spike-the-cat

I met him just a couple of times--once when some friends brought him over and we sat on my suburban Chicago front porch rather shyly, talking about our shared favorite writer (the only fiction writer whose work appeared in Steam), and once when we made out in an SF sex house but didn't get around to fucking. His writing was always engaging and intelligent.

You want it? Yeah. My special gift. Give it. Yeah. Poz Seed! http://www.xtube.com/watch.php?v=VLQ28-G572-

http://www.xtube.com/watch.php?v=MCm9r-G472-

Hey, don't know where you are, but PrEP (pre-exposure prophylaxis) studies just started up again in 13 cities, and you're just the sort of guy they're looking for. http://www.frontiersla.com/Blog/PositiveFrontiers/blogentry.aspx?BlogEntryID=10499388

Hot sling fuck with some good audio http://www.xtube.com/watch.php?v=VHAuf-G323-

Rhwew have been a few times at the baths that I've forgotten to bring a cockring and could use one for a while. When that happens, a condom tied tightly around the base of my dick and balls can be just the thing. So, really, they can be quite useful if used appropriately.

Hot biohazard-tatted bear pounding a cub's ass and blowing his load deep: http://www.xtube.com/watch.php?v=c1HIV-G570-

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The users were great, but the structure of the site had a lot to do with it, as I said above. The fact that you could see and link to the threads a user had commented on from his profile--and link to the profile from any comment. The fact that the threads were reverse chronological, so you always started with the latest comments. The commentary on this site is as good as it is DESPITE the site architecture. Whatever system they were using, the profile and forums sections--and the ways they interconnected and led the user weaving back and forth between them--was well-conceived. Other parts of the site (party-planning, video sharing) were substandard.

One of my favorite things. Love feeling the other top's dick sliding along next to mine--fucking my dick in the bottom's hole. Feeling the other top blow his load on my dick always pushes me over the edge. Did it on camera in one of the early BB videos with another big-dicked top. The bottom was in serious discomfort and serious desire, muttering "No: Stop. No: Go. No: Stop. No: Go" in an almost constant loop--which just made the other top and me both harder.

A great raw fuck--but wish the whole load went in thehole: http://www.xtube.com/watch.php?v=V92b5-G533-

I only ever got laid once thanks to BNSkin--but it was fucking incredible. When I found the site in the early 2000s, it quickly became one of my favorites. It never had great design, and it was kind of a mess--but the guys were hot and were pigs and the forums were among the best: guys talked honestly about their fetishes, their experiences, their desires, their limits and their fears. You sometimes get that here in the General discussion, but somehow the architecture that linked you from topic to hot picture-filled profiles and back to all the topics that user had contributed to led to more of it there. And the discussion here usually sticks pretty close to barebacking and bug fetishization, while the sorts of pigginess discussed at BNSkin was much more far ranging (snot, piss, incest). You could learn a lot about a guy, what really turned his crank, and how he got to that point by seeing what discussion threads he had contributed to and what he had said there--more than from the profile itself. It's one thing I wish this site did better. It was an international site, and there were never many guys from my area. The one guy I hooked up with was halfway across the country--somewhere I had to travel for work. And it was a hot fuck that developed into a good friendship. When they started trying to charge without improving the architecture, traffic dropped off. It's been limping along with few people logging in or writing in the forums for months. Now: Server cannot be found. Either they stopped paying for hosting or they stopped paying for the domain name. I'm not surprised. The site had been comatose for a long time. It was past time to put it out of its misery. Still, I'm sad to see it go.

Couldn't decide whether to post this one here or in the hot audio thread. Neighbor gets two loads dumped in his hole: http://www.xtube.com/watch.php?v=DPQzF-G766-

With this title, this one probably won't be around too long: "Poz load pumped in deep.. no pulling out" http://www.xtube.com/watch.php?v=Dn8eO-G767-

I was 12 when my 13-year-old cousin first blew a load in my ass. His family lived cross-country, and we visited once a year for years. We'd started fucking the year before, but he wasn't shooting loads yet. I loved the feel of it slipping out of my ass the next morning, and the smell. It was still a few months before I started spewing my own jizz.

Check the "hot audio videos" forum thread.

I hear you HolePunchSD. The only director who was ever able to make scripted dialogue for porn stars work was Joe Gage--and even for him it was hit and miss. But simpler scenarios would be hot: The top reaches for a condom; the bottom grabs it out of his hand and throws it across the room. The bottom hand the top a condom; he takes it and puts it on the bottom's dick as he slides his own into the bottom's ass. Or he just sets it, unwrapped, on the bottom's stomach. Or the bottom is on hands and knees, passing the condom back, and the top tosses it, unwrapped, right in front of the bottom's face either right before or right after he slides his dick home. The top starts to roll a condom on; the bottom pulls it off. No big discussion. No dialogue. But in all of them an exchange.

With TIM, it's part of Paul Morris's guiding philosophy. See "The Rhetoric of Sex" http://www.ryansullivanisland.com/?episode=53 I think he's totally right: We're so used to living in a culture with cameras and video, that even when there are no cameras, sex is part experience and part "performance"--putting on a persona for your partner or for the others in the room at an orgy. He looks for the moment that are unfiltered experience--the moments when a person forgets about performance and is driven by his own lusts. No encounter--especially in front of a camera--will be free of "performance" but if there are too many moments when the scene is performance rather than experience, when the guys seem to be playing to the camera or what they think the director or the viewer will want them to do rather than what they are driven to do, he drops the scene. It would be totally possible to make really hot porn with condoms. But the studios that do so are so tied up in artificiality and performance that they really can't.

http://www.xtube.com/watch.php?v=5ISvf-G437- Poppered and bred

Two guys take turns breeding an ass and holding the camera, talking about it the whole time: http://www.xtube.com/watch.php?v=rJFtU-G764-

1. Tumblr: As someone suggested above: I think Tumblr is sucking a lot of traffic. Yes, most of the photo blogs are using imags they don't have rights to, but that's not what makes it suck so much traffic: It's the ecosystem: It makes it so easy to move from one person's blog to another, to start your own blog and get a feed of images from the Tumblr blogs you follow. You have all these separate sites--even refer to them as such--where the sorting and presentation are one way. One of the great new features with the recent upgrade here is the improved "What's New" feed. And your aggregation of the feeds from various external bloggers is great. But it's your choices. With both the "What's New" and the bloggers, you run through the recent posts and you're done. It doesn't lead you anywhere. This and your other sites are silos with ads, not part of an ecosystem of content, and that's affecting your traffic and will continue to. Frankly, this is a tough one, and I don't se an easy way forward. Pulling all your related sites together, allowing logged in users to build customized feeds by subscribing to various topics--these might help. 2. Mobile. This one *IS* addressable, and you aren't doing it. I was rather shocked that the recent upgrade didn't include either responsive design or a mobile alternative. I won't pick sides in the battle over which approach is best--at least not here--but the fact is people are using their computers less and their phones and pads more, a trend that will only continue. There is no good reason that a text-centric site like this one shouldn't be easy to use on a phone or pad. But it's close to impossible to read on my phone, muchh less navigate. Even the minimum width leaves text too small, and links aren't buttonized for the phone, so it's hard to navigate. If you don't have a plan to make all your sites mobile-friendly, if not mobile-first, within the next nine months, you will continue to bleed traffic. It is trickier (though not impossible) for image or video-based sites, but a site like this should be a no-brainer.

Ravagedfuckhole: I agree. And the stuff he wants from bottoms is just crazy. I wouldn't want to play with anyone who acts like he expects all bottoms to act. Everyone will be happier if they just ignore his bossy whining.

Getting fucked bareback by my BFs 9 inch pierced cock "Fuck me hard. Cum in me. Fuck me hard. Cum in me" http://www.xtube.com/watch.php?v=bsnNP_G518_

On the other hand, I think it brings us back to the original topic. There will be some discomfort as you work through your feelings about an open relationship. It is easier to believe in your own emotionally fidelity than that of someone else. It can raise your own fears about your perceived inadequacies. But there are discomforts to a closed monogamous relationship, too--opportunities for experiences foregone, fetishes and desires submerged because the partner is turned off by them (or worse, bored with them). Exclusivity and smothering dependency can be flipsides of the same coin. That something worthwhile is sometimes uncomfortable or sometimes hard is no reason not to pursue it. Lots of things require effort and facing up to our own doubts and fears in order to achieve a worthwhile or valued goal. If the relationship is worth it, if he is worth it, don't deny that moment of jealousy when he grins while sitting on a cock bigger than yours, but don't let it rule you. Set up rules--together--so there is a relationship safe zone (not in our bed unless we're both there is a good one to start), have some space of comfort for the two of you that is comfortable, make sure you are regularly expressing that you are one another's priority, and establish a way to communicate if something is taking you too far beyond your comfort zone at the moment to continue. But don't back away at the first moment of discomfort, because then you may miss a minute or two later, when, finally settled down on that big dick, he waves you over to kiss him while he's getting fucked and the ecstatic stare in his eyes as he looks deeply into you, then someone slides behind you and starts pushing into your ass, and the smile as he watches you take it is totally for you.

But I find it uncomfortable in a way that is liberating--not unlike the discomfort I felt on my first visit to a true SM dungeon. I had wanted it bad, but still, I wasn't sure if I wanted *that* or *that* or *that." But the actual visceral encounter took me into, through and past discomfort. But maybe that's just me.