Older BB versatile guys: When to top and when to bottom? Any preference?

[Ingulphus]

At least in the San Francisco area, older men are considered hot as both tops and bottoms. I've got a good number of younger, regular fuck buddies from BBRT who enjoy me as a bottom, and with the magical aid of trimix, I'm now gaining further attention as a versatile top. I've had more, and better, sex in my 50's than in all of my earlier life, and although it would be fun to go back in time with my current experience and self-confidence, I'm very comfortable with who I am. As Tallulah said, "If I could live my life all over again, I'd make the same mistakes again, only faster!"

[layedback]

Not all guys like twinks. I have met many younger guys who like to top, who are into older bottoms. I have had some of them turn me down because I am only in my late 30's, and still youngish looking, and they want to fuck guys older than me. QUOTE]

I agree, Inception. Twinks have never done much for me, even when I was basically one myself. I've always preferred more mature guys, or at least those who seem more mature to me. I'm basically a bottom, but I do enjoying topping if the chemistry's right. Once again, it really comes to down to the other person with me. I do have a particular type of guy that I like, but personality's key, as well. I don't care how hot a guy is, if he's arrogant or rude or irretrievably stupid, I'm not going to be interested. I do find that I'm topping more as I get older, but it's probably due to the fact that I'm far more comfortable with my sexuality. With age comes liberation. Once you're liberated, you can enjoy (and appreciate) things you didn't in your youth. The last guy I topped was in my general age range. Physically he wasn't my ideal, but I went for it because of the sleaze factor. I'd been at a party he and his partner threw. I stayed after the party, and while he cleaned up the kitchen, his partner fucked me. I stayed the night, sleeping in their bed. About 2AM, I awoke to find his hand on my cock. He whispered that he wanted me to fuck him. His partner, who just fucked me a few hours before, was asleep on the other side me. I rolled over, lubed my cock with spit and slid it in. We were trying to be quiet, but the partner awoke and started fingering my ass to let me know that he was aware of what was happening. He didn't say a word because he wanted his boyfriend to think he was getting away with something. The scenario really turned me on. It was even better because I been particularly slutty recently and had no idea whether or not I'd converted. I dumped a huge load in the guy without even asking.

[bbplayfulcat]

I'm versatile and 56.I set no agenda.If the party I'm at needs a top,I top,and I never have trouble with someone wanting to get inside my bubble butt. In fact,i've been asked to bottom more then top lately.Just quit thinking about it and take all you can get.With age comes choices that the young creamies don't have.In sex ,experience does count.

[RawPozLust]

I don't accept generalizations about older tops and younger bottoms. I've always preferred guys over 40 as tops or bottoms, and I still do now that I'm 50.

Having said that, it's true that I have come to enjoy topping now more than I did years ago, when I was mostly a bottom. But sexual chemistry is more important to me than age in determining who is going to fuck whom. The only thing better is flipping and swapping!

[colletonguy]

Maybe it's respect the elders thing I was brought up with. I'm versatile but usually only top guys younger then me and bottom for guys older then me. Around my age I've met one buddy I used to flip fuck with. Now that was hot.

[slowfuck]

As a generalisation I prefer to top guys a lot younger than me, and bottom for any older. Middling guys either or both.

However I can't really say It is that simple. If the guy turns me on then anything is possible :-)

[PhoenixGeoff]

I'm 40, so I guess that qualifies me as "older" now. I'm versatile too.

Basically, I love being versatile because that frees me to get into just about any kind of sex. So if I find a man I'm really attracted to, I don't have to worry about what kind of sex we'll get into. I get a lot more focused on the guy I'm with and adapt to doing whatever. Not too many hangups here about having to do one thing or another.

That's probably one reason it's so easy to be open about my HIV status too. I'll accept pretty much any kind of restrictions on activities from guys who are neg, other than using a condom. Which includes no fucking at all, if that's what he wants.

[Guest Matias47]

As a more or less mature bottom, I'm with Belfast. I think men-bottoms or tops-are more masculine as they age.

The problem is supply and demand. There are probably five or six bottoms/versatiles for every 100% Top at the saunas on any given night.

Tops can be more selective, and, I'm sure will go with a young twink more often than not.

Now that I've been around the block a few times in life, I tend to rely on a stable of fuckbuddies to meet our mutual needs--his to breed, me to get his cumload.

I don't take anonymous loads that often, but I can assure you that if I (or any other bottom) bends over a fuck bench, or is in a darkened maze or a sling, somebody with a cock is going to load me up real quick. Tops just want to seed as many holes as they can. I think an inviting, hot fuckhole trumps walking around all night looking for the perfect twink.

Bottom to top ratio is the same at clubs here Los Angeles as well.

[JohnnieB]

i really don't have a deciding factor. i am mostly a bottom but occasionally, I need to greedily pound a hole.

[Bottom Jim]

I have found that as an older bottom I get my share of all ages. At some bathhouses there are what I call models twinks who just want to walk around and be seen. I had one young Latin guy come into me room. He fucked me and blew his load deep in my ass. After he said he liked older bottoms. No drama . Just a bare hole he could put his raw dick in and leave his load

[PERVERSATILE]

Sexually active and under age in a small southern town

I had few choices and opportunities,

35 years later and in a much better zip code:

I currently find myself

wallerin' amidst

a cornucopia

of libidinous sexual excess:

caused not by the availability

of more choices

or even my voracious sexual appetites;

But because of the Men who taught me

to see past the self manufactured filters of:

Age-

Race-

Size-

Position-

Status-

To eliminate Limitations

To recognize Opportunities

to give and

receive pleasure.

While this is an easy lesson to teach,

often it is a Hard One to learn:

To say my Mentors were:

older, wiser, patient,

lecherous "very hands on"

-would be too obvious,

but maybe

some day some one some where

will say the same of me,

"Too Obvious

[bearbandit]

I'm 40, so I guess that qualifies me as "older" now. I'm versatile too.

"Older" at 40 - now there's depressing! Especially when you're closer to 60 than 50 as I am!

I find my choices limited more by "will the viagra work?" than anything else - HIV related diabetes hit that nerve so my hardons are unreliable. When the viagra works it works very, very well, except I can't cum till about six hours later. If it doesn't work, I'm happy to take it over and over. Sometime in the next couple of days my dick will catch up and I'll have one hell of a wank. Or else run a D/s type scene where I make him really hurt himself while wanking - in that situation I think my apparent disinterest is more of a turn n for him ("what the fuck do I have to do to get this guy to even touch me?")

Yes there are times I'd love to go back to, to have the energy to do that again, but I've still got the memories, if not the photos (no digital cameras then).

[Bottom Jim]

When I go to Steamworks in Chicago I get a number of Latin guys who are early to late 20's all of them tops and all love to bare back. Once they know you will take it raw and let them cum inside you they love your ass. Age never an issue

[hungry_hole]

i am mostly a bottom but occasionally, I need to greedily pound a hole.

It's a big turn-on for me to get fucked and bred by another bottom I guess because most bottoms who occasionally top do it to relieve themselves just before going home so the action is quick where the bottom who's fucking is focused on shooting his load.

But I was reading about a bottom who doesn't like getting fucked by a guy unless he is a "total top", no exceptions. So different from my experience because I would never refuse a fuck just because the top tells me that he also likes getting fucked.

[hornybottom]

I have always been vers, loving both to top and bottom, and when I topped to me age never mattered, and when I bottomed it was always the same....age to me was only a number. Even in my relationships it never mattered, I had both older and younger partners. Now I find myself in a situation that has turned me from being that vers gay man to being a 100% bottom gay man.....I am no longer able to top due to medical issues and I am unable to take any type of aid that will able to help me perform. My problem is that I am having a hard time finding either a younger or older top willing to let me bottom for them. I don't understand why that if they only want a hole to use why it is so important that their bottom attain an erection. Maybe someone will help me to understand.