning up....familiarity eases connections
- read body language - so much a glance is a glance and you move on, other times a random glance makes you turn and the next minute you are the bottom in a 20 man gang bang and getting married 6 months later
- Rest - its all a bit of a marathon...mentally, physically and financially. Give your self a down time and time to sleep....also Folsom world is not real life, so time away for a morning and visit a museum, go for a walk, have a long lunch at the Adlon are vital
and probably, what I think is the most important thing.......
- Smile - be light, be friendly, treat each experience as a learning one, grow and enjoy!