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I'm poz now and that's the choice you make if you get into this (though there is PrEP) but I have a sex life now I only fantasized about until my late twenties. I haven't looked back. You need to decide what you want, though. A strong relationship is a great thing and you're not obviously going to be able to hold on to the one you have if you go down this road.

Personally, my only regret is not barebacking from the age of 16.

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im in a good relationship but the sex is a bit boring.

It doesn't make sense to me to expect that one person will satisfy ALL my sexual needs. If you have a good relationship going concentrate on all the other aspects of the relationship and leave aside the sex.

I constantly look at bb porn and dream of taking anon loads and being the group pass around cumdump.

What should I do?

Unfortunately right now there's no way to have "Safe anon sex". So you have to find ways of satisfying your needs in "safer" ways or sometimes you may take some risks.

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Talk to your man, and see how he feels about opening your relationship. I was scared to do it, but now my husband looks for guys to breed my hole.

You are going to end up taking loads. You just need to figure out how to make it work in your relationship or else this may not be the relationship for you.

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After lots of conversation over months my husband and I decided a some months ago to open up our relationship more fully. I went on PrEP and we worked out our rules: must know where you are, can't interfere with "us time," no emotional attachments outside, etc. It's been a definite improvement for both of us.

Talking honestly is hard and it took us months to get there, but I encourage you to start the conversation. Have you asked him what he wants and if he's happy, lately?

If you're HIV negative and want to stay negative, I strongly encourage you to look into starting PrEP. (Your insurance WILL cover it.) And you should agree to get tested regularly (every 3-6 months) for all the other STDs. Oh, and you have been vaccinated against Hepatitis A and B, right?

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Thanks for the advice guys. The relationship is great but he won't ever allow us to bb, even with PrEP.

I think I just need a strong Daddy to own my hole and find a guy who will accept my sexual lifestyle for what it is.

I want a Daddy who will find guys to breed me and be proud of how many loads I'm taking.

I'm a gym fanatic, been on steroids for years and fantasise nothing more then having my muscle ass shared with everyone, clearly I'm extremely slutty.

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I would luv to find a nice horny slutty guy that I can care for but that I can also share with other tops... Would luv to organize gangbangs and look for tops to breed him. But besides that it would have to be someone I can also do the normal bf stuff with...

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Hey, musclepupcumdump! If you REALLY LOVE your man, then keep the sex between the two of you. If you feel that your love can be directed elsewhere, then start being that cumdump!!! What do you want more: to be a cumdump or to be your man's lover? The SWEET BARE LOVE of MANY hot men can be VERY rewarding. Of course, only you can decide the course of your sexual fate. Let us know what you decide!!! 

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I'm in a relationship right now where it was getting to the point of what you're dealing with. But our roles were switched. I had been recently been cheated on and didn't want an open relationship because I was scared, however my boyfriend loves group, anon, and slutty sex. So he talked to me about how he wants to add people and have slutty hot sex again and while at first the idea made me extremely uncomfortable. I turned the idea over in my mind a million times because I love him enough and want him to be happy so I decided that it would be fine considering I love that kind of sex as well but had never had it while in a relationship.

 

Our one rule is that we don't play separately, we always include each other. We haven't gotten around to adding anyone or going to any parties or anything like that quite yet, but just the fact that he was willing to bring up that issue and I was willing to put myself out of my usual relationship comfort zone and try something new (that I'm actually really looking forward to now, can't wait to be topped by a group of guys and know he's one of them) changed everything for the better because it showed how much we care about each other and it brought us closer together!

 

And if you want my honest opinion I'd say if your guy doesn't love you enough to try something out of his comfort zone or even give it some thought then either he's scared and it needs to be presented in a different way, or you deserve someone who loves you more that isn't going to just put his foot down and say no to something that you clearly need to feel satisfied and happy.

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I don't think we need to judge the bf too harshly. The problem isn't that one of them is right, and the other is wrong. The problem is that a pass-around cumdump and a safe-only monogamous guy aren't sexually compatible. Musclepupcumdump will be happier if he finds a top who would love to whore him out to date, and there are plenty of monogamously oriented bottoms who would love to have an exclusive relationship with his partner. 

 

The problem is thinking of your relationship as "good" when it isn't sexually satisfying to you. That's one of the most important things to get right in a long-term commitment. 

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My point was more aimed toward the fact that the person you're in love with should mean more than just the sex (not saying it's not important, it obviously is extremely important). If it's approached in the right way and talked about and expressed as something that is needed then there's usually a common ground or some compromises can be worked out rather than just saying "no, absolutely not." And who knows maybe in this situation there isn't. But I never would have thought that I'd be in a relationship where I was excited to have that pass-around cumdump slutty group sex with my partner. I'm naturally a very jealous person, yet here I am in the best relationship I've ever been in.

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