Bottoms outnumbering tops

[JamesL100]

4 hours ago, anonCUMtainer said:

This is why if I had one WISH for the gay-community it would be for bottoms to top other bottoms. Especially the bottoms that also have average and above size cocks.  Please do not cage those - share them!!

Would you be willing to put this plan into action and fuck other btms then?

[PozToxVersPig]

On 6/14/2021 at 11:42 AM, LetsPOZBreed said:

It's not like we walk around our respective cities with our position preferences plastered on our bodies (well, not all of us, anyway....).  If we were purely dependent on finding mates in public, then we'd resort to just asking - only to find the statistics about the same as our online experiences.

 

This actually isn't quite true.  Prior to the internet, gays were flagging with hankies in left/right back pocket/arm to signal not just top/bottom but also interest in certain sexual activities (fisting = red, watersports = yellow, etc.; left side = top, right side = bottom).  I know this comment is quite old, but when I saw it - it made me think did the hankie code even have a notion of versatile?  I don't think so.  Did it?

And if two tops bumped in to each other, did they negotiate or switch the side of the hankie or just assume they weren't compatible and move on?  Again, wasn't alive at that time but I don't know there was a lot of talking where these hookups took place.

[NWUSHorny]

We also need to standardize the definition of top, bottom and versatile. Saturday was glow bracelet night at one of my local baths, where select your color based on position, blue for top, red for bottom, green for versatile, yellow for oral only, and purple for none of the above. At one point there were several guys paired up and fucking and sucking in one of the orgy areas, a guy with a rock hard super thick cock came up to one of the couples that were engaged in cock sucking who were both wearing green bracelets and tried to join them, which is something that is almost unheard of here, he literally started slapping his big dick on the shoulder of the guy who was sucking cock. When the cock sucker suggested he use his ass while he sucked the other guys cock, the guy with the blue glow bracelet got extremely upset, because doesn't fuck. You have to wonder what his definition of too is, and why he thinks it is offensive that someone he approached signalling versatile would offer his hole to fuck.

[PozToxVersPig]

1 hour ago, NWUSHorny said:

purple for none of the above

Uh - what do the "none of the above" people do?  Sounds sad.

[Hungryforbbc]

12 hours ago, anonCUMtainer said:

AMEN. The apps and dating websites only put this front-and-centre. Well said.

This is why if I had one WISH for the gay-community it would be for bottoms to top other bottoms. Especially the bottoms that also have average and above size cocks.  Please do not cage those - share them!!

As a hung bottom I am not completely opposed to this idea but I also am leaning into the role of total sub and not really using my substantial package. Hey I did start a thread on hung bottoms lol 

[Luxbrit]

Sadly it’s fact of ( gay ) life 🤣

[NWUSHorny]

21 hours ago, PozToxVersPig said:

Uh - what do the "none of the above" people do?  Sounds sad.

Sadly the "none of the above" purple bracelets are frequently a plurality, their are always far more oral only and "none of the above" than the combined top/bottom/versatile. My observation is they are there to:

Dance the "No Mating Dance"

March in the "Blue Ball Parade"

Cockblock

Slut shame

Socialize

Tell us how accepting they are 

Share their knowledge on the 1001 ways to have great "sex" with out using a dick

 

 

[PozToxVersPig]

33 minutes ago, NWUSHorny said:

Tell us how accepting they are 

Share their knowledge on the 1001 ways to have great "sex" with out using a dick

UGH!  I don't understand attending an event of this nature if it's not your jam or your opposed to it fundamentally.  I still have PTSD from a Cumunion I dunno 8 years ago, and I was hanging with a group of guys that weekend, we arrived on time (it was at Steamworks Seattle), and we were on the cusp of the dark area and started fucking.

Some male-Karen comes around the corner with his friend and starts telling us how we should be using protection (I remember him reaching in to the wall-container of condoms) and telling us we were being irresponsible.  I was so taken aback and thought they were joking.  Nope, they legit were not joking.  I've had two other very strange and out of place encounters like that over the decades.....boo.

[NWUSHorny]

1 hour ago, PozToxVersPig said:

UGH!  I don't understand attending an event of this nature if it's not your jam or your opposed to it fundamentally.  I still have PTSD from a Cumunion I dunno 8 years ago, and I was hanging with a group of guys that weekend, we arrived on time (it was at Steamworks Seattle), and we were on the cusp of the dark area and started fucking.

Some male-Karen comes around the corner with his friend and starts telling us how we should be using protection (I remember him reaching in to the wall-container of condoms) and telling us we were being irresponsible.  I was so taken aback and thought they were joking.  Nope, they legit were not joking.  I've had two other very strange and out of place encounters like that over the decades.....boo.

I've had that happen at CumUnion parties Seattle, Vancouver and Portland. That and announcing "I don't fuck" loudly enough for the entire club to hear it, when entering any crowded play area. At least stay the fuck out of the group play spaces if you don't fuck or want to see fucking. I think that is a big reasons most CumUnions are pretty close to sexless here. I really think some of them get their satisfaction from keeping other guys from having sex. 

I really have PTSD from going to events with nonsexual themes held at Portland bathhouses, I have been told by multiple attendees at spa and massage nights that my proclivities are not welcome at those events, period. I've never encountered anything like that at a bathhouse or sex club outside the sexually "accepting" PNW.

[TaKinGDeePanal]

On 10/9/2024 at 6:52 AM, PozToxVersPig said:

UGH!  I don't understand attending an event of this nature if it's not your jam or your opposed to it fundamentally.  I still have PTSD from a Cumunion I dunno 8 years ago, and I was hanging with a group of guys that weekend, we arrived on time (it was at Steamworks Seattle), and we were on the cusp of the dark area and started fucking.

Some male-Karen comes around the corner with his friend and starts telling us how we should be using protection (I remember him reaching in to the wall-container of condoms) and telling us we were being irresponsible.  I was so taken aback and thought they were joking.  Nope, they legit were not joking.  I've had two other very strange and out of place encounters like that over the decades.....boo.

Apart from devil's dicks, the only use for a condom is so that you can keep your vibrating egg from absorbing things it shouldn't when it's lodged in your ass and on maximum setting ...

[Erik62]

On 10/8/2024 at 4:37 AM, PozToxVersPig said:

This actually isn't quite true.  Prior to the internet, gays were flagging with hankies in left/right back pocket/arm to signal not just top/bottom but also interest in certain sexual activities (fisting = red, watersports = yellow, etc.; left side = top, right side = bottom).  I know this comment is quite old, but when I saw it - it made me think did the hankie code even have a notion of versatile?  I don't think so.  Did it?

And if two tops bumped in to each other, did they negotiate or switch the side of the hankie or just assume they weren't compatible and move on?  Again, wasn't alive at that time but I don't know there was a lot of talking where these hookups took place.

It certainly did. We never had 5 or 10 hankies flying but our "main preference" was indicated. A lot of us would flip, to ensure each got their desires met. An old adage way back when,  now forgotten but it was very TRUE. A brilliant fister was only that good because he had started being fisted & new exactly what his current bottom was looking for / needed. Versatility was very much a common theme. I have since my early days, in the 80s, always been a 100% bottom, but before CA took my seeds away, out of courtesy / respect I TOPPED many guys. Not my thing but, nobody complained. Today the markers are too set: you are either Top OR Bottom.