Looking for advice from dominants on how to serve effectively

[TightBott7]

On 4/10/2025 at 12:38 PM, BreedingTop71 said:

Before you surrender yourself to anyone, make sure you’re offering your body and your health to the right man. Beware of fakes, beware of guys who want to take advantage of you and beware of getting yourself in trouble over someone else’s stupidity. 

Your Dom must use you thoroughly. Never ever reject him, always be available for use. Make sure he’s a reasonable man, if he likes to punch you during sex or outside the bedroom that’s fine. Just make sure he’s understands that he needs to protect you also (no punching soft tissue, kidneys or head/face). 
 

No permanent damage to you. If you’re his property, he needs to make sure you’re safe. 
 

it’s perfectly OK to walk out of a situation that can be bad for you or dangerous. NEGOTIATE WITH THE DOM, you set the limits. Not him. YOU. And then if you’re new make sure he’s knows and ask to take things slowly in the beginning. If he’s to rushed, look for someone else. If he wants to set the limits, look for someone else. If he doesn’t respect the limits you agreed, tell him to stop, leave and find someone else. 
 

MAKE SURE YOU ARE ABLE TO LEAVE WHENEVER YOU WANT at least until you know him well enough and you know you can trust him. 
 

once you trust him and know he won’t cause you permanent damage, let him use you properly. Trust is beautiful. Get on prep and if you want, ask for test results. 
 

good luck. 

I totally agree with your perspective, I would only add that I really get turned on by alpha tops that while at first they respect my limits , they gradually succeed in seducing me into submitting to having my limits pushed.

[BreedingTop71]

5 hours ago, TightBott7 said:

I totally agree with your perspective, I would only add that I really get turned on by alpha tops that while at first they respect my limits , they gradually succeed in seducing me into submitting to having my limits pushed.

Funny you said that. I’m currently working a guy who started as a top and been working him into a submissive faggot. He takes my punches now and getting fucked with just spit. We are now talking about me pissing in his cunt. Long fall from a total BBC top to a whiny faggot begging for my seed. 

[sslutty]

4 hours ago, BreedingTop71 said:

Funny you said that. I’m currently working a guy who started as a top and been working him into a submissive faggot. He takes my punches now and getting fucked with just spit. We are now talking about me pissing in his cunt. Long fall from a total BBC top to a whiny faggot begging for my seed. 

You had me at punches 🥰🥰

Nothing but respect for a Superior Alpha who takes whatever he wants from whoever he wants. 

[BreedingTop71]

1 hour ago, sslutty said:

You had me at punches 🥰🥰

Nothing but respect for a Superior Alpha who takes whatever he wants from whoever he wants. 

Good boy

[CherryCumDrop]

The thing I’ve learned about as I continue to learn to be the best sub I can be is that the fantasies I’ve had from the start of being treated roughly, being degraded and physically punished, bred, peed on or in, being spit roasted, being videoed, forgoing safe words, ignoring warning signs from anonymous hookups who turn out to be unstable, violent tendencies, homeless or just weird, these fantasies don’t usually give me much pleasure when I first experienced them, and even in the moment I’ve thought I never want that again, but then after it’s done and I think about it, the memory turns me on so much that I want to do it again, and before long, after another try or two, I start to enjoy it just like in my fantasy.  So if you go for total submission, which is what I strive for, you need to stick with it and realize you won’t become an expert overnight.  If you can manage to remain submissive and do what your dom says even if you don’t like it, that’s all they want and they’ll have a great time and you’ll feel good about that.  Also, someone said be prepared to pamper the dom in other ways also, put their drinks, take their empty glass and put it away, light their cigarettes, make sure they are comfy, ask if you can fold or hang their clothes, offer them a snack.  You are there to serve!!