how to: the conversion?

[BootmanLA]

On 9/17/2020 at 11:17 PM, jxnycx said:

hello, 

we still have yet to do it. the urge inside me grows every day to be pozzed by him. we talk about it a lot while fucking but he hasn't gone off his meds. 

any advice would be greatly appreciated 😇

OK, here's some advice (which, standard caveat, is not binding arbitration).

You were discussing doing this in early June, and yet your partner has still not gone off his meds. That suggests, to me at least, that he's turned on by the talk but not ready to take that step. I would not suggest forcing the issue.

Why not? Because something's holding him back, and you need to get to the root of that (and understand what he's actually feeling) before you take the irrevocable step of converting. Imagine, for a moment, that he's turned on by the fantasy but is horrified, deep down, at being responsible for that kind of result. It may be that he'd feel enormous guilt over actually making you poz, for instance.

If that's the case, and if you force the issue, it's entirely possible that he'd end up breaking off with you because he can't handle the guilt. Since you're looking at being pozzed by him as a means of strengthening the bond between you, it would be ironic if in fact it pushed you apart - and then you'd be poz WITHOUT the bond you were hoping to strengthen.

It seems, based on your post, that you like the closeness and intimacy of a relationship. So, assume for a moment you get pozzed and you split up over his guilt. While reactions in the gay community are better than they once were, nobody can honestly say that the dating pool doesn't shrink, in some cases significantly, if your HIV status changes - look at all the "Neg UB2" profiles. 

This isn't to say that if he decides to pursue this, of his own volition, you should discourage him. But if you are looking for how to convince him to do it while not understanding completely where his head is at, you could torpedo your whole relationship. Proceed with caution.