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When did you know you were a bottom?


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Before I was ever with a man I always fantasized about sucking and getting fucked, never about topping. I guess I always kind of knew what I wanted, and after being with a few men I'm quite sure that I'm a bottom. However, I still get guys who want me to try topping. I just don't have any desire to even give it a shot. Did you guys always feel the same too or did some of you start as vers and overtime shift to always bottoming? Kind of a lame question, but just looking to see what other guys felt.

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Well before my first time with a guy, i only thought about men and big dicks, nothing ever turned me on more. All throughout high school I was lonely cause I was into older men and didn't really know it, my final year of high school I did meet an older top guy and he really showed me what I love in life, I remember being all giddy at school thinking of what my afterschool activities were going to be that day (getting filled by a nice big older man's cock). So yeah I always deep down probably knew I was a totally gay bottom, I just love men so much! I love having them inside me haha. I have thought about topping but I've never tried it.

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during puberty i watched this flick on skinemax and was like wow that i wish i was that girl getting fucked by all those guys...i guess thats when i knew lol. Also was really into having cum on my face

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Mine is nature, figured it out when I was 16 or 17, hadn't had sex at that point. My dick takes a lot of mental work to get off so I just kinda figured I was a bottom. But then I was fucked for the first time and omg did it feel so fucking good. Topping isn't really pleasurable to me.

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I'm 90% bottom. I top occasionally but not very often. I guess I figured it out in my mid to late teens. I would see guys changing in the locker room, big bulges in tight undies and hot cocks everywhere and all I could think about was getting fucked by them.

When I began to shove increasingly bigger toys up my ass I was sold on it and now i'm addicted to that feeling of getting my hole stretched open and pounded. Getting fucked just feels so good!

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I fantasized about getting fucked by the men I was attracted to starting in high school. Back then it was the jocks. I was thin and not good at sports, but all my buddies were athletes. I had grown up with them. I made myself part of the clique by being sports editor of the yearbook. I didn't get fucked for the first time til I was 18 and in college and it hurt. It frustrated me that I wanted something so badly that hurt so much. I also worried that my fantasies were related to my dad's abandonement when I was 11. At 21 I finally admitted to myself I was gay. I wanted a man and I met the man I was to spend the next four years with the first time I went to a bath house. He fucked me that first night and every time we had sex after that. I wanted it but I hated it. I found the book "The Joy of Gay Sex" and found out that getting fucked was something you could learn to be better at. I learned to relax my sphincters. I learned to douche. I learned to ride his cock while he lay on his back. It was easier for me to take in that position. As I learned to do it, I learned to love it. I finally felt like my sexuality matched my fantasy and my reality. I accepted I was gay and that I was meant to be a bottom. The men i have always been attracted to are tops. I suppose I am a vers bottom, since I do like to fuck sometimes, but that is because I do have a dick and I can appreciate a hot ass. But I am most in touch with my soul when a man is inside me.

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Back when I was 10 and seen my first porno from my dads collection it was a gang bang and I am not into girls but she was hot and that was the first time I fingered my self and I was hooked on having my ass full. By 15 I was making dildos out of anything and inserting anything I could. 16 I could take a soda can then 17 I got fucked raw my first time. He fucked me 5 times in 4 hours and every load was deep in my ass. after I was 18 I ended up working so much I would get home and go to bed and starting to get time to let guys fuck me and its been somewhat hard lol. I tried to top once with the first guy and I couldnt even get hard but once he fucked me I got very hard so when I was 10 I knew I was meant to be fucked

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I knew I liked things up my butt before I knew I was gay (or what "gay" was), and before I found porn...so from the start, like 9 or 10. Started with an "itch" I needed more than a finger to "scratch", so I used a toilet plunger handle. I quickly moved up to moderate, then large toys, many years before I ever got fucked. After I became sexually active, I realized there are too many people who just bottom, so I decided to be vers. I still am not a huge fan of being a top, but there aren't enough dicks for all the greedy manholes out there, and I can definitely get hard and get off, so why not give some cum?

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This is a very good question, thanks for asking.

For me, it was a gradual process. I started playing with my ass at a very young age...well before I knew that I was into guys sexually. At night I would play with it....first with fingers, and then with household items. My favorite thing was to stick screw driver handle's up my ass and fuck myself with them. I also liked to see how many marbles I could get up there. I would even try to get this bottle of toothpaste up my ass, but I never could (I was about 11 then, so I was suuuuuper tight).post-12791-140864345992_thumb.jpg

And then from there, my family got the internet in our house when I was about 13, and this whole world of porn was opened up for me. It, of course, started with me looking at straight porn or Lesbian porn....but every once and a while I would happen upon gay porn.....and it excited me. Soon, I was imagining that the screwdriver handles I fucked myself with were cocks.

Then, a few years later, I was fucked for the first time when I was 16...it was an older guy (35 or so) who I met on outpersonals....I told him that I was 18. He drove hours to get to a hotel in my small town. And I met up with him, and we played around. That night, I found that while I loved him playing with my cock, it was him playing with, and eventually fucking my ass that I loved. It hurt....but I fucking loved it.

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This is a very good question.

I used to really watch hot guys on tv when I was younger not really understanding why I was so fascinated by them. But, I didn't have my first sexual expierence till I was 16, it wasn't the best, the guy was rough and really didn't care that I had never had sex before let alone got fucked. It was good for the first time, at least for me. I was vers for many years and mostly top in my first relationship. My 2nd and last relationship I was still vers and fucked him many times but he fucked me more. Now that I am older and well heavier, I have found that I prefer to bottom. Even when I topped I never would cum, so it would sometimes piss guys off that I didn't shoot my load, never bothered me though. So being bottom is best for not shooting a load. I still top on the rare occasion but usually not for long.

So, as for being a bottom, always enjoyed getting fucked, but not until I took my first poz load at 30 did I really LOVE getting fucked, and basically became total bottom around that point. Late in life but hey, better late then never to be cum slut right?

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I was 29 when I first realized there were actually guys out there who were interested in guys. I knew there were gays, of course, but thought they were extremely rare and only a few in really big cities. I was at a rest area and a guy was looking at me at the urinal. I didn't do anything but got the impression he wanted to suck me or touch me. That idea turned me on. Found gay.com online. Started looking, getting off on guys promising to suck me or jack me. Found one who promised to come over, I got drunk, nervous and was wasted by the time he got there hours later than promised. He raped me instead of jacking me off, pretty brutally. I didn't do anything with a guy for months after. Was at a beach, weekday afternoon, nobody around. Went to the john and was on the toilet (no doors) when a guy came in, walked by and basically came back and made me suck him (not rough like the first guy, slapped me a couple times until I opened my mouth but was nice after that). I still have no idea how he knew he could get away with that. After that I started talking to guys online about the rape and the beach incident. I got sucked off or jacked a few times, fucked a couple guys, but I guess once guys knew they could get away with it, that I hadn't told the cops and never would, a couple guys befriended me sort of but just to get my address and hang out and take advantage. Eventually I began to realize that even though it hurts and I don't really like getting fucked, real men will do whatever they want and I must be a bottom if they can. Then I lost interest in getting sucked or fucking, so now I'm a bottom.

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