I'm mostly bottom and I've been asked this question multiple times: "Are you tight?"
I actually hate this question since a) I can't possibly know exactly what it feels like for a top to fuck me and b) it can be kinda slutshaming in my opinion. It also happened to me that some guys really told me that I was "loose" and must've fucked a lot of guys, which sort of hurt me a bit. I'm 25 and of course I am not a virgin. I started to bottom when I was 16, had a boyfriend for 2 years who had a big cock and we fucked a looot. And of course I also fucked around a bit (who the fuck doesn't?) and even took a fist once or twice. It just bothers me to think that every top who fucks me might be disappointed or would think I'm a total slut when they fuck me. There's nothing wrong with that, I certainly can be a slut but I don't wanna get shamed for it. I'm also a bit scared that just because I got fisted once or twice (And it never really worked that well) that I might have ruined my hole?
Another thought: It is such a double standard in my opinion when tops bring this up sometimes. If they fuck around it's totally okay and we can't feel or see how many asses that dick might've fucked. We bottoms on the other hand get asked on grindr if we're tight. Dude, you've probably fucked around a lot yourself when you're looking for hookups on a dating app. So why would you expect me to have a virgin ass?
What's your opinion on this? And to all the tops: Are super tight asses really that much better?