Which is hotter: Open relationships/cuckolding or cheating?

[PozBearWI]

23 minutes ago, jd13 said:

I'm in an open relationship, but I have absolutely no problem with getting fucked by guys in monogamous relationships, whether with a man or woman, on the downlow. I do it all the time. I admit I get a thrill out of it when a guy is cheating with me, even though another more sensible part of me thinks that I am participating in his unethical actions. But all too often I can't resist.

Indeed.  There certainly is a school of thought that if it weren't for guys like us, the married guys wouldn't have guys with whom they can cheat.  But I've always thought that was a lame claim.  If not us it'll be someone else.  

We aren't the one cheating.  And honestly it is up to the one cheating to decide if cheating works better than candor.  My mate knows I fuck around, and I know he does too.  And that's OK.  The whole "controlling another" thing really kinda sucks, whether it is us owning another human, or demanding that our mates only play with us.  (and fuck, really, how is that fun?).  

[jd13]

Well sometimes I can take that unethicality to a different level. There's a guy I've been chatting to at my gym for several months now. He's in a monogamous gay relationship but we're obviously into each other and we've both acknowledged that. Several times he's 'caught' me in the changing rooms (he times it well), and I've made sure each time to continue our conversations while stripping off naked. Noticed on each occasion, he's sat down, with an obvious boner, while I'm shaking my ass at him if I have to turn around.

I really shouldn't be doing this tbh, but yeah on some level I kinda feel like... I'm working on this guy. I'll make it happen. And it's a bit of a thrill to be steadily corrupting and tempting him. I really fucking shouldn'r but... hey, I am who I am. I want him to fuck me 😉 

[PozBearWI]

9 minutes ago, jd13 said:

Well sometimes I can take that unethicality to a different level. There's a guy I've been chatting to at my gym for several months now. He's in a monogamous gay relationship but we're obviously into each other and we've both acknowledged that. Several times he's 'caught' me in the changing rooms (he times it well), and I've made sure each time to continue our conversations while stripping off naked. Noticed on each occasion, he's sat down, with an obvious boner, while I'm shaking my ass at him if I have to turn around.

I really shouldn't be doing this tbh, but yeah on some level I kinda feel like... I'm working on this guy. I'll make it happen. And it's a bit of a thrill to be steadily corrupting and tempting him. I really fucking shouldn'r but... hey, I am who I am. I want him to fuck me 😉 

His timing it well can't be an accident...

[jd13]

24 minutes ago, PozBearWI said:

His timing it well can't be an accident...

It isn't. He sees me going downstairs from the gym to changing rooms, knowing I will get naked before putting trunkies on ready to jump in the pool, steam room or sauna, and he follows me. I sometimes catch his eye as I am leaving, specifically as an invitation. I am getting close to saying, when completely naked in front of him, 'By the way, it's yours if you want it...'

I'm gonna have him

There's another guy on Scruff who got in contact with me. Monogamous relationship etc. Wants to cheat but needs convincing. I have been doing that work, encouraging him to cheat, with me or someone else. He has been actively participating and loving it. My last message to him yesterday was:

"You really should block me. I get off on corrupting monogamous guys like you."

...which is probably a deeper truth about me than all that earlier spiel about ethicality.

I'm gonna have this one too.

I don't fucking care.

Edited March 19 by jd13

[Justaholeff]

So my bro, that I'm dating, is cool with being open...and I'm cool with the dudes I'm playing with and their statues in relationships...if they are in a monogamous relationship, I don't have anything to do with that....I'm cool with my boundaries only

[DenverBtmDude]

I think its hot when a straight type of guy is horny and wants to fuck around, Usually they are looking for some ass that they can't get at home and the fuck session is usually very aggressive as they plow your hole to bust out a built up load! Good FWB'S are the best for this!

[JeffSLmmPigDadd]

I always thought cheating was fucking hot. Whether I did it or somebody did it to me. When I was in my 20s I  with a guy and went home and we got in his bed and he tells me “oh my boyfriend is coming home you gotta go.”  I made sure I stunk it up good with my musk. At age 40 my second long-term partner cheated on me and I caught crabs. Didn't feel guilty  because the times I was at the bathhouse. At age 60, with both my long-term partners deceased, and I’m single, cheating doesn’t appeal to me as much but it’s still hot heat with cheaters heat the fuck fuck the cheaters! (To be clear, both my long-term partners were great guys and we openly went to the bathhouse occasionally or would play with someone we knew. Wasn’t as fun as cheating. 😂 )

Edited March 19 by JeffSLmmPigDadd

[stnscubb]

I have always been monogamous. I know it is unsustainable, but open relationships aren't my cup of tea either. It is like bareback sex while being on prep. Most of the pleasure comes from the risks you take to get it. That's why I am still in a monogamous relationship, but I take bare cocks all the time and my hubby doesn't suspect anything. I have even been fucked by his friends, a couple of them are poz (undetectable, unfortunately) but one of them put frozen cum in my ass as i was on the phone with my bf telling him I loved him so so much.

[Tiboer]

I was once getting fucked at a bathhouse.  The top got a call—and while still fucking me, told me it was his partner and that he had to pick it up.

He answered, had a short conversation, and ended with “Im fucking a guy at the bathhouse.  I should be home in about an hour.  love you!”

[Tiboer]

I was in an open relationship with a guy I “dated” for a short time.  At least I thought we were dating, but looking back, it became more of a FB relationship.  It was 15 years older than me and taught me a lot about sex.  He would invite guys over to watch them fuck me.  He would sit in the corner and fuck himself with his dildo collection while he got off watching me.  When the guy would come, he’d lick the top’s cock clean and then felch the cum out of my hole.  We did this a number of times.

I guess I became the cheater when I was really attracted to one of the guys who came over and he to me.   About a month later, I saw him in a drugstore.  We locked eyes and immediately knew one another.  We talked and then started hooking up on the side.  Turns out he had a partner so there was a lot of cheating going on 

[Traviscraymer]

Cheating is so much hotter.

[hntnhole]

On 3/19/2025 at 9:52 AM, jd13 said:

'By the way, it's yours if you want it...'

I don't think it's out of line for you to chat this guy up, or say things like the above.  Guys say cruisy stuff to each other all the time, and many actually mean it.  It's not like you or he is being dishonest.  

I'd put it down to being honest and up-front with him.  After all - it's his decision to make, not yours.  It's not like you're lying to the guy.  I'd buy tickets to the main event when it happens.  

[SlamBeast]

Very VERY turned on by cheating. Just knowing guys are so horny and need to fuck all the time behind their partner's back. Doesn't even have to have anything to do with me or anything. Hearing about a gay guy fucking somebody on the side... or like I had this buddy that literally was fucking 3 women, often in the same day, and they didn't know. Guys who are married (to women) and who are cheating... with other women or with guys... that gets me very boned.

[jd13]

One of the very worst things I did was back in 2014. Was seeing this fuck buddy who I knew was cheating on his bf. Didn't care, neither did he. He used to fuck me on the bed he shared with his bf. We'd meet about once every couple of weeks. Third or fourth time, he showed me a picture of his bf. Fatal mistake: I didn't let on but I knew him socially.

Next time I saw the bf out drinking, I put the moves on him. Long story short, he ended fucking me in the very same apartment - but not in the bedroom - that I had been visiting for weeks. I had both of their numbers on my phone and started meeting both of them - guy #1 at the apartment and the bf (guy #2) would come to fuck me outdoors near me - semi-regularly. This went on for two months.

Fairly abruptly, they both broke off contact and I got the sense both had blocked me. I decided not to go to that particular bar for a while. Three or four months after that, I started to go back there and I heard that they had broken up. About a year after they broke off contact, some random guy came up to me in the same bar, told me he was guy#2/the bf's best friend, and then punched me off my chair 🤣

Best punch i ever fucking took. Right in the face. Deserved it and more. Guess they had figured it out after all!

I really really shouldn't have done it but... y'know *shrugs* 🤣

Edited Thursday at 08:12 PM by jd13

[jd13]

Christ I've turned this into my bloody confession time here!! 🤣🤣🤣