Nervous about hooking up

[Guest bbtop734]

I'm a bi top that absolutely loves the idea of barebacking, and dumping my load into a willing ass. I've done it a few times throughout my life, even though I want to do it every day. When I find someone on one of the various apps or websites, I start to get really nervous, so I either cum and back out, or it ends up not working out for another reason. The last time I met up with someone was over a year ago, and they were face down ass up - but I couldn't get hard due to unreasonable worry.

How can I fix this? All I want to do is cum in a guy!

[cyberdolphnow]

Accept for yourself that it's OK to  hook up and top other men. Accept that your human need and normal function in life is to fuck and inject your cum/ DNA  deep inside another man's body. Work yourself up to it. 

 

Then don't  jerk off or cum for days prior to hooking up.

 

 

[BlackDude]

Hard to say without more info. Sometimes we can build up a moment so much in our mind, we get anxiety when it finally happens. 

[valldelxeno]

It obviously depends on what exactly is worrying you, if it's social anxiety then socialising more in general would help, if it's a body issue then self acceptance combined with the gym could go far, if it's to do with it being a dude then that's a pure self acceptance thing. Either way a few visits to the psychologist would likely not go amiss (I am of the opinion that way more people should see psychologists than actually and currently do) 

Oh, and if it's worries about not being able to get it up, viagra could help. Insert all the warnings about do not mix viagra with poppers and be careful with mixing with other medications or heart conditions etc 

Edited April 14, 2021 by valldelxeno

[PigBoyDallas]

Performance anxiety happens. You psyche yourself up and can psyche yourself out. Go into it with no expectations. Focus on how good it’s going to feel to cum inside that guy. Focus more on your own pleasure, not theirs. Be selfish...it’s OK. Like someone else said don’t JO for a while. Watch some bareback porn and see how much the guys are into barebacking. You’ve got a beautiful dick and I’d want you bare and would take your loads.

[LetsPOZBreed]

Also, try not to get too much into the details with your potential mates on the apps/websites.  Overdescribing it sets too many expectations.  Just cover the basics (i.e. ask them to wear a jockstrap or blindfold) and set up a time and place.  If there's too much back and forth past that, I think you might get anxious again.

[PupLucca]

Relax, don’t force it. If you’re afraid of becoming poz get on prep. If not just go fuck all the holes you want and have fun. 

[verslut]

Stop jacking off don't hold your dick while using grindr for starters.

[Guest biqueerious]

So relatable. This is me since the pandemic. From experience face down ass up isn't great for nerves. Sometimes it's nice to have a chat, hell even say you're nervous and want to take it slow, do some kissing get sucked a bit or suck too, explore the bottom's body. Before you know it you can't wait to get your dick inside that hole.