Being A Better Bottom?

[bb1991]

I want to make sex more pleasurable and exciting for tops:

Been searching the internet for tips of how to be a better bottom but everything I find is too basic- concentrates on practical things like douching or just encourages people being submissive. -which is not the sort of thing I'm after

I'm looking for the little things a guy does that drive you wild? (wishful thinking maybe?)

- tips or techniques on how to be a better fuck and make sex more pleasurable for tops or specific things can do that tops enjoy.

Any ideas?

[buzztham]

every top is different so you may never get a strait answer

[TigerMilner]

Just do what he tells you to do and DO NOT be a pushy or demanding bottom. Learning to control your sphincter is a talent most tops appreciate. But they will let you know. Never grab a tops ass and pull him into you. He sets the pace. Doing that implies he is not doing it hard enough for you. And don't tell him to do it harder. It's not your place. Learn to pick up on body language and listen for his signals. Read iBlastinside's 11 commandments of a true bottom. Otherwise, just shut up and be happy he is fucking you. It's cool to express that, but not in a corny dramatic way. Moans, sighs, and movements come across much better than bad porn dialogue.

Edited December 28, 2012 by TigerMilner

[btm2bbred]

Ditto to TigerMilner's excellent comments. I'd add don't ever jack your cock while getting fucked unless he orders you to do it. Most Tops are not interested in you cumming, and could care less whether your dick is hard or soft. They are concentrating solely on the incredible feeling your fuckchute is giving them.....and you should concentrate only on increasing the pleasure he is getting from your hole.

[not_sure_bb]

you are a bottom getting fucked in the ass so being submissive is part of you, embrace it. tiger has all good points.

KNOW YOUR ROLE

[DivertirMe]

I also agree with most of what Tiger has suggested, but I would expand upon his comment that being able to control your sphincter is a good trick- it's one in my experience that most tops appreciate. Some guys like a tight grip and others will prefer it more wet and a softer caress along their shaft. So, the more you can control the pressure of your sphincter the more better you will be able to give your top the sensation his dick responds to, be it tight virgin ass or sloppy wet pussy.

[BREEDmeRAW]

It depends WHO you are, what type of bottom..... and how you want to live your LIFE. YOLO.

If you are in a committed relationship, -- open or closed -- you have to communicate with your partner and focus on your needs. Just be yourself. You can "Train" your hole with a partner or a dildo. The ONLY way to know your limits, are to Test them. There will always be someone who will go further or be into the most extreme. In my early 20's I liked to get fucked, but LOVED to suck cock. 20+ years later I still love to suck dick, but I rather spend more time FUCKING than Sucking. Some guys get into Fisting because they think it is safer. I want a nice hard RAW COCK in my ass, not fingers, fist or objects. And if I let a guy fuck me... we both know where the load belongs, but it's his choice as personal I try to please the man I am with.... 1-on-1 or group.

Every cock feels different as well as every hole. i plan to sample what I can and enjoy travel to meet new men.

Good luck with your hole and your dedication to being a good bottom.

[Pig Bottom]

Sometimes when I am standing and bent over I like the top to be still and I like to do the gyrating.

[uclatinosj]

Id say work on getting that hole conditioned to take all sizes with ease

[TigerMilner]

I also agree with most of what Tiger has suggested, but I would expand upon his comment that being able to control your sphincter is a good trick- it's one in my experience that most tops appreciate. Some guys like a tight grip and others will prefer it more wet and a softer caress along their shaft. So, the more you can control the pressure of your sphincter the more better you will be able to give your top the sensation his dick responds to, be it tight virgin ass or sloppy wet pussy.

Excellent point. Just didn't want to scare the boy. lol. Remember it is a muscle. All muscles develop with practice. Work out.

[einathens]

wow, seems like a lot of these responses are based on the presumption that the top is somehow superior to the bottom. i don't agree. i think it's an equal partnership.

there are tops who are interested in giving pleasure to the bottom. there are tops who are interested in taking pleasure from the bottom. the trick is to figure out which you're dealing with and to proceed accordingly.

my advice is, try listening to his body. mirroring his breathing and the sounds that he makes can help you synch up and get into the same groove he's in.

relax and enjoy it. nothing spoils sex more than overthinking it.

[fuckboy20]

wow, seems like a lot of these responses are based on the presumption that the top is somehow superior to the bottom. i don't agree. i think it's an equal partnership.

there are tops who are interested in giving pleasure to the bottom. there are tops who are interested in taking pleasure from the bottom. the trick is to figure out which you're dealing with and to proceed accordingly.

my advice is, try listening to his body. mirroring his breathing and the sounds that he makes can help you synch up and get into the same groove he's in.

relax and enjoy it. nothing spoils sex more than overthinking it.

As usual I have to chime in

Einathens nailed it. Another way to phrase it is anticipate it. Some times might be fine just having you bend over and fucking and breeding you. But there might be other tops that want more then that, more from you as a bottom and any bottom or submissive qualities you have. There are tops that I just bend over for and brace myself. There are some tops that I know what some embrace and passion and I give it. And then there are the rare tops like einathens said who want equal pleasure. They want to look inside you and see what you want and what you have to offer. Just by looking into the eyes of tops like that you can tell what they want and anticipate what they are looking for and what they hunger for. You might hunger for the same and it might be more equal then just one sided. But than again it depends on what you are looking for. For the most part, anyone can bend over and take dick. Even if they have to scream or sob or take more time.

If you want to be a really good bottom you need to learn to read the top's eyes, movements, and get a sense of their character and attitude and see what they are after. By doing so your own personal submissive nature comes out and compliments their nature as a DOM/TOP/Sir or whatever they are at that moment..or what they really are. That being said not all tops do this and you might not want to get too involved with a top. But by doing this with a top or two you begin to learn more about yourself and who you are a submissive. You also show a top what you are truly capable of.

I prefer silent tops. Yes being called a slut, whore, bitch, tramp, cunt, faggot, and etc. is hot as shit. But sometimes it's hotter when nothing is said and it's just actions, energy, lust, and desire. You don't need to tell the top how much your enjoying it the way your body responds and the sounds you make tell him. Just like how the top responds and acts or if his dick is hard indicates if he is enjoying it or not.

Being honest with the top too if you aren't comfortable with something or need to stop for whatever reason is important as well. That separates you as a bottom that is actually able to think, process, and has a soul rather then a bottom that just takes any cock. Not that there is anything wrong with that and that does take a lot of work too and it takes a certain bottom to be able to do that. It's not for everyone.

Going natural is a good idea too. But as some others have said. You need to determine what kind of bottom you want to be first before you decide you want to be a really good bottom. That way you can be a good bottom being the type of bottom you want to be or want to be for others. And like others have said all tops are different and like different things.

The douching, cleaning out, and etc. should be second nature to a submissive if you want to have sex that frequently or be with a top that fucks you everyday.