Sex with a connection vs sex without a connection

[freshxtop5]

Recently been really horny lately and had some hookups through grindr while some of my friends with benefits are on the mend. Usually when hook up with them I am good for a week or so, but with these more recent ones it hasn't calmed the horn-dog in me down one bit. And jacking off is pretty boring at this point too. I think it's because I have a great sexual connection with certain people that calms me down from a sexual high vs just getting off without the connection being there. How do you guys feel about sex with a connection vs sex without it?

[lvbbcumnhole]

Yeah, there definitely has to be a connection in order to quell the fire in the loins.  I've hooked up with guys that just didn't do it for me and I end up searching with no luck sometimes.  But once I do find someone that I do connect with I keep them in mind, if they are available at the time.

[freshxtop5]

Great I am glad it isn't just me.

[NLbear]

I have a few regulars but there's only one FB that I have a connection with and have been meeting for quite some time now. The others are good to take care of the urge of the moment (mine and theirs) but I'm usually left wanting more. When he leaves though I feel fully satisfied and I'm good to go without. For a few days...LOL. It helps that he wants it to be great for me too and isn't just looking for a hole get off in. He takes pride in making me orgasm by just fucking me. And he does that a lot LOL.

[Guest BBBoyfromTN]

It's weird cause that happens to me. There's two guys I have feelings for and I don't know why, but we have really deep connections and talk about everything and have long deep intense fuck sessions. The first is the now 19 year old straight construction worker I've talked about a few times. The other is the now 22 year old bisexual mix race hustler/escort I've talked about a few times too. I've let both of the, spend the night, something I just never do, and have talked with them about so many personal aspects of my life too, and they've done that too. I guess it's because I see so much of myself in them and they went down paths I could have. Yeah, the sex is super amazing but it's also not just about sex...it's a connection. I could see being in a relationship with them, even though with the construction worker that's not realistic as he has a fiancé and a kid. But the thing is, after sex with them I'm satisfied, contented. I don't want stil more sex like I do after an anon fuck. I can only guess it's because I feel an emotional fulfillment along with a sexual fulfillment. 

[Guest Upstateguy518]

I think sex with a connection is more powerful. Even if you fuck a stranger in the same exact way, Achieve the same satisfaction in the climax, it just isn't the same. I think having that connection, that emotional bond, just makes it a deeper experience.

[chipygmalion80]

Both.  There's chemistry sex (I don't mean drugs, I mean the chemistry b/w you) and the "fill t he need", literally to fill

Seems guys agree.  Fire in the loins until great, long sex gets it out of your system ... for a few days .  I have fuck buds that get the fire out of my loins for sure, like others.

 But if I'm just so horny that I cannot think and my fuck buds aren't around then I just don't need a connection.  What I need is a hole or dick.  It's the "feel relieved" thing, drop a load off kind of thing, get back to the day.  Otherwise my day gets ruined looking for some connection and it's just not there at that moment when I'm horniest.

[Guest FinalDL2021]

When I was younger I didn't care that much, just  having sex with another man was a big enough thrill. Now, looking back on some of my past experiences. The whole ritual of a man making a pass at me, my accepting, then making arraignments to meet for a drink, before moving onto sex, seemed to be the memories that get me the most hard.

[Ozpig]

For me there is always a connection - when a cock is plugged into my butt. That is the only connection I care about. Probably why I don't even care if I don't see the top who is fucking me or know their names etc - I just want their cock and seed in me.

[Guest Memphian]

On 3/30/2018 at 4:00 PM, Upstateguy518 said:

I think sex with a connection is more powerful. Even if you fuck a stranger in the same exact way, Achieve the same satisfaction in the climax, it just isn't the same. I think having that connection, that emotional bond, just makes it a deeper experience.

Well, I'm bi, and this has definitely been my experience with women.  When I was divorced after a 20+ year marriage you would think I would love to play the field.  I had a few hookups with women who I knew, including some 20 years younger than I, but with whom there was no emotional connection.  It was unsatisfying on some level.  I had nothing to talk about with the young ones because we had nothing in common.  With older women, they tend to have expectations after and I just want them out once I nut.  I honestly would rather jerk off that put up with the complications.  

I've never had a romantic interest in a man, not have I ever hooked up with someone I knew outside of cruising for sex.  I have had some regular fuck buddies, but I find I often get tired of that.  I am at a point now where random anon sex is what I crave.  I've actually turned down former regulars because I craved the thrill of a new, anon guy.  There are certain regulars though who it's worth seeing again a few times because after the first couple of encounters we do know more about what turns each other on and the sex can get better.  

I'm not against having a "connection" with a guy on an emotional or romantic level, but I've just never had those feelings.  Well, I've got an emotional connection to a couple of my best male friends in some way, but I have no interest in sex with them.  

I don't think there is any right or wrong position on this.  Whatever works for the people involved.

 

 

[Guest]

There's gotta be a connection for me. Mental as well as physical - and, with a few men in my life, even spiritual. Sharing a wavelength that makes me feel like he and I are the only beings on the planet, and we're flying.

Otherwise, I'm happy just to blow a few loads with nasty porn and call it a day.

[Guest]

I don't need a connection I need your cock inside me breeding me. I'm not here to meet mr right. I'm a hole for your use.

[Guest Upstateguy518]

On 6/25/2018 at 8:15 PM, Memphian said:

Well, I'm bi, and this has definitely been my experience with women.  When I was divorced after a 20+ year marriage you would think I would love to play the field.  I had a few hookups with women who I knew, including some 20 years younger than I, but with whom there was no emotional connection.  It was unsatisfying on some level.  I had nothing to talk about with the young ones because we had nothing in common.  With older women, they tend to have expectations after and I just want them out once I nut.  I honestly would rather jerk off that put up with the complications.  

I've never had a romantic interest in a man, not have I ever hooked up with someone I knew outside of cruising for sex.  I have had some regular fuck buddies, but I find I often get tired of that.  I am at a point now where random anon sex is what I crave.  I've actually turned down former regulars because I craved the thrill of a new, anon guy.  There are certain regulars though who it's worth seeing again a few times because after the first couple of encounters we do know more about what turns each other on and the sex can get better.  

I'm not against having a "connection" with a guy on an emotional or romantic level, but I've just never had those feelings.  Well, I've got an emotional connection to a couple of my best male friends in some way, but I have no interest in sex with them.  

I don't think there is any right or wrong position on this.  Whatever works for the people involved.

 

 

Couldn't agree more. I've hooked up with a few women recently for one night stands and that was fine but it was just sex. I was satisfied sexually but not emotionally. But then I had a recent fling with a woman I was friends with and it was some cloud nine shit. It really does feel so much better when you have that connection. 

[Davidc]

I’m always wanting to go with new partners , it’s the thrill of the chase and conquest for me.

[Ozpig]

On ‎6‎/‎26‎/‎2018 at 12:46 PM, SBB1984 said:

I don't need a connection I need your cock inside me breeding me. I'm not here to meet mr right. I'm a hole for your use.

me exactly the same!