Bottoms: How Quickly Should A Top Get Hard?

[Inception]

Quick "pump & dumps" don't interest me. Even if it is something anon I enjoy taking my time to please a guy. If it obvious that he is high on drugs I will probably pass - usually you can tell from their body temperature - too cold and it is because they are stoned. But I have done drunk guys and they can take time, but with a drunk top they are sometimes more likely willing to do stuff they wouldn't when sober - like just stick it in bare instead of fumbling with a condom. I do love to suck cock and even with a soft or semi hard cock a a nice wet blow can make a guy feel good. You can spend time sucking his balls too and maybe work your way down into his asshole as well - most guys love that. The only problem with that is when doing that to some guys you walk a thin line between getting them hard and "oh no I'm shooting already."

[pisstopper]

As a top, I find the idea that I'm going to walk in hard to a hook up after driving across town, carrying a bagful of requested gear I've assembled at the last minute and now have to put on, struggling to find parking with no guidance, navigating an unfamiliar building, and lord knows what else completely fucking ridiculous no matter how horned up I am.

Hard in less than 5? You better be hot, really hot. You better look like those grainy photos from five years ago in your profile. You better suck dick and do it well. You better kiss and show me you know what to do with your hands. You better be able to open your mouth and have something sexy to say. You want instant already hard dicks? Go bend over in a bathhouse or club somewhere. I'm not fucking Domino's.

If you want instant rigidity, grab a dildo. If you want cum from another man it's time for a little human interaction no matter how fleeting it may be

[Passivenick]

A top can take as long as he likes, if he doesn't get hard enough to fuck me then i consider my self a worthless failure for not satisfying him

[CaliSmoker]

Piss topper! I couldn't have said it better or more concisely myself.

"I'm not fucking Domino's." YO! YES!

[Cum-UnityCumDump]

I’m only going with the last voting option because there was not another option available.

As a cumdump bottom, I don’t focus on pressuring tops to get hard. If they’re hard and are looking to dump a load into a happily accepting raw hope, fantastic! 

If they’re not hard, they’re not hard. 

I am bothered by the expectations some bottoms put on tops to perform. I’m even more so upset by bottoms getting upset with tops should the interaction deviate from their expectations. 

Y’all ain’t gonna get the cum you are hoping for by making guys feel bad. 

The point of bottoming for guys is to help them unload stress, not add to it. 

[Kimberley]

 

I prefer that they come in immediately with a boner because I'm often already laying down doggy on the couch to get fucked anonymously and blindfolded, but when i suck it has to be within 1 - 2 minutes. hate sucking for 5 minutes and his dick isn't hard yet

[CumBustion]

I’ve had my fare share of Tops that couldn’t get hard. Sometimes it was performance anxiety, whiskey dick/coke dick/Tina dick, age, or whatever reason his fuck meat just wasn’t cooperating. Barring any outside influences from drinking or party favors, taking a break usually helps, especially if it’s not a pump and dump type of sesh. I had a sugar daddy, mid-60s, that took a while to get it up (30-60 min) even with his blue pill. I’d just take it slow with him, lots of massages, manual and oral stimulation, body contact, tons of dirty talk, and maybe porn playing in the back ground. Even while we fucked, he’d occasionally go soft so I’d dismount and go back to oral and hands. He was always super grateful  with my patience with him.

Having a Top that can be rock hard as soon as his pants drops is always welcome, but it isn’t always the case. 

[YourNoLimitsBottom]

On 12/13/2013 at 1:57 PM, rawTOP said:

What if it took the top 5 or 10 minutes?

That's five to ten minutes more of perfecting my craft. 😉

Seriously, I've seen variation in time and never took offense or been turned off. Hell, it becomes a personal goal to get him hard, either for the first time or again after he has cum. What I REALLY like are the longer sessions where I can suck him hard, have him cum in my mouth or ass, then work him hard again so he can cum in me again. It's sex and it's hot, but it is also me practicing for the next sex act. I love hearing from a top when they are surprised I was able to get them hard again so quickly (and I also love when they show their appreciation).

All guys are different, some of us get hard when we take a breath (as in get hard pretty much instantly), some of us take a little longer, some of us need some inspiration. I enjoy helping with that inspirational journey 😊 so it's all good with me.

[wbekk85]

putting a time limit on when a top should get hard can ruin the mood. performance anxiety. i say enjoy getting him hard. it can be fun.

[funpozbottom]

For me, it depends on location and position. If I'm in bed with someone I will continue to suck for as long as he let me. On the other hand, If I'm kneeling on a cold concrete floor at a bathhouse, if you're not even hard by the time my knees start to ache, then I'm going to have to get up and move around.